There's no fool like an old fool (87)
Jan1305: I´ve already commented on this thread, but I would like to respond to your post.
Intelligence and eloquence has no bearing whatsoever in our relationship choices generally speaking, but they do play a big part in deciding whether or not to prolong them.
Intelligence and eloquence has no bearing whatsoever in our relationship choices generally speaking, but they do play a big part in deciding whether or not to prolong them.
I agree with you. Generally, I think intelligent people fall in love just as often, but perhaps understand they have more options in how they deal with their life relationships. Good point.
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I think you made the right choice.
Age does matter.
In all sorts of ways.
And as bad as it hurts, it would have hurt a lot more a couple of years down the road after pouring your heart and soul into a relationship that couldn't endure.
Don't regret it.
Situations like that bear good fruit in your own spirit if you do the right thing.
It's a victory.
A lesson learned for all time.
Age does matter.
In all sorts of ways.
And as bad as it hurts, it would have hurt a lot more a couple of years down the road after pouring your heart and soul into a relationship that couldn't endure.
Don't regret it.
Situations like that bear good fruit in your own spirit if you do the right thing.
It's a victory.
A lesson learned for all time.
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amelie13: jlb, your pain is universal. If there is only one thing we all have in common, it's that we all know what its like to have loved and lost. We generally pine more for the people we perceive we can't have.
Having read the whole thread, I guess I'm wondering something - with kindness, does this guy deserve the pedestal you seem to have put him on? I don't know you, but you seem like an intelligent, eloquent woman with her whole life ahead of her. I appreciate your feelings for this guy as you mourn the end of this relationship but when you close your eyes and imagine Mr Right, is it him that you honestly see?
If it is, damn the age difference and the social perception and go get him. If it's not, any more time you spent with him would have prevented you from meeting the person you are meant to be with. I've learned the hard way that Mr Right or even Mr-Right-for-now never makes you cry yourself to sleep at night. Never.
Take care.
Having read the whole thread, I guess I'm wondering something - with kindness, does this guy deserve the pedestal you seem to have put him on? I don't know you, but you seem like an intelligent, eloquent woman with her whole life ahead of her. I appreciate your feelings for this guy as you mourn the end of this relationship but when you close your eyes and imagine Mr Right, is it him that you honestly see?
If it is, damn the age difference and the social perception and go get him. If it's not, any more time you spent with him would have prevented you from meeting the person you are meant to be with. I've learned the hard way that Mr Right or even Mr-Right-for-now never makes you cry yourself to sleep at night. Never.
Take care.
I'm not one who bumps threads just for the sake of bringing them back up. I do, however, want to respond to those who ask questions that I don't see until later on.
Thank you for your reply. It was exactly what you pointed out that told me I had to end it....I did not see him as my forever man, my Mr. Right, when I closed my eyes. Had we been close in age, he would indeed have been Mr. Right for me, but this wasn't the reality. And this is why I ended it...or, as Jan said, why I chose not to prolong it.
Thank you all for your posts. They do help, each in their own way.
Now, I just want to move forward and I am doing the best I can to do just that. No, I'm not going to try to get over one man by getting under another, as the saying goes. I just want to gain myself back. I want to smile and laugh and feel carefree again. I will, I know this. Day by day, I will get ME back again. If others write more, I likely will not respond to this thread again...it's time to put it to rest.
Thanks, everyone.
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Strength to you. it's easy to say, but it's true, time heals all wounds.
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In a way you are so lucky to have those deep feelings still .The only thing worse than that is no feelings at all! I often wonder if i will ever get it back or....if.... I ever want to. 
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Martia: In a way you are so lucky to have those deep feelings still .The only thing worse than that is no feelings at all! I often wonder if i will ever get it back or....if.... I ever want to.
Yes, you will, it just takes meeting the right man for you to bring them back out and floating up there again..... ;)
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Having read the whole thread, I guess I'm wondering something - with kindness, does this guy deserve the pedestal you seem to have put him on? I don't know you, but you seem like an intelligent, eloquent woman with her whole life ahead of her. I appreciate your feelings for this guy as you mourn the end of this relationship but when you close your eyes and imagine Mr Right, is it him that you honestly see?
If it is, damn the age difference and the social perception and go get him. If it's not, any more time you spent with him would have prevented you from meeting the person you are meant to be with. I've learned the hard way that Mr Right or even Mr-Right-for-now never makes you cry yourself to sleep at night. Never.
Take care.
I´ve already commented on this thread, but I would like to respond to your post.
Intelligence and eloquence has no bearing whatsoever in our relationship choices generally speaking, but they do play a big part in deciding whether or not to prolong them.