GingerBe: Culturally in my era, women waited until they were asked.
My attitude is that I have filled in the criteria for a profile and if someone likes it then they can contact me. If not, fine too. I am not in the business of chasing anyone.
Meanwhile I make friends and chat with people.
This is very true.
I may make the first contact, but I wouldn't be comfortable in the men's role of pursuing.
Some men pursue a woman and then when they get her they push her away, because of their own insecurities.
Big_John: I have friends in Canada who live in Ottawa. Also, I been to Sault Ste Marie many, many times.... beautiful places in the summer, but I can't handle the winters up there. JMHO...
Wouldn't mind if it did not snow on the roads or sidewalks!!!
Big_John: Anybody can play from that short grass in the middle of the fairways.... A really good golfer can play from the rough, behind trees and out in the woods.
You are absolutely right, never thought of it that way ! You have changed my outlook totally and can now go out and hold my head high, in the woods ......
RDM59: You are absolutely right, never thought of it that way ! You have changed my outlook totally and can now go out and hold my head high, in the woods ......
Just look how much more impressive Tiger Woods is when he pulls off one of those fantastic shots from deep in the woods.
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
texasgirl8585: This is very true.
I may make the first contact, but I wouldn't be comfortable in the men's role of pursuing.
Some men pursue a woman and then when they get her they push her away, because of their own insecurities.
So because a guy gets to know you, then realises you are maybe not compatible, or you are not what he was looking for...... you blame it on his insecurities
I know all women are absolutely perfect and never wrong, but maybe there are some truths that need to faced here !
Veritaas: I can understand that, a the past can leave scars that last a life time. Perhaps not everyone gets over a failed relationship but in time it just gets easier to deal with. For me the past is exactly that. I am not going to spend hours upon hours analysing why something failed, why, because you can see right before your very eyes happening.
True I'll just have to lighten up a little and maybe take folk a little more at face value..... amazing what you do at half time
Hi JB Hope you are nearer to that happening. How did the date go?
It wasn't really a date...his friend was having an opening party for his restaurant and he invited me along...we share a lot of the same friends so there was a group of us and we had a great time, he was quite attentive which was a good thing and laughed at my sarcastic quips and told someone to be quiet when they started to talk over me...all good signs!
But it's complicated...his wife of 22 years just left him 2 weeks ago and he's leaving on monday to do a film shoot in Germany and will be gone for about a month, so we'll see what happens.
Veritaas: I can understand that, a the past can leave scars that last a life time. Perhaps not everyone gets over a failed relationship but in time it just gets easier to deal with. For me the past is exactly that. I am not going to spend hours upon hours analysing why something failed, why, because you can see right before your very eyes happening.
Englishman55: So because a guy gets to know you, then realises you are maybe not compatible, or you are not what he was looking for...... you blame it on his insecurities
I know all women are absolutely perfect and never wrong, but maybe there are some truths that need to faced here !
JMHO
Agree...why is it that people just can't accept the fact that the person just wasn't into them after getting to know them?
There always has to be a reason blaming the other person...he's insecure, she doesn't like " nice guys"...
Face it people...sometimes "they're just not that into you"
Englishman55: So because a guy gets to know you, then realises you are maybe not compatible, or you are not what he was looking for...... you blame it on his insecurities
I know all women are absolutely perfect and never wrong, but maybe there are some truths that need to faced here !
JMHO
Now that is what I am waiting for a man who thinks I am perfect and can do no wrong. Do you like older women
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My attitude is that I have filled in the criteria for a profile and if someone likes it then they can contact me. If not, fine too. I am not in the business of chasing anyone.
Meanwhile I make friends and chat with people.
This is very true.
I may make the first contact, but I wouldn't be comfortable in the men's role of pursuing.
Some men pursue a woman and then when they get her they push her away, because of their own insecurities.