Letting Go... (46)
Letting go and moving on starts from within. First I had to forgive myself for what had occurred. Next I have to forgive him for his actions.
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StressFree: How do you let go?
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
All of a kind.
I only beat my head against the wall because it feels so good when I stop.
"So ,no doubt, in time gone by
Some have suffered more than I,
Who only spend the night alone,
To strike my fist against the stone."
A.E.Housman
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StressFree: How do you let go?
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
The best way to get over a broekn relationship is to get drunk every day for six months and have one night stands with as many women as possible in the same time period; gthen spend a few weeks in rehab while you undego nasty tests to determine whether or not you've contracted green tree frog disease.
Provided you get a clean bill of health, you should by then have 'let go' of the relationship that 'died'.
Works for me every time!
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RobertC2: The best way to get over a broekn relationship is to get drunk every day for six months and have one night stands with as many women as possible in the same time period; gthen spend a few weeks in rehab while you undego nasty tests to determine whether or not you've contracted green tree frog disease.
Provided you get a clean bill of health, you should by then have 'let go' of the relationship that 'died'.
Works for me every time!
Provided you get a clean bill of health, you should by then have 'let go' of the relationship that 'died'.
Works for me every time!
Sorry, above was all a joke!
Cry!
Cry a lot!
Once you're totally dehydrated drink and cry some more!
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LETTING GO---author unknown
To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means you can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I cannot control another.
to let go is not to enable, but to learn from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To LET GO IS NOT TO CRITICIZE AND REGULATE ANYBODY BUT TO BECOME WHAT I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less, and love more.
To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means you can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I cannot control another.
to let go is not to enable, but to learn from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.
To LET GO IS NOT TO CRITICIZE AND REGULATE ANYBODY BUT TO BECOME WHAT I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less, and love more.
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StressFree: How do you let go?
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
Feel free to discuss any of the following:
- an old lover and relationship that you wanted to last forever and had great difficulty moving on after the breakup
- bad memories
- circumstances that you want to change but is out of your control
- resentment; the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult
I learned to let go because I was "robbing myself". He was fine and I was a hopeless case waiting for him to possibly come back. Perhaps if I didn't have a child with him the connection would have been different, but alas that wasn't the case. I spent too many years beating myself up that I wasn't worthy of a relationship - I think when I made that realization that I was only hurting myself it was like a ton of bricks falling on me. I remember crying like crazy because of all the pain that I had caused to myself - when I let go - there was freedom and peace.
My perspective is everything.
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langleygirl: I learned to let go because I was "robbing myself". He was fine and I was a hopeless case waiting for him to possibly come back. Perhaps if I didn't have a child with him the connection would have been different, but alas that wasn't the case. I spent too many years beating myself up that I wasn't worthy of a relationship - I think when I made that realization that I was only hurting myself it was like a ton of bricks falling on me. I remember crying like crazy because of all the pain that I had caused to myself - when I let go - there was freedom and peace.
My perspective is everything.
My perspective is everything.
Wonderful!
The truth - and beautifully written.... same thing happened to me!
(apart from the giving birth bit and the other person was, of course, a woman and not a man in my case....... but you get my drift - right?).
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langleygirl: I learned to let go because I was "robbing myself". He was fine and I was a hopeless case waiting for him to possibly come back. Perhaps if I didn't have a child with him the connection would have been different, but alas that wasn't the case. I spent too many years beating myself up that I wasn't worthy of a relationship - I think when I made that realization that I was only hurting myself it was like a ton of bricks falling on me. I remember crying like crazy because of all the pain that I had caused to myself - when I let go - there was freedom and peace.
My perspective is everything.
My perspective is everything.
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RobertC2: Wonderful!
The truth - and beautifully written.... same thing happened to me!
(apart from the giving birth bit and the other person was, of course, a woman and not a man in my case....... but you get my drift - right?).
The truth - and beautifully written.... same thing happened to me!
(apart from the giving birth bit and the other person was, of course, a woman and not a man in my case....... but you get my drift - right?).
I understand ........ I spent too many years being hurt, angry and depressed. Once in a while, I still have moments of those emotions, but I don't allow them to cripple me anymore. I acknowledge them, deal with it and move forward.
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Great contributions everybody Such practical, wise, and wonderful information and testimonies in here.
I should hope this thread will help those who may need to see the views of others regarding letting go. It's not an overnight process of letting go. It's a painful and healthy process that we all go through. We live, we learn.
I have learned painful lessons of holding on too long which only contributed to a lot of disharmony and hurt. Getting perspective is everything--perception is reality.
Such practical, wise, and wonderful information and testimonies in here. I should hope this thread will help those who may need to see the views of others regarding letting go. It's not an overnight process of letting go. It's a painful and healthy process that we all go through. We live, we learn.
I have learned painful lessons of holding on too long which only contributed to a lot of disharmony and hurt. Getting perspective is everything--perception is reality.
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Well, if you truly loved one another, you would have been friends first and friends last.
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Nice thread!!!!!
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getglad: Well, if you truly loved one another, you would have been friends first and friends last.
Exactly! From my understanding, love means letting go so we cause no harm to our loved ones (ex's) and to ourselves.
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LETTING GO IS HEALTHY...and I've let alot of s.hit slide in my life....maybe too many.
However,there are a few things I won't let go of...
Mess with someone I CARE ABOUT..family...friends..
I DON'T LET GO.
However,there are a few things I won't let go of...
Mess with someone I CARE ABOUT..family...friends..
I DON'T LET GO.
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StressFree: Exactly! From my understanding, love means letting go so we cause no harm to our loved ones (ex's) and to ourselves.
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langleygirl: I understand ........ I spent too many years being hurt, angry and depressed. Once in a while, I still have moments of those emotions, but I don't allow them to cripple me anymore. I acknowledge them, deal with it and move forward.
I've been there too langleygirl. I still think "what if" at times, but not in a resentful way---but more in a way of having a good perspective on it with a great deal of understanding and acknowledging the experience. I did take it personal long ago and it did cripple me in a lot of ways, but now it just adds to my understanding. It's no fun when the hand from the past reaches forward and dictates the present in negative ways. We always have the choice to let go or hold on. No easy process, but at some point, we realize that holding on does not bring happiness and there are always new doors to walk through.------ This thread is Archived ------
Darn.......guess we need to be serious here......
Ok, I had a lady that I was completely and spiritually in love with. She was my dream come true - until I repeatedly determined she was a chronic liar. She beleived her own manufactured truths - which worked for her .
Anyway as years went by - I actually woke up in the middle of the night hating myself for sticking it out with her - but felt helplessly attached to her menatlly and physically. To add to my concerns was my complete love for her two daughters that I helped her raise for a 6 years.
One day I finally got up and left ........my heart was broken to pieces. I found a relationship counselor who helped me re-gain my self-worth and identity, and he helped me realize that she wasn't a good partner for me. It took years to get beyond being crushed inside from that relationship. I have since then spoken with the girls and explained that I still love them and was sorry it didn't work.
To this day - I beleive I'll never find a woman to replace that very special connection we had...and I'm very angry with her for throwing that away .................
Ok, I had a lady that I was completely and spiritually in love with. She was my dream come true - until I repeatedly determined she was a chronic liar. She beleived her own manufactured truths - which worked for her .
Anyway as years went by - I actually woke up in the middle of the night hating myself for sticking it out with her - but felt helplessly attached to her menatlly and physically. To add to my concerns was my complete love for her two daughters that I helped her raise for a 6 years.
One day I finally got up and left ........my heart was broken to pieces. I found a relationship counselor who helped me re-gain my self-worth and identity, and he helped me realize that she wasn't a good partner for me. It took years to get beyond being crushed inside from that relationship. I have since then spoken with the girls and explained that I still love them and was sorry it didn't work.
To this day - I beleive I'll never find a woman to replace that very special connection we had...and I'm very angry with her for throwing that away .................
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Believe - I before "e" except after "c" ..........
Why can't CS have auto spell-check ?
Why can't CS have auto spell-check ?
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