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phantom2flint, Michigan USA35 Threads 15 Polls 140 Postsi finally find someone that i like very much but she lives pretty far. my problem is she wont open up we talk but when she is upset she wont talk about it nomatter what i do any suggestions
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Move on.........sorry
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not much you can do buddy
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Take it slow, don't push-if it's meant to, it's meant to be and could be good for you as finding out more info about her(listen).
GL
GL
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id like to stay with her i know she has been hurt and she makes me happer then i have been in along time
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phantom2: i finally find someone that i like very much but she lives pretty far. my problem is she wont open up we talk but when she is upset she wont talk about it nomatter what i do any suggestions
Try talking to her about it??
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Tell her how u r feeling b4 simply moving on, If you do like this girl, then wouldnt it be better to try..
Maybe by you opening up, about your feelings for her etc, and your concern that she is not.. Also reassure but be honest, and say if the relationship is to grow etc. Then it will need both of you not just you, to make it work..
There could be many reasons for her not opening up, abusive relationships in the past, or maybe simply she could be feeling that if she was to tell you how she felt, you'd leave...
Good luck
Maybe by you opening up, about your feelings for her etc, and your concern that she is not.. Also reassure but be honest, and say if the relationship is to grow etc. Then it will need both of you not just you, to make it work..
There could be many reasons for her not opening up, abusive relationships in the past, or maybe simply she could be feeling that if she was to tell you how she felt, you'd leave...
Good luck
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If she makes you happy, enjoy things the way they are and move slowly. Or you could scare her off..
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Olsojente: Try talking to her about it??
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i talked to her cant say i feel alot better about it but atleast i know what on her mind.
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phantom2: i talked to her cant say i feel alot better about it but atleast i know what on her mind.
You can never know whats on a womans mind, don't fool yourself.
Good luck
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phantom2: i talked to her cant say i feel alot better about it but atleast i know what on her mind.
Find a professional and take the two of you to him or her...
At least that'll show you care alot for her to try.
Just remember .....a lot of these professionals are more messed-up than both of you .....
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fasterthanthem5: You can never know whats on a womans mind, don't fool yourself.
Good luck
Good luck
You don't mean that the mass of conflicting open-nerve endings in a woman's mind causes this do you ?
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In response to: i finally find someone that i like very much but she lives pretty far. my problem is she wont open up we talk but when she is upset she wont talk about it nomatter what i do any suggestions
Be patient. Don't push something she doesn't want to talk about. Just let her know you're here if/when she wants to talk about it. If it's something she feels is important to her, she'll come around. Be affectionate....hold her hand(give it a squeeze)...I've always seen that as a guy saying "everything will be ok." Give plenty of hugs and kisses. If she's been hurt before, it takes more than saying "i won't hurt you." Don't lose yourself in trying to make her happy. Try to remind her of good times that you've shared.
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phantom2: i finally find someone that i like very much but she lives pretty far. my problem is she wont open up we talk but when she is upset she wont talk about it nomatter what i do any suggestions
Suggest a break until she has sorted herself out
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drbombay: Take it slow, don't push-if it's meant to, it's meant to be and could be good for you as finding out more info about her(listen).
GL
GL
really depends how much you like her and want to stick with it 
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its along distance relationship so holding hands is alittle hard. as for knowing whats on her mind i know what was bothering her at the moment. and she has told me she likes me and i know its hard for her to say that. the only thing that makes me mad is she is always putting herself down.
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phantom2: its along distance relationship so holding hands is alittle hard. as for knowing whats on her mind i know what was bothering her at the moment. and she has told me she likes me and i know its hard for her to say that. the only thing that makes me mad is she is always putting herself down.
Well I'm no shrink but it sounds like she is suffering from very low self esteem. Somebody along the way has psychologically abused her is my guess whether it was a parent(s) an ex or whoever. Pump her up, compliment her, let her know she is worth a lot to you and to the world. Where is she from BTW?------ This thread is Archived ------
phantom2: i finally find someone that i like very much but she lives pretty far. my problem is she wont open up we talk but when she is upset she wont talk about it nomatter what i do any suggestions
sorry to hear that. Move on now and find another nice girlie
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