hiding your feelings (37)
caspatchgalena, Missouri USA83 Threads 1 Polls 3,832 Postsinternet love is difficult enough, if you put it out there you get ridiculed, if it don't work you get slammed again.......it is hard to keep it in but for those reasons most people do.. my question is to those who kept it in as to hard was it, and to those who put it out there whether it worked or not how did you handle it
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I wouldn't know anything about hiding my feeling so sorry I'm not much help...
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at least your honest about it, the others just being shy about it
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I was thinking about that a long time before and have made up my mind: As it is so damn easy in this world nowadays to call someone an idiot or throw bad words at a person - why not the same with positive feelings...?
I do tell someone how I feel about him.
The only chance for us is the typing - rarely voices in the beginning, no tonation, rarely faces, no motions, just written words.
I have already done that here - and it is a rollercoaster-feeling: steep up - free falling... but hey, that's life!
And even if the feelings might not be reciprocated, I do not have to ask myself "What if ..."- because I have made a start with being honest. And I don't feel ashamed to tell another human that he has his hooks in me - it puts a warm, glowing smile on my lips when thinking of him- as well as it causes salty tears... but it makes me feel alive!
I do tell someone how I feel about him.
The only chance for us is the typing - rarely voices in the beginning, no tonation, rarely faces, no motions, just written words.
I have already done that here - and it is a rollercoaster-feeling: steep up - free falling... but hey, that's life!
And even if the feelings might not be reciprocated, I do not have to ask myself "What if ..."- because I have made a start with being honest. And I don't feel ashamed to tell another human that he has his hooks in me - it puts a warm, glowing smile on my lips when thinking of him- as well as it causes salty tears... but it makes me feel alive!
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I have and been tromped on, but will continue to trust and keep trudging along. Too old to change who I am. 
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caspatch: internet love is difficult enough, if you put it out there you get ridiculed, if it don't work you get slammed again.......it is hard to keep it in but for those reasons most people do.. my question is to those who kept it in as to hard was it, and to those who put it out there whether it worked or not how did you handle it
as my opinion,its not hard but just to protect the relationship,i have exsperience already,so enough the lesson i got if i did it again,upps....Britney spear.
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Well,my opinion is..if i found a relationship
here let people know..this is the online dating
site..you can start your love affair here..if this
is going to click...thats pretty good...But if you
failed nothing to loose just the feeling..emotion..
not every start in life is success...let them judge
the most important is you know your self better than
anyone here..cheer up!!
Yuri~Edna,
here let people know..this is the online dating
site..you can start your love affair here..if this
is going to click...thats pretty good...But if you
failed nothing to loose just the feeling..emotion..
not every start in life is success...let them judge
the most important is you know your self better than
anyone here..cheer up!!
Yuri~Edna,
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Hello Caspatch 
My opinion is, perhaps, the people who spread out on the forums the feelings they have for someone especially, know the most part of the forumers who will read them, and those forumers they call them friends.
Then there is no judgment about the way it worked or not, just sharing thoughts and words when feelings are deep at the right moment they post it.
It is the same in the real life, some people, when they have a crush or feel in love with someone, they want to spread it out to the world, some don't.
My opinion is, perhaps, the people who spread out on the forums the feelings they have for someone especially, know the most part of the forumers who will read them, and those forumers they call them friends.
Then there is no judgment about the way it worked or not, just sharing thoughts and words when feelings are deep at the right moment they post it.
It is the same in the real life, some people, when they have a crush or feel in love with someone, they want to spread it out to the world, some don't.
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Well, there's a lot more to being honest about your feelings then simply expressing whatever you're feeling. Just as important, if not more so, is to consider the nature of and basis for your feelings. Online, illusions and delusions abound. People proclaim their undying love to virtual strangers, then complain about how their imaginary love's failure has broken their hearts, and so on. It's critical in online relations to separate one's fantasy-based feelings from ones based in some form of reality. That's where one's honesty or lack thereof truly comes into play.
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In response to: internet love is difficult enough, if you put it out there you get ridiculed, if it don't work you get slammed again.......it is hard to keep it in but for those reasons most people do.. my question is to those who kept it in as to hard was it, and to those who put it out there whether it worked or not how did you handle it
It's really an individual thing;if you both
feel that it's right to make it public
than go for it.However,if you both want
to keep it private,that's your choice too.
Go with how you both feel
.But,if you find you can't help tell
the whole world,by all means,spill the
beans.
I know who... 
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Ambrose2007: Well, there's a lot more to being honest about your feelings then simply expressing whatever you're feeling. Just as important, if not more so, is to consider the nature of and basis for your feelings. Online, illusions and delusions abound. People proclaim their undying love to virtual strangers, then complain about how their imaginary love's failure has broken their hearts, and so on. It's critical in online relations to separate one's fantasy-based feelings from ones based in some form of reality. That's where one's honesty or lack thereof truly comes into play.
Well said... I would wait until meeting in real life before expressing any kind of feelings
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YURIMA: Well,my opinion is..if i found a relationship
here let people know..this is the online dating
site..you can start your love affair here..if this
is going to click...thats pretty good...But if you
failed nothing to loose just the feeling..emotion..
not every start in life is success...let them judge
the most important is you know your self better than
anyone here..cheer up!! Yuri~Edna,
here let people know..this is the online dating
site..you can start your love affair here..if this
is going to click...thats pretty good...But if you
failed nothing to loose just the feeling..emotion..
not every start in life is success...let them judge
the most important is you know your self better than
anyone here..cheer up!! Yuri~Edna,
emotion sometimes make u crack ,i dont wanna be
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Polarbutterfly: It's really an individual thing;if you both
feel that it's right to make it public
than go for it.However,if you both want
to keep it private,that's your choice too.
Go with how you both feel .
But,if you find you can't help tell
the whole world,by all means,spill the
beans. I know who...
feel that it's right to make it public
than go for it.However,if you both want
to keep it private,that's your choice too.
Go with how you both feel .
But,if you find you can't help tell
the whole world,by all means,spill the
beans. I know who...
do u have a magic ball?
may i borrow,plssssss 
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Polarbutterfly: It's really an individual thing;if you both
feel that it's right to make it public
than go for it.However,if you both want
to keep it private,that's your choice too.
Go with how you both feel .
But,if you find you can't help tell
the whole world,by all means,spill the
beans. I know who...
feel that it's right to make it public
than go for it.However,if you both want
to keep it private,that's your choice too.
Go with how you both feel .
But,if you find you can't help tell
the whole world,by all means,spill the
beans. I know who...
still guessing aren't you pb but no it would do no good to tell as it just opens doors and we don't want to go there....... maybe someday, i think you have a good idea
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caspatch: still guessing aren't you pb but no it would do no good to tell as it just opens doors and we don't want to go there....... maybe someday, i think you have a good idea
Guessing?No,not at all.
However,I'll respect your
wishes.Wish you both the best..
sincerely.
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They say it's easier talking to a stranger about your feelings and personal life. For me, it's kind of hard to take things personal or feel rediculed when talking to someone who doesn't really know me, or who I haven't met. I'm still only a few months new on this site, and it's looking kind of good for me. I've had good experiences on other dating sites that it make keeping on interesting... lots of friends to be made too. Obviously, nothing serious came from past encounters, but it's postive. There are females and males here that do want to meet and be involved in a relationship.
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As I have written,well typed and said verbally many times, I am real.I am myself,no more,no less. So am same in cyberspace as in what we call "real life". I am careful,cautious at times,friendly,forgiving etc.. I am what I am(profound ).Whether online or in person,I will share my honest feelings,sometimes have to be careful where and with whom of course. However I am thick skinned when it comes to someone hurting me,they can only if I allow them too. Only I control what I do with my feelings. I usually say what I mean and if it is not reciprocated,that's okay. I want the truth as well as giving it. To some I am slower to open up about myself,then others get the 54yrs. in a short version. I want to know what another thinks or feels about me,good or bad if it matters at all. At least I know where I stand. I respect the truth as long as it is given in a non-abrasive way. 
).Whether online or in person,I will share my honest feelings,sometimes have to be careful where and with whom of course. However I am thick skinned when it comes to someone hurting me,they can only if I allow them too. Only I control what I do with my feelings. I usually say what I mean and if it is not reciprocated,that's okay. I want the truth as well as giving it. To some I am slower to open up about myself,then others get the 54yrs. in a short version. I want to know what another thinks or feels about me,good or bad if it matters at all. At least I know where I stand. I respect the truth as long as it is given in a non-abrasive way. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Just thought of a song that is so true."Everybody plays the fool". Life Happens or
,it's all a part of experience most of us go through in life.
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Ambrose2007: Well, there's a lot more to being honest about your feelings then simply expressing whatever you're feeling. Just as important, if not more so, is to consider the nature of and basis for your feelings. Online, illusions and delusions abound. People proclaim their undying love to virtual strangers, then complain about how their imaginary love's failure has broken their hearts, and so on. It's critical in online relations to separate one's fantasy-based feelings from ones based in some form of reality. That's where one's honesty or lack thereof truly comes into play.
I agree.
To expand from my own experience is that we all have an online persona and we all build expectations and then when people they feel let down.
It is so easy to get carried away with words, I know I can. But there is a different set of feeling come into play when it is staring one in the face.
I do not hide my feelings here, I choose not to share them. Therefore, I am not executing who I really am on here, I am different in life, because it is my life, here is not. Like playing a sport for me, it is my recreation time and the home life stays at home.
Having met a person on here, realising that it is not all about here and that we do have a life we are both very different to what we portray here, that is not being dishonest or hiding, it is that this a forum where people we are never likely to meet enter our lives.
As Ambrose correctly pointed out, it is easier to have fantasies remotely and declare all manner of love, then be devastated when it does not work out, but it is not real it has to be real before one can feel the sadness if it does not work out.
That is not to say that two people who connect cannot enjoy each other online and plan out their meeting.
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Sommerauer71: I agree.
To expand from my own experience is that we all have an online persona and we all build expectations and then when people they feel let down.
It is so easy to get carried away with words, I know I can. But there is a different set of feeling come into play when it is staring one in the face.
I do not hide my feelings here, I choose not to share them. Therefore, I am not executing who I really am on here, I am different in life, because it is my life, here is not. Like playing a sport for me, it is my recreation time and the home life stays at home.
Having met a person on here, realising that it is not all about here and that we do have a life we are both very different to what we portray here, that is not being dishonest or hiding, it is that this a forum where people we are never likely to meet enter our lives.
As Ambrose correctly pointed out, it is easier to have fantasies remotely and declare all manner of love, then be devastated when it does not work out, but it is not real it has to be real before one can feel the sadness if it does not work out.
That is not to say that two people who connect cannot enjoy each other online and plan out their meeting.
i did not mean to imply hiding or dishonesty but the fact of announcing it publicly and the reprocussion that can occur, just an open forum on what they did to keep it quite or put it out there ..good luck to the both of youTo expand from my own experience is that we all have an online persona and we all build expectations and then when people they feel let down.
It is so easy to get carried away with words, I know I can. But there is a different set of feeling come into play when it is staring one in the face.
I do not hide my feelings here, I choose not to share them. Therefore, I am not executing who I really am on here, I am different in life, because it is my life, here is not. Like playing a sport for me, it is my recreation time and the home life stays at home.
Having met a person on here, realising that it is not all about here and that we do have a life we are both very different to what we portray here, that is not being dishonest or hiding, it is that this a forum where people we are never likely to meet enter our lives.
As Ambrose correctly pointed out, it is easier to have fantasies remotely and declare all manner of love, then be devastated when it does not work out, but it is not real it has to be real before one can feel the sadness if it does not work out.
That is not to say that two people who connect cannot enjoy each other online and plan out their meeting.
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