On Being Friends (140)
venere08: My own Robert, Amaryllis?
Nope, don't have one of those Is that a new version of a Ken doll? I do hear that Barbie has replaced...HIM...
and oh, yes, I saw that there has been the metamorphosis of a certain rustication...
Nope, don't have one of those Is that a new version of a Ken doll? I do hear that Barbie has replaced...HIM...
and oh, yes, I saw that there has been the metamorphosis of a certain rustication...
My, my, my Eye ... er, yew eye, And he likes Vivaldi!..
Have to find one who likes Bach ..
I like beer....is that any good??....
Amaryllis: My, my, my Eye ... er, yew eye, And he likes Vivaldi!..
Have to find one who likes Bach ..
Have to find one who likes Bach ..
Lagoona22: I like beer....is that any good??....
It depends ... WestVleteren or Mort Subite?
Guinness actually....but that was the good news....
...the bad news is...I suffer from crippling frog farts....
...am I still in here with a chance??....
...urrrrpp...
...the bad news is...I suffer from crippling frog farts....
...am I still in here with a chance??....
...urrrrpp...
Amaryllis: It depends ... WestVleteren or Mort Subite?
Amaryllis: Hi folks!
Did you ever find it possible to be friends with somebody you met online after meeting in real life and one or both of you have determined that the sparks were non-existent?
So far, I haven't.
If you have been in such a situation, what are your views?
Do you think it would be better not to tell the other person right away that you do not feel anything special?
Your opinions, please.
Did you ever find it possible to be friends with somebody you met online after meeting in real life and one or both of you have determined that the sparks were non-existent?
So far, I haven't.
If you have been in such a situation, what are your views?
Do you think it would be better not to tell the other person right away that you do not feel anything special?
Your opinions, please.
Hi Ama,
I have only met friends online, with nothing other than a friendship in mind.
Until I met him, you know him
We had built up a friendship before we met, all that remained when we did meet was to see if the chemistry was there. It was.
Had it not been I am sure we would have been happy having a beer and just being friends.
I do think we build our expectations when we meet a person online and often people are disappointed when they meet face to face.
So it is our expectations and people are disappointed when they meet face to face, then people hide behind 'they are not who I thought they were in real life' when it is we that have made the expectations higher and somewhere there is a shortfall.
We do it to ourselves and don't realise it.
Sommerauer71: Hi Ama,
I have only met friends online, with nothing other than a friendship in mind.
Until I met him, you know him
We had built up a friendship before we met, all that remained when we did meet was to see if the chemistry was there. It was.
Had it not been I am sure we would have been happy having a beer and just being friends.
I do think we build our expectations when we meet a person online and often people are disappointed when they meet face to face.
So it is our expectations and people are disappointed when they meet face to face, then people hide behind 'they are not who I thought they were in real life' when it is we that have made the expectations higher and somewhere there is a shortfall.
We do it to ourselves and don't realise it.
I have only met friends online, with nothing other than a friendship in mind.
Until I met him, you know him
We had built up a friendship before we met, all that remained when we did meet was to see if the chemistry was there. It was.
Had it not been I am sure we would have been happy having a beer and just being friends.
I do think we build our expectations when we meet a person online and often people are disappointed when they meet face to face.
So it is our expectations and people are disappointed when they meet face to face, then people hide behind 'they are not who I thought they were in real life' when it is we that have made the expectations higher and somewhere there is a shortfall.
We do it to ourselves and don't realise it.
Hi Sommer,
Yes, I think you're right. The guys had expectations and I had mine. We are in a dating site, after all. We expect and hope that maybe the person we're communicating with so well might just be 'the One' when we meet him face to face.
But nobody from those I met was, unfortunately. And it was not even possible to be friends after that, which I could understand. Rejection is not an easy thing to digest.
So, I thought changing the way I proceed with this thing would be to take out the "expectation" and just approach it with friendship in mind - like you did, actually.
However, the honesty of my intentions is being questioned by some members. Inspite of that, I shall continue to adopt the new way (start with friendship)and see where it takes me. If it does not work, well, at least it worked with some of you, guys, and I'm happy for you.
Sommerauer71: Hi Ama,
I have only met friends online, with nothing other than a friendship in mind.
Until I met him, you know him
We had built up a friendship before we met, all that remained when we did meet was to see if the chemistry was there. It was.
Had it not been I am sure we would have been happy having a beer and just being friends.
I do think we build our expectations when we meet a person online and often people are disappointed when they meet face to face.
So it is our expectations and people are disappointed when they meet face to face, then people hide behind 'they are not who I thought they were in real life' when it is we that have made the expectations higher and somewhere there is a shortfall.
We do it to ourselves and don't realise it.
I have only met friends online, with nothing other than a friendship in mind.
Until I met him, you know him
We had built up a friendship before we met, all that remained when we did meet was to see if the chemistry was there. It was.
Had it not been I am sure we would have been happy having a beer and just being friends.
I do think we build our expectations when we meet a person online and often people are disappointed when they meet face to face.
So it is our expectations and people are disappointed when they meet face to face, then people hide behind 'they are not who I thought they were in real life' when it is we that have made the expectations higher and somewhere there is a shortfall.
We do it to ourselves and don't realise it.
I think the problem is when, even after communicating for ages online, someone can turn out differently as a person from what you were lead to believe.
I think that is harder to take than just not having physical chemistry when you meet. We all take a chance on dating online, but you kind of have to believe that the person you are emailing and taking on the phone is REALLY who they are. The looks side of things obviously cant be confirmed until you meet, and we are all aware of that, but if you discover that the person is different in temperment than you had understood, thats harder to take, I think..
Ok...my take on online dating or being friends...?....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
Lagoona22: Ok...my take on online dating or being friends...?....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
True..
But that scenario only works if you are local to each other..
I sure as hell dont want a 4-month online relationship and 2'17'000 emails, but sometimes its the only way to be in touch..
petalbabe: I think the problem is when, even after communicating for ages online, someone can turn out differently as a person from what you were lead to believe.
I think that is harder to take than just not having physical chemistry when you meet. We all take a chance on dating online, but you kind of have to believe that the person you are emailing and taking on the phone is REALLY who they are. The looks side of things obviously cant be confirmed until you meet, and we are all aware of that, but if you discover that the person is different in temperment than you had understood, thats harder to take, I think..
I think that is harder to take than just not having physical chemistry when you meet. We all take a chance on dating online, but you kind of have to believe that the person you are emailing and taking on the phone is REALLY who they are. The looks side of things obviously cant be confirmed until you meet, and we are all aware of that, but if you discover that the person is different in temperment than you had understood, thats harder to take, I think..
Hey gorgeous one.
You are right, there are times when a person has made themselves to be different online, so therefore when the meeting happens, it is a different person. But then it is easy to offer a different side of us online, we all have thoughts about what people are like. We build up images and have that 'she is this way and he is that way' of people we interact with, be it in the forums or via email.
So your point is excellent, Petal.
Sommerauer71: Hey gorgeous one.
You are right, there are times when a person has made themselves to be different online, so therefore when the meeting happens, it is a different person. But then it is easy to offer a different side of us online, we all have thoughts about what people are like. We build up images and have that 'she is this way and he is that way' of people we interact with, be it in the forums or via email.
So your point is excellent, Petal.
You are right, there are times when a person has made themselves to be different online, so therefore when the meeting happens, it is a different person. But then it is easy to offer a different side of us online, we all have thoughts about what people are like. We build up images and have that 'she is this way and he is that way' of people we interact with, be it in the forums or via email.
So your point is excellent, Petal.
Wise, as always, Yoda....
Lagoona22: Ok...my take on online dating or being friends...?....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
In some respects, I do agree with this, why waste time chatting online when we can get it over and done with to see if we are compatible.
Sommerauer71: In some respects, I do agree with this, why waste time chatting online when we can get it over and done with to see if we are compatible.
Absolutely!
I guess when we join these sites we have to make a decision: do we want to limit our "search" to our own country at least, or spread the net further afield, and face a LDR?
I came on with no preconceptions about that, but am starting to narrow it down now. Mind you, Ireland is dire, talent wise! So Im definately thinking of relocating somewhere else!!
guiriman: knowing Rusty, I think it might be the wife who has the regrets ..
I don't really agree with any of the stuff being said here .. pretend to be meeting as friends but hoping something else might happen .. isn't that just kinda false? .. If a woman I was interested in said she wanted to meet just as friends, I think I'd tell her not to bother .. I have friends thanks .. it's a lady I'm looking for .. if I met her and either of us realized it wasn't what we wanted .. that'd be fine by me .. it's just part of being an adult ..
I don't really agree with any of the stuff being said here .. pretend to be meeting as friends but hoping something else might happen .. isn't that just kinda false? .. If a woman I was interested in said she wanted to meet just as friends, I think I'd tell her not to bother .. I have friends thanks .. it's a lady I'm looking for .. if I met her and either of us realized it wasn't what we wanted .. that'd be fine by me .. it's just part of being an adult ..
well guiri at this point its all academic isnt it ..when you do meet someone from cs face to face tell us how it goes ...better to meet as friends ..than to never meet anyone!!!!
Lagoona22: Ok...my take on online dating or being friends...?....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
....you send just one mail..."Let's have coffee..."
...she replies, "....OK..."
You meet for 20 minutes, or however long it takes for a cup of cappuccino to get cold....
Then you get up, say goodbye and leave...
Then you think about wether you want to meet again....
Sure beats the heck out of a 4-month online relationship and 2'317'000 emails.....
Yup meet as soon as possible people are often very different on line than in real life ........
petalbabe: Absolutely!
I guess when we join these sites we have to make a decision: do we want to limit our "search" to our own country at least, or spread the net further afield, and face a LDR?
I came on with no preconceptions about that, but am starting to narrow it down now. Mind you, Ireland is dire, talent wise! So Im definately thinking of relocating somewhere else!!
I guess when we join these sites we have to make a decision: do we want to limit our "search" to our own country at least, or spread the net further afield, and face a LDR?
I came on with no preconceptions about that, but am starting to narrow it down now. Mind you, Ireland is dire, talent wise! So Im definately thinking of relocating somewhere else!!
I never limited myself geographically, because I was prepared to travel. I wouldn't have cared if he lived in Outer Mongalia.
Sommerauer71: I never limited myself geographically, because I was prepared to travel. I wouldn't have cared if he lived in Outer Mongalia.
Thats my feeling, Sommer..
Ive said before on here; Id travel anywhere, if I had to..
So when you coming to Malta Petalbabe??...I have Sommer, Amma, Imma, and Umma coming over the next weeks....you can hire me and my 1965 Norton sidesaddler for 20 clams, a coke, and a tuna fish sandwich a day...waddayasay?...
petalbabe: Thats my feeling, Sommer..
Ive said before on here; Id travel anywhere, if I had to..
Ive said before on here; Id travel anywhere, if I had to..
Lagoona22: So when you coming to Malta Petalbabe??...I have Sommer, Amma, Imma, and Umma coming over the next weeks....you can hire me and my 1965 Norton sidesaddler for 20 clams, a coke, and a tuna fish sandwich a day...waddayasay?...
Hey is this true are the actually coming or are you jst joking cos if they are coming you should organise a meet would be fun to meet all the people one chats with on the forums all the time ......
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So, no wonder I haven't seen you much here in the past few days, eh? You now have your own Robert (not the rustication, luckily .. oops, just kidding, rusty)..
Well, don't worry, I will stop here now on talking to guiri. No page 10 I don't want to spoil your fun. I know you are on cloud nine right now.
My own Robert, Amaryllis?
Nope, don't have one of those
and oh, yes, I saw that there has been the metamorphosis of a certain rustication...