I Really Struggle With This, What Are Your Views??? (128)
sxc666: Not cynic Ginger I totally agree.
Hi Tina.
It certainly is a weird little micro world.
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claudya: Right,there are other words worst than word scammer So scammer sis that person who ask u money.
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morgan5: Hi ginger i agree with you, many times i have seen declarations of love before people have even met, to me that is just not real.
There are many vulnerable people on the internet it is a scammers paradise if you do not take responsibilty for yourself.
Hey, iv'e been called a cynic too
There are many vulnerable people on the internet it is a scammers paradise if you do not take responsibilty for yourself.
Hey, iv'e been called a cynic too
Hi Morgan,
You, cynical? Never !!!
Truly, though, I think it is good tos tep back and see it all from a distance sometimes.It keeps me as sane as I'll ever get.
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gingerb: Hi Morgan,
You, cynical? Never !!! Truly, though, I think it is good tos tep back and see it all from a distance sometimes.
It keeps me as sane as I'll ever get.
You, cynical? Never !!! Truly, though, I think it is good tos tep back and see it all from a distance sometimes.
It keeps me as sane as I'll ever get.
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morgan5: I think thats a good point, and over the internet it is easy to misunderstand you do not have eye contact, body language as in RL
Unfortunately we live in a blame society, online and in real life, noone wants to be at fault! it's easier to point the finger and redirect elsewhere. At the same time avoiding truth of circumstance for self.------ This thread is Archived ------
Bentlee: Unfortunately we live in a blame society, online and in real life, noone wants to be at fault! it's easier to point the finger and redirect elsewhere. At the same time avoiding truth of circumstance for self.
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Bentlee: Unfortunately we live in a blame society, online and in real life, noone wants to be at fault! it's easier to point the finger and redirect elsewhere. At the same time avoiding truth of circumstance for self.
Yes. Responsibility for one's self is sadly lacking in most life scenarios these days. You have a good point there.
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gingerb: Yes. Responsibility for one's self is sadly lacking in most life scenarios these days. You have a good point there.
Yes spot on. It is easier to blame then take responsibility...------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: but i just know i'm great
Careful with that thumb lol.------ This thread is Archived ------
Bentlee: Unfortunately we live in a blame society, online and in real life, noone wants to be at fault! it's easier to point the finger and redirect elsewhere. At the same time avoiding truth of circumstance for self.
Keeping in mind we create society, a false depiction of what we are expected to be, in the eye's of society! Running with the pack generates this, if everyone carved their own path in life eventually the eye's of society would change it's view's!------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: This comes from a thread i have been reading, where a woman had been talking to a guy for a while, she suggested meeting as all was going great, and he then gradually stopped contact.
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
I agree with your definition of a scammer, Morgan, and that this situation doesn't add up to one. Perhaps to someone who was in contact with many and found someone else more interesting, or was just not interested in a relationship after all, but not a scammer. Apparently some are using the term a bit too freely, or not understanding its definition.
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druidess6308: I agree with your definition of a scammer, Morgan, and that this situation doesn't add up to one. Perhaps to someone who was in contact with many and found someone else more interesting, or was just not interested in a relationship after all, but not a scammer. Apparently some are using the term a bit too freely, or not understanding its definition.
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I think most people feel scammers are as you described: those reeling you in for money. Maybe the thread you are talking about the OP felt scammed of her heart. Not that she had given her heart, but she had invested time and energy toward the hope of giving her heart and having his in return. Love scammer.
Semantics I suppose.
Semantics I suppose.
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StressFree: Hey Morgan
I don't think the guy was a scammer. Something happened where he lost interest and desire to see her again, or even talk to her. Maybe he was just really immature and chose to not just give an explanation.
Yes, I do think the term scammer is excessively used to freely.
I don't think the guy was a scammer. Something happened where he lost interest and desire to see her again, or even talk to her. Maybe he was just really immature and chose to not just give an explanation.
Yes, I do think the term scammer is excessively used to freely.
Morning Morgan
Completely agree with Stress. I think the terms scammer is way over used much like the word love. When a guy doesn't call anymore it's easy to get the message that he just wasn't that into her. It appears to me that they were in the learning process of each other. It's not easy not to have closure but I don't think he owes her an explanation of why he's not calling. It should be obvious. But it would be nice if he said something to let her know where he stands so that she doesn't keep waiting for his phone call.------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: This comes from a thread i have been reading, where a woman had been talking to a guy for a while, she suggested meeting as all was going great, and he then gradually stopped contact.
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely? I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely? I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
Good morning Morgan!
The short answer to this is YES. The term 'scammer' seems to be flung around quite often. Considering though, your initial comment about the couple in question; perhaps the interest level was'nt as high for the male as the female thought. It is easy sometimes to misread people and their thoughts and intentions. That appears to me to be what has happened here.
The guy probably saw something deveoping between the two of them that he was'nt prepared to committ himself to. He could have cared for her very much, but not as much as she thought.
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wixomwizard: Good morning Morgan!
The short answer to this is YES. The term 'scammer' seems to be flung around quite often. Considering though, your initial comment about the couple in question; perhaps the interest level was'nt as high for the male as the female thought. It is easy sometimes to misread people and their thoughts and intentions. That appears to me to be what has happened here.
The guy probably saw something deveoping between the two of them that he was'nt prepared to committ himself to. He could have cared for her very much, but not as much as she thought.
The short answer to this is YES. The term 'scammer' seems to be flung around quite often. Considering though, your initial comment about the couple in question; perhaps the interest level was'nt as high for the male as the female thought. It is easy sometimes to misread people and their thoughts and intentions. That appears to me to be what has happened here.
The guy probably saw something deveoping between the two of them that he was'nt prepared to committ himself to. He could have cared for her very much, but not as much as she thought.
Think you raise a good point wixie, one of the downfalls of the internet and even talking on the phone to a degree, is that you do not have eye contact and body language i think you can tell alot from that.We are largely dependant on what we read and how we interprete that.
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morgan5: Think you raise a good point wixie, one of the downfalls of the internet and even talking on the phone to a degree, is that you do not have eye contact and body language i think you can tell alot from that.
We are largely dependant on what we read and how we interprete that.
So true, both body language and eye contact, the silent truths. Good thread Morgan, ty.We are largely dependant on what we read and how we interprete that.
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wixomwizard: Good morning Morgan!
The short answer to this is YES. The term 'scammer' seems to be flung around quite often. Considering though, your initial comment about the couple in question; perhaps the interest level was'nt as high for the male as the female thought. It is easy sometimes to misread people and their thoughts and intentions. That appears to me to be what has happened here.
The guy probably saw something deveoping between the two of them that he was'nt prepared to committ himself to. He could have cared for her very much, but not as much as she thought.
I know mismatched feelings are just that mismatched feelings.The short answer to this is YES. The term 'scammer' seems to be flung around quite often. Considering though, your initial comment about the couple in question; perhaps the interest level was'nt as high for the male as the female thought. It is easy sometimes to misread people and their thoughts and intentions. That appears to me to be what has happened here.
The guy probably saw something deveoping between the two of them that he was'nt prepared to committ himself to. He could have cared for her very much, but not as much as she thought.
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morgan5: This comes from a thread i have been reading, where a woman had been talking to a guy for a while, she suggested meeting as all was going great, and he then gradually stopped contact.
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
Now while i agree it's not a nice thing to do without any kind of explanation, many of the responses the Op got was that the guy was probably a Scammer. This guy had not asked her for anything.
My understanding of a Scammer is someone who reels you in over time, making declarations of love. When he has you hooked they then give you the hard luck story eg (sick relative needs Op)and they have no money, or they need air fare to visit you. More a con man
How was this guy a scammer??
Do you think it's a term here we use to freely?
I have used a guy in this but obviously it's nor gender specific
No, not a scammer.
They can be anything in a range from
a-very-decent-person-looking-for-a-compatible-match to a filthy player.
Money are not involved = not a scam.
IMO.
'morning Morgan
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It's so easy to hear one side of a story and we instantly believe it, part of human nature but if we have a failed relationship in real life, we don't call the person a scammer, lots of other things maybe