Age Range for dating? ( Archived) (181)

I just looked at the profile of a man who is 62. He says his age range is 50 - 60. That makes sense to me, however, I won't approach him because he has made it clear what he wants.

You might say, go one, give it a try.

There are some who won't give the courtesy of a reply when you approach them even to say thanks but no thanks. I try to avoid putting myself in situations of rejection.

But listen to this. I wrote to a man close to my age on CS not to long ago and this was his reply to me: "I have no romantic interest in you".

Tell me men, was he too blunt, was it uncalled for or didn't it matter what he said. I sure got the message.

Look Snuggs. I have read a little about your prior situation but do not claim to know it all. Nor do I need to. Being selfish to me means allowing yourself to enjoy things that you like. If that's enjoying the company of a particular woman or going to a action movie it doesn't matter. I don't use people I don't need to and infact have been used by many women in my earlier days but I also allowed it to happen. Happiness is not a fantasy for me it a goal and I am responsible to make it happen. I have not done the best job of it but I have done better than many. I don't have major baggage or dark clouds hanging over my head, my son is independent and not on drugs or in prison and I have managed to retire without assistance from a disability check or death in the family.
You say that you have a different view than I do and that's fine. I can respect that as you and everyone else should follow there own hearts. I would just ask you to evaluate your life and be happy with it before you question mine. I am not trying to disrespect you just giving you something to think about.

Oh please U2, I am not judging you....in no way...I hope you believe that. We are just expressing who we are looking for and how we are doing it.

When I think about how you are using the word "selfish" I understand what you mean. And in all honesty, that has been a big part of my problem in that I don't feel worthy. Now before I get all mush it's one of those things I'm trying to overcome. You are lucky because you don't have the baggage, therefore, you have a free sprit to enjoy your search for someone special.

With me, I am guarded, so I take the cautious road. Someday there will be a man who will take me and the baggage. He will open the suitcase and accept what is in it. I have no doubt that when I feel accepted for who I am, even with all the crap, the crap will go down the drain and I will love him until hell freezes over.

But I'm still not going to rob the cradle cause my breasts are all dried up.

But it was a great car the Cougar.

Fair enough but when you write "We are different in that I am not selfish. I am a giver, not a taker."

I saw that as accusing. Also understand luck had very little to do with where I am or anyone else for that matter. Everyone one here good or bad are where we are as a result of many many years of choices we made. Not opinion but actions that we took. We can all look back and see that now. Enjoy your day.

jealousy like cheating isn't age related or a man/woman thing
your hubby could have just been the jealous type so if he had been the same age he could also be jealous.
It's a insecurity issue my ex was 4 years junior to me but her actions dancing and texting other men etc made me mistrust her nothing to do with our ages