should we be allowed to beat our parents? ( Archived) (27)

grrr...my mother is a psychologist, behavioral analyst, and she works doing behavioral interventions with children with autism. she is currently working on a thrilling case for her...a VERY violent and disconnected child...

she's made ASTOUNDING progress with him...has started teaching him to sign his needs, his violence has drastically cut down...but it's tearing me apart.

this kid is BEATING my mother. she went to the hospital a couple of weeks ago because he had bitten a chunk out of her...and she had to have a tetanus shot and antibiotics. his nails have taken hide from her...she's bruised and battered...but she perseveres, teaching his parents and his aides how to handle him. she's received commendations on this child...the progress is truly amazing.

she went back to the doc today, and was diagnosed with a cervical sprain and a rotator cuff injury...and she is supposed to take THREE MONTHS off of work...no driving, no hotels, no behavioral interventions.

guess where she e-mailed me from?!? the freaking hotel! so she can be at work first thing in the morning!

grrrrrr.....

your mom is obviously dedicated to this child and it sounds like she intends to see this thru.I doubt anything will stand in her way even your protests.My friend just ripped her rotator cuff and went thru surgery and a painful recovery which is in progress.
Dedicated as she is lets hope she listens to reason and her doctor.You have my prayers and well wishes.

No parent should ever, ever, ever get treated like that.

I understand your concern but I also understand your mother, she is doing what she loves and look like she is very good at it. I guess she see that they kid is making improvements thanks to her and that alone is what matters the most to her. I know especial children and gifted children are quite a challenge only very caring and patience people like your mother are capable of handling them despite the outcomes.

Hope she gets better!

Take care,


Yami.

I actually take care of a developmentally handicapped adult that is in my family, so I know about this first hand. It's a very challenging experience for family members, so I can understand the situation she is dealing with 100%. It requires a lot of patience, strength and dedication. I commend your mom. What you're mom is doing is wonderful. I mean she doesn't have to do it, but she cares enough to stick it out. To answer your question though, of course no one should be beaten or hit, ever.

agreed.

my mother is extraordinary...i just wish i could do more to protect her.

that sounded badly, i know...she's actually certified in ppct, and she's a black belt. she used to work for the fbi, in hostage negotiations, and she was a reserve deputy for the sheriff's department...and she still does their testings and trainings and such.

however, she was attacked in the park eleven years ago, and was stabbed through the face with a screwdriver. the guy also broke her neck in two places...so she's not QUITE unbreakable.

i just get worried...i commend what she's doing and all...but i want her around for US, too.

i'd never say ANY of this to her. she allows me to be an adult and make my own decisions, i'll be damned if i don't give her the same respect.

The only thing I got to say is BLESS YOUR MOTHER HEART. People like that are the true angels on this planet.

i can definitely agree with THAT one!!!

I understand completely what you mean.

WOW...I mean a black belt, worked for the FBI (my uncle worked for the FBI too)...sounds like a tough cookie....a remarkable woman there. And also it sounds like she just wouldn't have it any other way, but its normal to want to protect her. It's human and understandable. You're a good daughter :)