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Brad1983: Hi,
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
Patience is a virtue that is often rewarded. Stay the course if you really care, learn about her but more importantly learn about how you are when you are with her.Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
It doesn't hurt to approach someone and start the conversation CAUSE you work with or near OR in the same company....
Kick off a 1 on 1 conversation... If she gives you the heeby geebies.. Forget it after that night but otherwise it would have been the best move ever...
( Not all that glitters is GOLD)
Kick off a 1 on 1 conversation... If she gives you the heeby geebies.. Forget it after that night but otherwise it would have been the best move ever...
( Not all that glitters is GOLD)
Thanks, I think so too, as she is kinda seeing someone which is on very shaky ground(they're not really together used to be). Past experience has told, and how you pointed out, it is best to find out if you are compatible with someone before jumping in head first.
Brad1983: Hi,
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
Just invite her for coffee and then ask if she would like to go for dinner one night....yes or no you have your answer if she fancies you or not,just make sure its no big deal about coffee.
That way you wont scare her off! thats if she likes you back of course.If not it will be no to coffee.
AH that's different.A friendly confidant would be the way to go so no hurt feelings on either side. 
Well just go for it..liked a night in shinning armor..and make her feel like a princes...women love that..
i have got myself into a lil bind , my sister has a friend ill call miss x she has a boyfriend and has just found out shes pregnant to him , all good and well but miss x has told my sis that she has a major crush on myself i have chatted to miss x on many occasions and have rather hit it off rather well,her partner well he just sits like a ornament and offers no input,i however let my hair down an go for gold,so suggested we all go to town for some refreshments loll, well during the night i left for a breath of air to be joined by miss x,she was near all over me tells me she wants to get it on with me i was kind of worried dumbfounded i panicked went found my sister told her what miss x said and she said..and what ..you are a big boy make your own decisions go jump bones , dam i left went home by myself, 3 days later in thought mode during day i text miss x and asked her to meet, well cut huge story down i got with her and told her i liked her kind of,those moments awful silence as it was for couple hrs from the cell. 8pm a text day later asking to meet i go miss x was dress stunningly looked very nice ,we chatted and i then decided we were comfortable with each other , i told her how i felt she said the feelings were very mutual , acting on the moment we well jumped bones as such and have for the last few months, i say to miss x to tell him then leave but she fears he will not cope with the split,
Brad1983: Hi,
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
OK its like this.. if you like the girl, ask her out. She will only say yes or no.
If you play waiting games, she will think that you are not that into her.. and go out with the other guy... the one who asked her.
Just my advise
You could send her some flowers, $40 might be well spent
Hi Brad, You are the only person that has a sense of the energy when you are both in the same room, my advice would be listen to your gut/intuition and if you get a green light go with it and while patience is sometimes a virtue there are times when it is not ..
Best wishes for the outcome you want ...
Best wishes for the outcome you want ...
I also agree with what lok_simpson had to say with regards to getting involved with a work colleague.It takes 2 very mature people to be able to continue working under the same roof if it should all go pear shaped so to speak however, maybe that is something you could both talk about and explore if and when you get that date ..cheers
DjWabbet: Patience is a virtue that is often rewarded. Stay the course if you really care, learn about her but more importantly learn about how you are when you are with her.
As usual the wAbbet has good advice here but then there is a lot of other good advice coming through. good luck. Most people by percentage actually meet their partner these days through work.
EricD43: i have got myself into a lil bind , my sister has a friend ill call miss x she has a boyfriend and has just found out shes pregnant to him , all good and well but miss x has told my sis that she has a major crush on myself i have chatted to miss x on many occasions and have rather hit it off rather well,her partner well he just sits like a ornament and offers no input,i however let my hair down an go for gold,so suggested we all go to town for some refreshments loll, well during the night i left for a breath of air to be joined by miss x,she was near all over me tells me she wants to get it on with me i was kind of worried dumbfounded i panicked went found my sister told her what miss x said and she said..and what ..you are a big boy make your own decisions go jump bones , dam i left went home by myself, 3 days later in thought mode during day i text miss x and asked her to meet, well cut huge story down i got with her and told her i liked her kind of,those moments awful silence as it was for couple hrs from the cell. 8pm a text day later asking to meet i go miss x was dress stunningly looked very nice ,we chatted and i then decided we were comfortable with each other , i told her how i felt she said the feelings were very mutual , acting on the moment we well jumped bones as such and have for the last few months, i say to miss x to tell him then leave but she fears he will not cope with the split,
Eric you are in a bind mate. on another thread I mentioned that an ex had returned as a friend only but recently dropped a bombshell that she loves me. ONly issue is she is married & has three young ones.
You say miss X is pregnant.
My friend is well aware that first thing I am not happy that she was thinking of leaving her hubby for me, because of the kids coming from a broken home myself.
Not to mention that at present I am not in a position to support them.
so you have to consider those issues for a start.
Next is she stringing you a long. enjoys you because you are more out there than mr sit there do nothing. But with kid on the way will she really leave him?
men aren't the only ones who like to have their cake & eat it too.
Only you can make the decisions though.
tarnsnz: Why do people ask for advise and then, oops I forgot
she is a smoker better ran a mile
But I just wanted to see what people as I don't know who to make my own decision about asking someone on a date or not
Next question will be:
What if I ask her and she actually says yes, what do I do now
but
What if she says NO, how do I handle that reaction and I work with her, What will she think of me now
Maybe it might be easier just to stay single as just too many decisions to make
she is a smoker better ran a mile
But I just wanted to see what people as I don't know who to make my own decision about asking someone on a date or not
Next question will be:
What if I ask her and she actually says yes, what do I do now
but
What if she says NO, how do I handle that reaction and I work with her, What will she think of me now
Maybe it might be easier just to stay single as just too many decisions to make
Not everyone's balls are as big as yours and mine tarnz
serene56: Not everyone's balls are as big as yours and mine tarnz
now what shoes should I wear Serene 
Ah that's right I wear Boots in Winter
tarnsnz: now what shoes should I wear Serene
Ah that's right I wear Boots in Winter
Ah that's right I wear Boots in Winter
And one of these days those boots are gonna walk all over ..
Shell225: OK its like this.. if you like the girl, ask her out. She will only say yes or no.
If you play waiting games, she will think that you are not that into her.. and go out with the other guy... the one who asked her.
Just my advise
If you play waiting games, she will think that you are not that into her.. and go out with the other guy... the one who asked her.
Just my advise
Brad1983: Hi,
Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
I have never dated anyone I've worked with....personally cos I think if it didn't work there would be awkardness from then onWell here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???
Well just clicked onto your forum and Not sure if my advise will be of any use to you but here goes.I say go for gold.But how long have you tried to get to know her.At least as you say she is coming out of her shell.So maybe you will be a good thing for this girl,she may just need a guy to help her relate abit.And if you stay back and keep waiting you may miss out.So bite the bullet and go for it.Maybe ask her first how she fels about you.If she thinks you could be very good friends so to speak.But sounds like you will have to tread carefully and not scare her off in any way.Also maybe she has been too scared to ask you out herself.Alot of us are because we dont like rejection at all.But I do wish you all the best.Hope it works out for you.Sounds like you must really like this girl if you have taken this amount of time.So at least you are keen ay? Just be very gentle.GOOD LUCK...
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Well here's the story...there is this girl I work with that I would like to date, but she is very shy and quiet. I've taken the tact of getting to know her on work gatherings and things, and she is gradually coming out of her shell. I don't know whether I should stay on this path a little while longer or just go for the jugular(so to speak)???