Not My Comfort Zone (28)
sassy49seniorItty Bitty, Nebraska USA274 Threads 4,632 PostsI watched a movie where a guy was in love with this lady but did not let her know and she truly believed they were just friends. She met, dated, fell in love with and married his brother. Of course there was much more to the movie. But what hit me was wondering if we find ourselves doing the same thing, either here on CS or in real life. I did this several months ago, which was completely stepping out of my comfort zone. I let a man from here know I was very interested in him and poof he was gone. He does appear about once every 2 or three months in the forums but I completely leave him alone. I also do not feel right taking that first step. Yet, I think, Sassy girl, you know you would love to spend your last years with that guy who is waiting for you, so why do I not go for it? 
Do any of you feel reluctant to make that first move? 
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it would somehow feel insecure about making the first move
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Yes, I too feel reluctant. Some of it was how I was raised...to let the man make the first move. I know times have changed but I really haven't.
Sometimes I have emailed or flowered a few gentlemen and some have not responded but I look at it as their loss. I don't want a man that doesn't adore me anyway. I'm sure we will both find the right one gal. Hang in there.
Sometimes I have emailed or flowered a few gentlemen and some have not responded but I look at it as their loss. I don't want a man that doesn't adore me anyway. I'm sure we will both find the right one gal. Hang in there.
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What was the name of the movie?
and please go for it! When you ain't got nothing, you ain't got nothing to lose....you never know...
and please go for it! When you ain't got nothing, you ain't got nothing to lose....you never know...
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Sometimes stepping out of our comfort zone is what gets the best results.
In the past I suffered from much greater shyness then I do now, so just asking a woman on a date was stepping out there.
In the past I suffered from much greater shyness then I do now, so just asking a woman on a date was stepping out there.
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Just for the record, for the first time ever I stepped out of my comfort zone at the beginning of the year and look where it got me.......we are now married.
If "I" can do it, anyone can.
If "I" can do it, anyone can.
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I put up a Thread many months ago and asked the question to the ladies of CS if they would make the first move and contact a man. Most, an overwhelming majority, said they wouldn't make the first contact.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
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hopefloats: Just for the record, for the first time ever I stepped out of my comfort zone at the beginning of the year and look where it got me.......we are now married.
If "I" can do it, anyone can.
If "I" can do it, anyone can.
Sis what an encouragement you and Slim are
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you have courage sassy keep having courage loving takes that doesnt it life requires it lol keep stepping out 
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Big_John: I put up a Thread many months ago and asked the question to the ladies of CS if they would make the first move and contact a man. Most, an overwhelming majority, said they wouldn't make the first contact.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Yup, and even if I'm not attracted to a lady, I'm always flattered that she was interested enough. And worse case scenario, if the person is a good person you have a friend. :)
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Big_John: I put up a Thread many months ago and asked the question to the ladies of CS if they would make the first move and contact a man. Most, an overwhelming majority, said they wouldn't make the first contact.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Thank You Big J and what great advice it is. Now I just have to get the courage to do it.
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sassy49senior: Thank You Big J and what great advice it is. Now I just have to get the courage to do it.
Go for it!!! We will alway be here to be with you....
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azdesperado72: Yup, and even if I'm not attracted to a lady, I'm always flattered that she was interested enough. And worse case scenario, if the person is a good person you have a friend. :)
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sassy49senior: Sis what an encouragement you and Slim are
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Dawn7z: you have courage sassy keep having courage loving takes that doesnt it life requires it lol keep stepping out
Dawn, Hi darlin', so nice to see you. How is your physical therapy? My strong vibes headed your way.
Shucks girl, I have such a soft heart that when I first meet someone I would probably scare them away. They would get such a big bear hug like I;ve known them for life.
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I did make the first move and it's cool to make the first move...guys get nervous too and just kinda wait.....
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Ah the old waiting game - where everyone waits for the other to make the move....and wait....and wait....and wait. And while everyone waits, time ticks slowly away, with none of us getting any younger. If you want something badly enough you usually have to go after it. People face rejection everyday here, sometimes we are the rejectors and sometimes we are the rejectees. What is meant for you can't be for someone else so rejection just means that that person might not have been for you.
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I don't often make the first move to be honest.
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Big_John: I put up a Thread many months ago and asked the question to the ladies of CS if they would make the first move and contact a man. Most, an overwhelming majority, said they wouldn't make the first contact.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
Your guy might be waiting for you to find him. Many are shy and doesn't know how to find you. Look for him right now and send him an email, flower or eCard. You have nothing to lose! The worst could happen is he doesn't respond. Do it now!!! Go for it girl.
I did
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Raven0: I did
Congrats and good luck!
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