navygirl1: Why not? Don't you get tired of people screwing with your feelings? You open up yourself to love and someone will tear out your heart and walk all over you; thats what humans do. Or they will love you until something better comes along and dump you. Sort of like buying a car; using it; then trading it on a new model. My friends told me these things but didn't beleive it until I started dating; guess what they were right. Is it a wonder most of turn our back on love?
I am happy to say I haven't gone through the heartache you apparently have suffered at the hands of self centered men. I hope that you find the love you deserve. In order to find that love you need to open your heart and of course that leaves you vulnerable to heartache again. Bitterness only adds to the problem.
jdc5558: I am happy to say I haven't gone through the heartache you apparently have suffered at the hands of self centered men. I hope that you find the love you deserve. In order to find that love you need to open your heart and of course that leaves you vulnerable to heartache again. Bitterness only adds to the problem.
So, I open up my heart only for more men to hurt me. Seems kind of silly to willingly set yourself up to get hurt. As for deserving love; maybe I did something in life that destiny has decided that I don't deserve love. If this is my fate; how can I fight it?
navygirl1: So, I open up my heart only for more men to hurt me. Seems kind of silly to willingly set yourself up to get hurt. As for deserving love; maybe I did something in life that destiny has decided that I don't deserve love. If this is my fate; how can I fight it?
First I come in piece and with compassion. I do not know your entire story only a small part from which you have wished to share with us in the forums.
How can you fight? I would say please stop with the thoughts of (Setting Yourself Up)!!!!! to get hurt. One that has a outlook such as this is more times than not going to attract exactly what it is you are asking for. A loser that can sense the vulnerability and take advantage of your heart. We usually get what we feel we deserve. Your profile states that you are a srong and independant woman. I do not doubt this for a minute, but at some point and I know you will, decide that you can have love in your life as well.
Destiny has not decided anything for you. You, your thoughts and actions are your destiny. Your fate is what you are going to decide!!!!!! I wish you all the best.
swedenbound: First I come in piece and with compassion. I do not know your entire story only a small part from which you have wished to share with us in the forums.
How can you fight? I would say please stop with the thoughts of (Setting Yourself Up)!!!!! to get hurt. One that has a outlook such as this is more times than not going to attract exactly what it is you are asking for. A loser that can sense the vulnerability and take advantage of your heart. We usually get what we feel we deserve. Your profile states that you are a srong and independant woman. I do not doubt this for a minute, but at some point and I know you will, decide that you can have love in your life as well.
Destiny has not decided anything for you. You, your thoughts and actions are your destiny. Your fate is what you are going to decide!!!!!! I wish you all the best.
I thank you for your kinds words but really its just not worth the effort anymore. I will be glad just meeting casual friends and keep my heart guarded. I can plenty of things in my life without anyone by my side and certainly won't die from being alone. Cheers.
I dont know. Thats something I havent thought of since my divorce. I thought I had it right the last time. Now Im not going to rush things just let it happen. Ive been to analytical in the past relationships. This time Ill be irrational and see where that takes me.
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