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SojournerAndorra la Vella, Andorra31 Threads 2 Polls 472 PostsWomen: If you had great boyfriend or partner who was unemployed, would you support him? Would you, if you did support him, expect him to do the housework and look after the kids?
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Another good one. Wonder if a guy gotta work around the house if not at a job? 
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If we were living together yes i would ..but if we wasnt living together i would help him were i could but wouldnt support him fully ..
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Its difficult to answer for me.
Ive spent years working really hard to pay a mortgage and look after my children. I wanted to keep them in their home when I split from their father so I got my own mortgage, paid him off and carried on. I'm not really sure I want to look after anyone else
Ok maybe its not so difficult
Ive spent years working really hard to pay a mortgage and look after my children. I wanted to keep them in their home when I split from their father so I got my own mortgage, paid him off and carried on. I'm not really sure I want to look after anyone else
Ok maybe its not so difficult
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You used the word 'partner' and to me thats what a relationship is about a Partnership, so yes if i was out working i would expect him to look after OUR children and OUR home
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Sojourner: Women: If you had great boyfriend or partner who was unemployed, would you support him? Would you, if you did support him, expect him to do the housework and look after the kids?
I would not "expect" anything from the person I loved. I would help them however I could and I would hope that the person I loved would willing do the same for me and if they could not contribute to the benefit of the household by earning money then I hope they would help in other ways.
I believe you reap what you sow.
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Shewolf55: I would not "expect" anything from the person I loved. I would help them however I could and I would hope that the person I loved would willing do the same for me and if they could not contribute to the benefit of the household by earning money then I hope they would help in other ways.
I believe you reap what you sow.
And if they didn't you would be the one working, come home to start all over again and feel fine about that?I believe you reap what you sow.
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morgan5: And if they didn't you would be the one working, come home to start all over again and feel fine about that?
Yeah and Ive done that too. Its soul destroying. Never again
Hey You
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morgan5: And if they didn't you would be the one working, come home to start all over again and feel fine about that?
If they didn't then I would not feel "fine" about that. I would however discuss the issue with them and if we could not come to an equitable agreement I might reconsider my commitment to the relationship since there might be an unequal commitment that would leave me feeling used.
The question on the original post was about expectations. I stated that I would have none. Expectations can lead to disappointment when they are not met. I prefer not to set myself up for those disappointments.
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SummerUK: Yeah and Ive done that too. Its soul destroying. Never again
Hey You
Hey You
have to say Summer i have too, but never again it should be equal in a relationship 
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My sister divorced her first husband cause he wouldn't work a job that brought in real money but was a collector who dogged people who owed bad debt, nor did he do house work but play golf. Now my sister is again married to a guy would is working from home doing mortgages but making no real money but at least he helps around the house. My sister is tired of wearing the pants and being the breadwinner. I told her, wlecome to America in the 21st Cetury and to stick with the guy she's with instead of just getting another bum and go through the same thing again. Gotta understand, my sister loves being married for some reason.
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I am a great boyfriend...no job ,no money...who will have my???
(women only please)...
(women only please)...
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Shewolf55: If they didn't then I would not feel "fine" about that. I would however discuss the issue with them and if we could not come to an equitable agreement I might reconsider my commitment to the relationship since there might be an unequal commitment that would leave me feeling used.
The question on the original post was about expectations. I stated that I would have none. Expectations can lead to disappointment when they are not met. I prefer not to set myself up for those disappointments.
I can see what your saying, the Op also mentions looking after the children and doing the housework, i am assuming she meant the children were his, so personally i would have the expectation that he would look after them, and the home. Guess we are all different The question on the original post was about expectations. I stated that I would have none. Expectations can lead to disappointment when they are not met. I prefer not to set myself up for those disappointments.
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Sojourner: Women: If you had great boyfriend or partner who was unemployed, would you support him? Would you, if you did support him, expect him to do the housework and look after the kids?
Yes. And to a certain extent.....yes.
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Boban1: I am a great boyfriend...no job ,no money...who will have my???
(women only please)...
(women only please)...
just apply to be someones handy man and window washer and show your manly charms you might get lucky ..
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morgan5: I can see what your saying, the Op also mentions looking after the children and doing the housework, i am assuming she meant the children were his, so personally i would have the expectation that he would look after them, and the home. Guess we are all different
They say that's what makes the world go round. I agree with them. We can be different in many ways and still have no wrong or right. Just ways of looking at things and responding to life. It's all good.
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Shewolf55: They say that's what makes the world go round. I agree with them. We can be different in many ways and still have no wrong or right. Just ways of looking at things and responding to life. It's all good.
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good question.
If I'm married to the person, then yes, I'd support him and yes, I'd expect him to do all the housework, etc. In the same manner, it'd work vice versa.
If I'm not married to the person - sorry, you're on your own. Collect unemployment, take a job at McD., whatever it takes. I also would not expect a person I'm not married to to put out for me.
If I'm married to the person, then yes, I'd support him and yes, I'd expect him to do all the housework, etc. In the same manner, it'd work vice versa.
If I'm not married to the person - sorry, you're on your own. Collect unemployment, take a job at McD., whatever it takes. I also would not expect a person I'm not married to to put out for me.
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Yes,I would support him,to an extent.
If he wasn't able to work because
of an illness,disability,I'd surely support him.
My children (teens) are quite capable to fend for
themselves so,they wouldn't need tending to.
If he wasn't able to work because
of an illness,disability,I'd surely support him.
My children (teens) are quite capable to fend for
themselves so,they wouldn't need tending to.
In response to: Women: If you had great boyfriend or partner who was unemployed, would you support him? Would you, if you did support him, expect him to do the housework and look after the kids?
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In response to: Women: If you had great boyfriend or partner who was unemployed, would you support him? Would you, if you did support him, expect him to do the housework and look after the kids?
It would depend on the circumstances of how he became unemployed in the first place.If he turned out to be a lazy bum no I wouldn't support him.If he had a disabiliity and couldn't ever work yes I would.If there were kids involved yes I would expect him to do his share of child rearing.As for the housework well no I wouldn't expect him to do all of it.We would both do our share.
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