Friends?Or something more? (31)
Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
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Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
i wished i had the answer to your question.who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
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Surely there are others in the
same situation.How do they deal is the question.
same situation.How do they deal is the question.
kratos: i wished i had the answer to your question.
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Some can't take rejection ..........hurts their ego
They may start with the intention of being friends but feelings grow and change ..........in some ways its a compliment that you come across so loveable to them
They may start with the intention of being friends but feelings grow and change ..........in some ways its a compliment that you come across so loveable to them
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Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
It's not easy to get into someone's mind and figure out what makes them tick, especially on these affairs. All I can do is guess and I guess they thought that if they agreed to be your friend you would either turn around and want more from them or you might have meant "friend first" but not wrote it?
I hope that makes sense...
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Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
I'm afraid it's the way we're wired though it kills me to admit it. I like to think of myself as a new man, sensitive, caring and compassionate. And I do try to be these things, but when an oppertunity arises, I'm just like the rest of the guys. It's our nature.
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Eclipse1: They think with their downstairs,rather than their upstairs
You got it sis!
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PB, for you 
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Yes I understand;I'm not here
to boost anyone's ego,I'm here
for friends.
Thank you for the kinds words.
to boost anyone's ego,I'm here
for friends.
Thank you for the kinds words.
almera03: Some can't take rejection ..........hurts their ego
They may start with the intention of being friends but feelings grow and change ..........in some ways its a compliment that you come across so loveable to them
They may start with the intention of being friends but feelings grow and change ..........in some ways its a compliment that you come across so loveable to them
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Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
But they are YOUR feelings..
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I clearly stated in my profile that
I'm here for friendship.IMO,a friendship
shouldn't be about agreeing to be a friend,
you either are a friend or not.
I'm here for friendship.IMO,a friendship
shouldn't be about agreeing to be a friend,
you either are a friend or not.
Grandepensees: It's not easy to get into someone's mind and figure out what makes them tick, especially on these affairs. All I can do is guess and I guess they thought that if they agreed to be your friend you would either turn around and want more from them or you might have meant "friend first" but not wrote it?
I hope that makes sense...
I hope that makes sense...
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I have had the privilege of getting know you. We kidded around about that big pink teddy bear and we fooled around putting logs on the fire..You have posted some good thoughts on some of my better threads, thanks for the nice words...You have shown me your world in your pictures...places, I may never get to see in person come alive, with you as my guide. I may move on someday but I will never forget the Beautiful world of my friend Polarbutterfly. What ever you go or what ever you do, I will always remember you....a friend....
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Polarbutterfly: I clearly stated in my profile that
I'm here for friendship.IMO,a friendship
shouldn't be about agreeing to be a friend,
you either are a friend or not.
I'm here for friendship.IMO,a friendship
shouldn't be about agreeing to be a friend,
you either are a friend or not.
Well, as I said, I don't pretend to know what goes on in some people's minds
You are right though, but where does that leave you then?
Do you have a boyfriend? Maybe you should say you have one, even if you don't... That should weed them out cleanly and quickly
But, to tell you the truth, there are very very, very few guys online who would agree to an online friendship without ulterior motives...
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Polarbutterfly: I've had the priviledge of making and keeping male friends
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.
Same way with some women...even to a point that I just say: "Win some loose some"! If they can't handle being "just friends", then they wouldn't be able to handle a real relationship! JMO!
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First of all OP I'm not buying the innocent thing; most women that love having lots of male friends usually can't hang the competition of being with a lot of women.
The love being the belle of the ball and getting all the attention including the flirting. Then when the guy takes it the wrong way the are oblivious to what is going on.
Sorry but I'm not buying the innocent victim thing. Just my opinion.
The love being the belle of the ball and getting all the attention including the flirting. Then when the guy takes it the wrong way the are oblivious to what is going on.
Sorry but I'm not buying the innocent victim thing. Just my opinion.
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gooddogman: I have had the privilege of getting know you. We kidded around about that big pink teddy bear and we fooled around putting logs on the fire..You have posted some good thoughts on some of my better threads, thanks for the nice words...You have shown me your world in your pictures...places, I may never get to see in person come alive, with you as my guide. I may move on someday but I will never forget the Beautiful world of my friend Polarbutterfly. What ever you go or what ever you do, I will always remember you....a friend....
DLong time no see sir!
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Polarbutterfly: Surely there are others in the
same situation.How do they deal is the question.
same situation.How do they deal is the question.
Also most men here have friends; I dont have the time to be online friends with dozens of women; I barely have time for my friends now so online buddies isnt' what I'm looking for.
For the most part this is a dating site, not a friend finding site.
I have lots of women that want to be online buddies but I dont have the time for that.
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Grandepensees: Well, as I said, I don't pretend to know what goes on in some people's minds
You are right though, but where does that leave you then?
Do you have a boyfriend? Maybe you should say you have one, even if you don't... That should weed them out cleanly and quickly
But, to tell you the truth, there are very very, very few guys online who would agree to an online friendship without ulterior motives...
You are right though, but where does that leave you then?
Do you have a boyfriend? Maybe you should say you have one, even if you don't... That should weed them out cleanly and quickly
But, to tell you the truth, there are very very, very few guys online who would agree to an online friendship without ulterior motives...
I agree and at the end of the day this is a connecting singles site not a making friends site. I'm on here primarily for romance and I can hardly be asking out one girl when I'm building a close friendship with another.I'm sorry Polar, and I like you, but I can't help but feel that you are being unrealistic.
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who've come to mean a great deal to me.They know that I'm
here just for friends.Yet,why is it that when the friendship
progresses to an understanding of just being friends,they
turn around and want something more?And,when I refuse to
oblige to their request,they say that I've wasted their
time or are turned off by my speaking my mind as to why I'm here (friends) and,they no longer are interested,not even in a friendship.The outcome being a loss of a friend.It just makes me
sad that SOME tend to play with my feelings.
I just don't get it.