Physical Attraction (kinda for men, but women are welcome of course) ( Archived) (147)

Tommyutah: Here's some beer goggles

drivenbysound: For the women, it would be completing him..

Tater: I read the first few sentences..

I agree, most women don't veiw a man's looks, the way us men veiw a woman's...
Because they care more about what he can give them financially, is number one then emotionally is number 2
and they are vain, so they value their own beauty, and are in constant competition with themselves and other women, on how they look, what they have, and what their man will give them, to show it off in front of other woman, that is the main reason they loves flowers delivered to their jobs, to make the other women jealous of what they have... sad but very true in MOST CASES..

romancefairy1963: First of all wouldnt you rather have someone take care of your heart and not your head? Do nice looking people who have ugly parents love them any less because they are ugly? I have seen many nice looking men and women with the average or ugly person and be perfectly happy. As I always say the outside fades eventually and what you end up with is a perfect mess and your still miserable because now they are no longer attractive. A beautiful woman or a handsome man does not make the person. If I were a size 2 would I still not be the same person. Only less weight. You have to weigh your odds. Do you want someone that looks good now but is a piece of crap inside or do you want someone who is okay looking and will treat you like you were meant to be treated. Yes society has ruled as to what we should look like.

StressFree: Studies have shown that on the average, women do not value physical beauty in the ways that men do.

I need it. I realize this now after my recent experience with my ex.

In a nutshell, I was not really physically attracted to her. She was really cool, nice, understanding, and gave me the freedom and space to be me. What more can I ask for?

Well, apparently I need more physical attraction, particularly somebody who is more fit and a little prettier.

Sound shallow? Why? Is that trend these days to judge somebody's particular interests?

I tried that. I tried to fall in love with somebody who I did not consider beautiful. I really did. It simply did not work.

Here is an interesting thought. Do you really think the world (media and Hollywood) has fairly defined what constitutes physical beauty?

Stop, I know it's ultimately what counts on the inside, but if I don't get excited by what's shining in the moonlight or sunlight on the outside, then what's inside is pretty much useless to me. We can be great friends as far as I am concerned.

So what if there was no media, no tv, no movies, no beauty pageants and so forth to help define what constitutes physical beauty? How would we determine what beauty is? Would we still think the world of beautiful eyes, slim and slender bodies, and other striking physical features? I think it's somehow inherent in some ways. If we were conditioned to appreciate ugliness, would it work? Even ugly plants and animals?

Stop again, I know I will hear beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, now I'm thinking that two strikingly beautiful people are more likely to be attracted to each other, and that two average looking people are more likely to be attracted to each other and you can do the rest of the math here.

I know there are many exceptions to this, but by observing what's going on now and who is together as far as looks go, I really don't see somebody really ugly and out of shape with somebody who is really beautiful and in shape? Is this inherent element governed by our inherent biological drifts (Darwinism)? Or is it that we are living what the world tells us is beautiful?

Answer as you wish and to any of the many thoughts I put up there. I know it may not be sensitively correct, but it's truth in many ways.