I Really Struggle With This, What Are Your Views??? (128)
Doubt he was a Scammer,if he were she would know by now!
Probably just got Cold Feet!
A Scammer that doesn't try to Scam you?
Probably just got Cold Feet!
A Scammer that doesn't try to Scam you?
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i agree we are to critical and judgemental of others, calling them scammers. they are just people like us that need to vent, or need advice. they arent necessarily trying to get anything from us. we all have problems we cant seem t deal with, please take that in consideration first, but dont send money just in case
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Hi Morgan,
I dont think we can use the word "scammer" for this bloke. Probably just a married guy who was having some fun and got tense when it was becoming serious! Not a fair thing to do but definitely not a scammer.
Cheers
I dont think we can use the word "scammer" for this bloke. Probably just a married guy who was having some fun and got tense when it was becoming serious! Not a fair thing to do but definitely not a scammer.
Cheers
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Conrad73: Doubt he was a Scammer,if he were she would know by now!
Probably just got Cold Feet!
A Scammer that doesn't try to Scam you?
Hi Conrad Probably just got Cold Feet!
A Scammer that doesn't try to Scam you?
thats what i thought, but it was suggested to her he was 
i think it has got to the stage its just a word people use, if they think someone has acted in away they consider wrong 
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jdmexx: Hi Morgan,
I dont think we can use the word "scammer" for this bloke. Probably just a married guy who was having some fun and got tense when it was becoming serious! Not a fair thing to do but definitely not a scammer.
Cheers
I dont think we can use the word "scammer" for this bloke. Probably just a married guy who was having some fun and got tense when it was becoming serious! Not a fair thing to do but definitely not a scammer.
Cheers
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morgan5: me too cruel to play with someones heart, but thats life
People play with each other's hearts all the time in RL too, but it never crosses anybody's mind to call them scammers.
Same should apply here...
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it could of been possible the guy thought he was ready for a relationship but when he got the offer he wasnt ready and didnt know how to tell the lady. and just give the cold shoulder it happens!
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Laura25: People play with each other's hearts all the time in RL too, but it never crosses anybody's mind to call them scammers.
Same should apply here...
Same should apply here...
Can think of a few other terms i have used in the past 
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niceguy43: it could of been possible the guy thought he was ready for a relationship but when he got the offer he wasnt ready and didnt know how to tell the lady. and just give the cold shoulder it happens!
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morgan5:
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
That is my understanding of what a scammer is, someone who wants your money.
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sxc666: A lot of the time Morgan, rather than some handling the rejection as him/her just not being into you. It is easier to cry scammer I think.
Yep!
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morgan5: Hi tina i asked the question on the tread but nobody responded to it.
Just worries me that without all the facts judgements are made.
I have been asked for money on here, to me that is a Scammer the Mods removed the guys really quickly
Just worries me that without all the facts judgements are made.
I have been asked for money on here, to me that is a Scammer the Mods removed the guys really quickly
I think that sometimes, people may have had the same thought process as you did but, don't want to come across as a skeptic. Most everyone wants to put their best personna out there for "all" to see.
"Aw hun, you don't need a scammer"
"Aw hun, you can find better"
"He's probably a user"
That, I believe is one of the biggest reasons for failure when it comes to meeting someone on line. You see them all mushy and sympathetic on here, then find out that they have opinions and biases and other rather unpleasant qualities that you didn't see "online".
If the thread you're addressing is the one I saw, I have a feeling the guy may have been just plain shallow. The pic I saw was a woman that was nice looking but was possibly hiding something with her physique and he might have only seen the pic after some time.
(gets ready for the comments on me being cruel)
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ImInMishawaka: I think that sometimes, people may have had the same thought process as you did but, don't want to come across as a skeptic. Most everyone wants to put their best personna out there for "all" to see.
"Aw hun, you don't need a scammer"
"Aw hun, you can find better"
"He's probably a user"
That, I believe is one of the biggest reasons for failure when it comes to meeting someone on line. You see them all mushy and sympathetic on here, then find out that they have opinions and biases and other rather unpleasant qualities that you didn't see "online".
If the thread you're addressing is the one I saw, I have a feeling the guy may have been just plain shallow. The pic I saw was a woman that was nice looking but was possibly hiding something with her physique and he might have only seen the pic after some time.
(gets ready for the comments on me being cruel)
"Aw hun, you don't need a scammer"
"Aw hun, you can find better"
"He's probably a user"
That, I believe is one of the biggest reasons for failure when it comes to meeting someone on line. You see them all mushy and sympathetic on here, then find out that they have opinions and biases and other rather unpleasant qualities that you didn't see "online".
If the thread you're addressing is the one I saw, I have a feeling the guy may have been just plain shallow. The pic I saw was a woman that was nice looking but was possibly hiding something with her physique and he might have only seen the pic after some time.
(gets ready for the comments on me being cruel)
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ImInMishawaka: I think that sometimes, people may have had the same thought process as you did but, don't want to come across as a skeptic. Most everyone wants to put their best personna out there for "all" to see.
"Aw hun, you don't need a scammer"
"Aw hun, you can find better"
"He's probably a user"
That, I believe is one of the biggest reasons for failure when it comes to meeting someone on line. You see them all mushy and sympathetic on here, then find out that they have opinions and biases and other rather unpleasant qualities that you didn't see "online".
If the thread you're addressing is the one I saw, I have a feeling the guy may have been just plain shallow. The pic I saw was a woman that was nice looking but was possibly hiding something with her physique and he might have only seen the pic after some time.
(gets ready for the comments on me being cruel)
I don't think you are being cruel, and i was actually wondering the same thing myself. "Aw hun, you don't need a scammer"
"Aw hun, you can find better"
"He's probably a user"
That, I believe is one of the biggest reasons for failure when it comes to meeting someone on line. You see them all mushy and sympathetic on here, then find out that they have opinions and biases and other rather unpleasant qualities that you didn't see "online".
If the thread you're addressing is the one I saw, I have a feeling the guy may have been just plain shallow. The pic I saw was a woman that was nice looking but was possibly hiding something with her physique and he might have only seen the pic after some time.
(gets ready for the comments on me being cruel)
It bothers me that people jump to assumptions, without all the facts and can be damaging.
I have often said people only allow us to see what they want ua to see.
Good point
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ladyfingers: That is my understanding of what a scammer is, someone who wants your money.
I would'nt want your money....it's been so long since I've had any of that stuff, I would'nt know what to do with it now.
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wixomwizard: I would'nt want your money....it's been so long since I've had any of that stuff, I would'nt know what to do with it now.
That's good, because I wouldn't give you any. (money)
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ladyfingers: That's good, because I wouldn't give you any. (money)
See there??? There's still other options...
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morgan5: This comes from a thread i have been reading, where a woman had been talking to a guy for a while, she suggested meeting as all was going great, and he then gradually stopped contact.
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
I defend the so called scammers all the time. Until we know both sides to the story why are they always a scammer?
Did it ever occur to some that the woman is scorned? The man became disinterested? The woman said something so that he did not want to be in communication any more?
Her: We have been talking for three weeks online, let's get married.
Him:
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claudya: In my opinion a scammers is someone who asks u money or lies about his profile,country or details about life.In the case of this woman they didn't make no commitment in internet they just chat here,is better don't put so much feelings in a date in net until u don't know good the person or u know her/him in real,because we must recignize this,is a virtual world and peopel promise u here many things ,and tell u many nice things which maybe are not like in real,so the answer is he is not scammer maybe a person who wanted chat in net,maybe felt alone,well he wrong should be correct and say this from first he want just this not a serious relation.
How does that make him a scammer??????? Liar yes, but not a scammer. Just by posting this makes you one of those who uses scammer so freely........
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They can be anything in a range from
a-very-decent-person-looking-for-a-compatible-match to a filthy player.
Money are not involved = not a scam.
IMO.'morning Morgan