Relocation, relationship "on hold"... (53)
Him asking for quits can be interpreted two ways:
1. He is the logical sort of person who sees things in black and white. Therefore, he reasons that you love each other but the distance in between is big, and ultimately you need to build new lives.
2. it is a tester for him to find out just how much you value the relationship. If you hold on, and he sees that his love life comes first and he can relocate to where you are now.
As much as this may sound not poetic, I suggest give yourself a time frame and discuss it with him. Something like, if we can't do this by six months then lets free each other.
1. He is the logical sort of person who sees things in black and white. Therefore, he reasons that you love each other but the distance in between is big, and ultimately you need to build new lives.
2. it is a tester for him to find out just how much you value the relationship. If you hold on, and he sees that his love life comes first and he can relocate to where you are now.
As much as this may sound not poetic, I suggest give yourself a time frame and discuss it with him. Something like, if we can't do this by six months then lets free each other.
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stefonline: You know seek...cant you just give it a rest for a moment....people grow tired of your macho egotistical ways....give it a rest please for the sake of us all....
well my sole mission in life is to annoy as many people as possible for as long as possible....
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
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seekndestroy: well my sole mission in life is to annoy as many people as possible for as long as possible....
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
Ah, a kindred spirit. You can manage the west coast and I will keep the mid south going. It is dirty work, but I can't be everywhere.
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stefonline: Just because you had so many Shi**y women experiences dont come in here and take it out on all the ladies in the forums....keep your zipper closed....
not "many".....
..... just one real bad one !!!!!
and i dont take it out on yall.... i just make comments that will (hopefully) edumacate all men about yall's evilness is all !!!!
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seekndestroy: well my sole mission in life is to annoy as many people as possible for as long as possible....
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
There is no way you are annoying me...I just think you are being very silly
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sweet_saucy2008: Ah, a kindred spirit. You can manage the west coast and I will keep the mid south going. It is dirty work, but I can't be everywhere.
well... i've been managing the NW territories but i'd gladly accept a promotion and expand to the entire West Coast....
....of course, that's with the goal in mind to take over international operations to include all of the Americas and Europe to start with !!!!!!
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seekndestroy: not "many".....
..... just one real bad one !!!!!
and i dont take it out on yall.... i just make comments that will (hopefully) edumacate all men about yall's evilness is all !!!!
..... just one real bad one !!!!!
and i dont take it out on yall.... i just make comments that will (hopefully) edumacate all men about yall's evilness is all !!!!
A bit sad for ya really....let other men make up their own minds...there not all as poisened as you....
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stefonline: There is no way you are annoying me...I just think you are being very silly
how about a compromise then.......
..... annoyingly silly??????
sounds like a win win to me !!!!
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stefonline: A bit sad for ya really....let other men make up their own minds...there not all as poisened as you....
YET !!!!!!!
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JMO but if you really wanted to be with him, you could move back. I doubt if I would in your situation though. It sounds to me like he doesn't want to have a relationship with you. My advice is to move on to greener pastures. Easier said than done but you'll be happier.
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ainegirl: Ok, so I've been hearing from family that the man of my dreams was wrong to feel the way he did. I recently relocated back to my home state because of several personal reasons and unfinished business, and the man I was seeing wasn't willing to come with me. I understood that, he has a good job, a great house, he's built his life where he was. He wasn't ready for a commitment either, so I wasn't able to pin down a time for my return, if ever. That made it impossible in his eyes to stay together, as there is now an entire state and then some between us. Therefore, tho he loves me and I adore him, he wants us to split. He said he considders it on hold, as he'd be willing to take it up again if I decided to go back.
My question is, some have said that if he loves me enough, he should go out of his way to make sure we're together, even if it means begging me to go back. I know him, and that's not him. I wouldn't love him as much if he wasn't who he is, so I'm not faulting him. Who's right? Should I give up on him cause he "doesn't love me enough to be selfish", or keep my feelings for him alive somewhere inside me because he's amazing?
My question is, some have said that if he loves me enough, he should go out of his way to make sure we're together, even if it means begging me to go back. I know him, and that's not him. I wouldn't love him as much if he wasn't who he is, so I'm not faulting him. Who's right? Should I give up on him cause he "doesn't love me enough to be selfish", or keep my feelings for him alive somewhere inside me because he's amazing?
Keep your feelings alive because he's amazing, especially if you plan on returning there. I find that others are quick to judge people without knowing everything, and you're right that you wouldn't love him if he was anyone other than who he is. Keep in touch, and consider the relationship on hold. Besides, you might find that with some time and space to miss you that he does, and might actually decide commitment isn't such a bad thing.
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seekndestroy: are you serious !!!!!
c'mon... its all about yall womens nowadays... he should quit his job, end any and all friendships, say goodbye to his family for he will no longer see them again.... sell his house (at a loss considering the economy) and run to you..... and you should not expect anything less...
and once he gets to where you are, you should securely attache the spiked chain collar around his neck and make him do everything you want.... make sure the spikes are aimed in and not out !!!!!
and if he ever complains that he did all this for YOU, make sure to remind him that IT MEN'S duty to cater to yall and that he is priviledged to have such a controlling woman love him so much !!!
c'mon... its all about yall womens nowadays... he should quit his job, end any and all friendships, say goodbye to his family for he will no longer see them again.... sell his house (at a loss considering the economy) and run to you..... and you should not expect anything less...
and once he gets to where you are, you should securely attache the spiked chain collar around his neck and make him do everything you want.... make sure the spikes are aimed in and not out !!!!!
and if he ever complains that he did all this for YOU, make sure to remind him that IT MEN'S duty to cater to yall and that he is priviledged to have such a controlling woman love him so much !!!
Certainly seems to be what her friends think he should've done, eh SND?Thankfully the OP seems to have more common sense.
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seekndestroy: well my sole mission in life is to annoy as many people as possible for as long as possible....
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
thus your request for me to stop only strengthens my resolve to continue god's work at any cost !!!!!
Think you are getting confused between
& 
SND? 
As to OP, as the old saying goes, Where there's a Will, There IS a Way!! Good luck whatever you decide
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Yash124g: Think you are getting confused between & SND?
As to OP, as the old saying goes, Where there's a Will, There IS a Way!! Good luck whatever you decide
As to OP, as the old saying goes, Where there's a Will, There IS a Way!! Good luck whatever you decide
Many times, where there is a will, there is a dead body someplace.
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HJFinAZ: Many times, where there is a will, there is a dead body someplace.
And a partner for someone to claim!!
Brilliant HJF...
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Yash124g: And a partner for someone to claim!!
Brilliant HJF...
Brilliant HJF...
Sometimes people just don't think clearly..
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HJFinAZ: Sometimes people just don't think clearly..
Apologies, HJF, not trying to be morbid, just know someone on CS is attracted to someone who just lost their loved one & while they do not want to approach them too quickly in their time of grief, nor do they want to lose the chance of being with a great person. Another difficult situation as the one on here is..
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druidess6308: Certainly seems to be what her friends think he should've done, eh SND?
Thankfully the OP seems to have more common sense.
Thankfully the OP seems to have more common sense.
yeah well that's one of the problems..... yall actually listen to your friends advise...... we tend to do the opposite of what they say..... cos we know thery are clueless (hence why they ARE our friends)
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I understand the guy, a house, a job. Now if he's really in love with you, his life should be with you, where you could be.