What's holding you back ? (156)
LadyPhoenix1965: As long as you make it clear at the outset, but still be careful who you date.
I started dating someon I really liked on another site who - right in his profile - stated he was NOT interested in a serious thing. He was great! I let myself get attached, and ended up getting hurt. Who was to blame...??? I blame myself. He was very clear, but it still hurt.
The weird thing is, he still calls. I still answer.
I started dating someon I really liked on another site who - right in his profile - stated he was NOT interested in a serious thing. He was great! I let myself get attached, and ended up getting hurt. Who was to blame...??? I blame myself. He was very clear, but it still hurt.
The weird thing is, he still calls. I still answer.
Definitely - thing is, no one within a reasonable realistic dating distance has actually contacted me on here and any other chat or contact I've had hasn't developed beyond light conversation. I guess I really ain't great at replying due to the barriers I have anyway
If it does get more meaningful, I wouldn't ever lead anyone on. Been there myself, done that, bought the t-shirt, it was a sucky t-shirt!And don't blame yourself entirely - I presume he knows you like him and he's still calling, that ain't exactly fair
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SmilerFC: Definitely - thing is, no one within a reasonable realistic dating distance has actually contacted me on here and any other chat or contact I've had hasn't developed beyond light conversation. I guess I really ain't great at replying due to the barriers I have anyway If it does get more meaningful, I wouldn't ever lead anyone on. Been there myself, done that, bought the t-shirt, it was a sucky t-shirt!
And don't blame yourself entirely - I presume he knows you like him and he's still calling, that ain't exactly fair
And don't blame yourself entirely - I presume he knows you like him and he's still calling, that ain't exactly fair
Yeah, he knows. I think he likes me too, but whatever it is that's holding him back is chronic... I hope it's not to arrogant to say that I think he's torturing himself as much as he is me. I think that's why I still answer...
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LadyPhoenix1965: Yeah, he knows. I think he likes me too, but whatever it is that's holding him back is chronic... I hope it's not to arrogant to say that I think he's torturing himself as much as he is me. I think that's why I still answer...
Hmmmm..well it's easy to come up with instant judgements and advice on these things when it's someone else but I you seem quite aware of the situation and it's limitations, regardless of still being in touch with him so no point in telling you what you already know
Just don't let it be something that prevents you from meeting someone new and more open to what it is you're looking for. Try not to make what you have with him 'the norm' or acceptable if you really want to move on
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SmilerFC: Hmmmm..well it's easy to come up with instant judgements and advice on these things when it's someone else but I you seem quite aware of the situation and it's limitations, regardless of still being in touch with him so no point in telling you what you already know
Just don't let it be something that prevents you from meeting someone new and more open to what it is you're looking for. Try not to make what you have with him 'the norm' or acceptable if you really want to move on
Just don't let it be something that prevents you from meeting someone new and more open to what it is you're looking for. Try not to make what you have with him 'the norm' or acceptable if you really want to move on
No worries there, Honey! Although he calls, and writes, and texts, I haven't actually seen him since before Christmas. I'm not putting my life on hold.
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LadyPhoenix1965: No worries there, Honey! Although he calls, and writes, and texts, I haven't actually seen him since before Christmas. I'm not putting my life on hold.
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LadyPhoenix1965: No worries there, Honey! Although he calls, and writes, and texts, I haven't actually seen him since before Christmas. I'm not putting my life on hold.
Think it might be time to let go...dont answer calls, letters or texts....JMO
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stefonline: Think it might be time to let go...dont answer calls, letters or texts....JMO
I think he's lonely. Sad...
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LadyPhoenix1965: I think he's lonely. Sad...
That's not your problem......we are not crutches for others....
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desmond: what is funny is you send a flower saying you like her profile and she does not have the kindnest to say thank you but the next night she has the high morals to coment on your flower to me if she is not insersted the frist time why stict your nose into it it.get a damn life .I sent her one flower and never bother her again but she has to try to be funny she might need to google funny before trying it
Desie dear...GO TAKE A FEW HOT LAPS!!
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HJFinAZ: Desie dear...GO TAKE A FEW HOT LAPS!!
Oh, yeah, that'll help. Let's make fun of the guy in pain...
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stefonline: That's not your problem......we are not crutches for others....
I hear what you're saying, Stef. My main problem? I'm a social worker... What are you gonna do???
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LadyPhoenix1965: I hear what you're saying, Stef. My main problem? I'm a social worker... What are you gonna do???
I get you.....I'm one of those too although an unpaid unqualified one.....
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stefonline: I get you.....I'm one of those too although an unpaid unqualified one.....
I was there too! Now I'm qualified, unpaid. Working on it one step at a time.
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LadyPhoenix1965: I was there too! Now I'm qualified, unpaid. Working on it one step at a time.
At college studying a different subject at present...maybe I'l go back to that one at a later date....
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Nothing is holding me back; nothing is in my way; and, I have no excuses!
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Ach well, I'm here for the banter anyways...
As long as you make it clear at the outset, but still be careful who you date.
I started dating someon I really liked on another site who - right in his profile - stated he was NOT interested in a serious thing. He was great! I let myself get attached, and ended up getting hurt. Who was to blame...??? I blame myself. He was very clear, but it still hurt.
The weird thing is, he still calls. I still answer.