What's holding you back ? (156)
Conrad73: What's holding you back ?That Cursed Instant Glue some Clown dropped on my Desk-Chair!
A jug of "Shine" might loosen the glue...
What a waste of good SHINE!!!
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Excuses....excuses.....excuses......
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stefonline: Excuses....excuses.....excuses......
You are right !! I think this is sort of what I was getting at when I asked..."what's your deal" in the OP.I am going to try to lose the excuses soon. At least I am working on the insecurities and coming along well. No more excuses.
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Veritaas: Nothing holding me back
Nothing holding me back either anymore...
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jeepers: Looking at profiles I see where people are looking for this, looking for that...but really, are you looking ? Are you ready ?
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
I just haven't found any guy willing to live with me and my stick.
Just kidding.
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xxfrecklesxx: Nothing holding me back either anymore...
Go for it!
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Englishman55: So because a guy gets to know you, then realises you are maybe not compatible, or you are not what he was looking for......
you blame it on his insecurities
I know all women are absolutely perfect and never wrong, but maybe there are some truths that need to faced here !
JMHO
you blame it on his insecurities
I know all women are absolutely perfect and never wrong, but maybe there are some truths that need to faced here !
JMHO
Being sarky doesn't suit you!
Hey give her a break here English! She said SOME men, not ALL men. She also didn't say it was personal. She was just talking generally and I agreed with her.
SOME men are are full of insecurities and just chase for the sake of it.
MOST of them wouldn't know what to do with a woman if they actaully caught up with one. They are like little dogs barking at car tyres.
YES, there are other types of characteristics that men have too.........It would just take too long to mention all the combinations.
Now who stole your muffin today?
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jbibiza: I'm not big on making first moves either... I don't fear rejection as much as I worry about winding up with a man who could have been quite happy with almost anyone who had taken the initiative... I want to know the attraction was for me, not that I made it easy.
But jbibiza, if you are one of those who need 'instant chemistry/love at first sight' (or whatever we term it), then your don't need to worry as you will know if he feels the same way.
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jbibiza: It wasn't really a date...his friend was having an opening party for his restaurant and he invited me along...we share a lot of the same friends so there was a group of us and we had a great time, he was quite attentive which was a good thing and laughed at my sarcastic quips and told someone to be quiet when they started to talk over me...all good signs!
But it's complicated...his wife of 22 years just left him 2 weeks ago and he's leaving on monday to do a film shoot in Germany and will be gone for about a month, so we'll see what happens.
But it's complicated...his wife of 22 years just left him 2 weeks ago and he's leaving on monday to do a film shoot in Germany and will be gone for about a month, so we'll see what happens.
Sounds like it could still be promising when he gets over the rebound stage.
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jeepers: Looking at profiles I see where people are looking for this, looking for that...but really, are you looking ? Are you ready ?
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
My fella and I were talking about this very subject earlier this evening. He gave me a male perspective (although it does depend on individual personality, of course). Some men lack the confidence for reasons you mention, choosing to avoid the possibility of rejection rather than try. I have, many times, had male friends confirm this.
My view is, based on that, one would be making assumptions about rejection, surely? The bottom line is that faint heart never won fair maiden, my friend. What's the worst that can happen? Nobody has ever actually died from embarrassment and chances are she may feel the same way?
Missing what might be a wonderful opportunity is one thing, but..... of your own volition?! We have so few chances in life and ALMOST never a second chance....
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roseofsharon: My fella and I were talking about this very subject earlier this evening. He gave me a male perspective (although it does depend on individual personality, of course). Some men lack the confidence for reasons you mention, choosing to avoid the possibility of rejection rather than try. I have, many times, had male friends confirm this.
My view is, based on that, one would be making assumptions about rejection, surely? The bottom line is that faint heart never won fair maiden, my friend. What's the worst that can happen? Nobody has ever actually died from embarrassment and chances are she may feel the same way?
Missing what might be a wonderful opportunity is one thing, but..... of your own volition?! We have so few chances in life and ALMOST never a second chance....
Brilliant ! My view is, based on that, one would be making assumptions about rejection, surely? The bottom line is that faint heart never won fair maiden, my friend. What's the worst that can happen? Nobody has ever actually died from embarrassment and chances are she may feel the same way?
Missing what might be a wonderful opportunity is one thing, but..... of your own volition?! We have so few chances in life and ALMOST never a second chance....
I think you have hit the nail on the head here for me.
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jeepers: Brilliant !
I think you have hit the nail on the head here for me.
I think you have hit the nail on the head here for me.
I just hope it helps you, Jeeps.
My fella told me a true story of a girl he knew working in a bar and one night when a fella and his bride were having their wedding reception in the Function Room, he asked how she was. She was a little tearful though trying not to show it but said she was fine. He asked what was up and she mentioned the wedding celebrations that were going on. It transpired that she really had liked this guy for ages and my fella asked her if she ever made this known to him. She said she hadn't, she had been too afraid he would reject her.....
Ya see... who knows?! I have had male friends tell me they have lived to regret not persuing something they should've.
I say.... GO FOR IT!!!
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roseofsharon: I just hope it helps you, Jeeps.
My fella told me a true story of a girl he knew working in a bar and one night when a fella and his bride were having their wedding reception in the Function Room, he asked how she was. She was a little tearful though trying not to show it but said she was fine. He asked what was up and she mentioned the wedding celebrations that were going on. It transpired that she really had liked this guy for ages and my fella asked her if she ever made this known to him. She said she hadn't, she had been too afraid he would reject her.....
Ya see... who knows?! I have had male friends tell me they have lived to regret not persuing something they should've.
I say.... GO FOR IT!!!
My fella told me a true story of a girl he knew working in a bar and one night when a fella and his bride were having their wedding reception in the Function Room, he asked how she was. She was a little tearful though trying not to show it but said she was fine. He asked what was up and she mentioned the wedding celebrations that were going on. It transpired that she really had liked this guy for ages and my fella asked her if she ever made this known to him. She said she hadn't, she had been too afraid he would reject her.....
Ya see... who knows?! I have had male friends tell me they have lived to regret not persuing something they should've.
I say.... GO FOR IT!!!
Hmmm....I will keep my eyes pealed....maybe look around a bit !
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i say just go for it, life is toooo, short,my deal is iv'e been single/ widowed, too long
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jeepers: Hmmm....
I will keep my eyes pealed....maybe look around a bit !
I will keep my eyes pealed....maybe look around a bit !
Well, I think you're fab... truly! If I wasn't spoken for....
I can't imagine any woman on the Forums not going for you!
What a catch!
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roseofsharon: Well, I think you're fab... truly! If I wasn't spoken for....
I can't imagine any woman on the Forums not going for you!
What a catch!
What a lovely thing to say. Thank you. I can't imagine any woman on the Forums not going for you!
What a catch!
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jeepers: Brilliant !
I think you have hit the nail on the head here for me.
I think you have hit the nail on the head here for me.
Yes, I'm with you there Jeepers that Roseofsharon has hit the nail on the head....
When we come to think of it, it is sad that out there are a group of guys like yourself who are "choosing to avoid the possibility of rejection rather than try", and similarly there is also a group of gals like myself who are also "choosing to avoid the possibility of rejection rather than try"...
I am chuckling at myself while thinking that maybe we should be emailing people we like / fancy with messages which says something along the lines of"
"Hi! I have decided that if I don't ask I wont know so, at the risk of being rejected, this is just a note to say I have read your profile and would love to correspond with you if you are interested in corresponding with me..."
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In response to: Looking at profiles I see where people are looking for this, looking for that...but really, are you looking ? Are you ready ?
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
Well, it's the finances isn't it. I can't wander around the globe looking for the one. I would love to be with someone in particular on this site, however, we are in no postion atm to do anything more than chat and exchange photos.
I have had only one contact locally, but my feelings for the abovementioned lady prevented me from pursuing it. I didn't instigate the contact, therefore, it's not some game as implied by some posts, or any insecurity, merely fidelity.
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jeepers: Looking at profiles I see where people are looking for this, looking for that...but really, are you looking ? Are you ready ?
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
What's holding you back from going for the one, or ones who seem so interesting to you ?
For me, it is personal insecurities caused by a failed marriage, two relationships afterwards that shouldn't have happened, and financial. I see ladies all the time, thinking I would really like to get to know that person, but I hold myself back.
What's your deal ? I have to go to work now and see what I can do about the financial insecurities now ~!!
Have a nice day.
Nothing!! I'm ready now!
What I find that happens is, I express interest in someone, and they start pulling away. THEY'RE not the ones that are ready...
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