vampire_red: I actually had a friend who has lost a child ask me that question not long ago although the way she asked it was a little more morbid. Basically if I could save only one of my 2 kids which one would I save and I could say both. There is definitely no way for me to answer that question. I could not pick just one of my kids to live. The question asked by Sampe1967 is not morbid or wrong as I see it because he is basically asking if you would sacrifice yourself or your children. Which in most cases a parent would say that they would sacrifice themselves to save their children. I know I would. But there are such cases when a parent sacrifices their children for their own selfish needs whether it is literally or figuratively. I have seen plenty of unfit parents out there put their own needs befire their children eating, having clothes, having a place to stay, and so on.
Actually re-the bit in bold, a few years ago there was a case here in Malta that made the headlines.
Two Siamese twins were born here connected at the head. The way they were connected, the 'youngest' baby had no chance to live to adulthood, or even be much more than a 'vegetable' in medical terms.
The oldest baby could be saved, so long as she was disconnected from her sister within a few months. Otherwise, she would have died as well.
Basically, the youngest one was doomed from the start, the oldest had a chance so long as the youngest was killed instead of letting her die a natural death.
Ultimately the operation was performed (something that I agree with), but I remember it created quite a stir over here, with mostly catholic groups denouncing the 'murder' of the younger baby, conveniently ignoring the fact that the younger baby has at most 4 or 5 months to live anyway, and that her sister was also saved in this manner.
Sorry it was supposed to read that I couldn't save both.
I remember that story and yes while it had to have been a very difficult decision for the parents I think they made the best decision in my opinion.
As the question was asked to me it was like an if your house was on fire type question. I could not chose one of my kids over the other. My kids are 10 and 6. I would rather sacrifice myself instead of having one of my kids lose their chance at life.
Sampe1967: If it is a stupid question, explain why both mothers and fathers have from time to time abondoned their children for their oun selfish reasons
these r the ones who doesn't care even about their spouses too
Duke1010: Would i give my life for my child? hell no. what if that child don't even remeber me later? common this is my life, i can't get another. I won't even know if this child will turn out to be a shame to my name yes or no. Man i aint doing it. I don't give a damn what you think.
One question though. Isn't English the official language of Jamaica?
Is that a rhetorical question? I have heard it said long ago that even the insane does have a point. the problem was not with the thread you know. one person thought it was wrong for a good reason, and then a bunch of people ignorantly reading her statement joined in the criticism without giving a thought to the thread. let all those who said it was a stupid thread give a reason out side of what i had already accepted, that this should not be written. and i will challenge them that they can't reasonably
nanners2863: I think some parents find this question intolerable because it wouldn't even cross their mind to put their kids first. I don't think he meant to insult anyone, some people find it shocking to even think of a person who wouldn't put their kids first.
The attitude seems otherwise. maybe the world don't have as many bad people as i thought.
I am so sick reading this . Way too depr4ssing. I want all my children to always there and live and be happy. I read this the other morning. I am out again. Why is someone thinking like this Yuck
I am a mother and this question for me i can't answer this things i don't want to think off, if situation comes i do the right thing. Please is too sensitive ask more relevant questions. We r talking about human life things that we can't control.
Sampe1967: Just trying to see if many people care as much as they should for their young ones
Hmm, I wouldn't have to give it a second thought. I'd save myself
Now, if your question was would I save one of my pets before myself. Then I'd have to give it 5 minutes of serious thought and then I'd still vote to save myself.
Sampe1967: Is that a rhetorical question? I have heard it said long ago that even the insane does have a point. the problem was not with the thread you know. one person thought it was wrong for a good reason, and then a bunch of people ignorantly reading her statement joined in the criticism without giving a thought to the thread. let all those who said it was a stupid thread give a reason out side of what i had already accepted, that this should not be written. and i will challenge them that they can't reasonably
What do you think Sampe? Perhaps I'm implying that you're uneducated. I've known many well educated and intelligent Jamaicans, but you don't appear to be one of them.
But I see that your attempt to correct your grammar and vocabulary hasn't improved your meaningless content. You do like to ramble for your own reasons I see.
So perhaps your mother or father should have taken your stated position here, to spare us this ridiculous thread by not sparing you.
Europrince: What do you think Sampe? Perhaps I'm implying that you're uneducated. I've known many well educated and intelligent Jamaicans, but you don't appear to be one of them.
But I see that your attempt to correct your grammar and vocabulary hasn't improved your meaningless content. You do like to ramble for your own reasons I see.
So perhaps your mother or father should have taken your stated position here, to spare us this ridiculous thread by not sparing you.
oh kaye mi fren, tanks fore thi cumplement. eye hop yuo liv furevar wid yur brite self.
Four years ago, my best friend lost her 16 year old daughter in a tragic, controversial death. She feel off a mine pit where we live and the events of the death were suspicious. There isn't a day that goes by that she is still traumatized over the experience and many times she states she would've given anything for it to be her instead of her daughter.
My feelings are that our children are not supposed to die before we do. I would give my daughter anything in this world including my life if I had to make a choice. After all, I am the one that gave her life to begin with and I would much rather have her life continue the way it is supposed to be. I would save my daughter. I gave her the commitment of life when I had her and would continue to give her that commitment.
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Seriously.......I cant believe this question was even posted!!! Uhhhhhhhhhhhh any normal loving parent would save their child.......geeeeeeeeez next MAURY PAUVICH QUESTION PULLLLLLLLLLLLLEASE!
In response to: If a situation demands that you or one of you children dies, which would you save
Him. Then I'm going to make a film about it in which I spend the rest of my life being miserable and crying and build a massive career in Hollywood specialising in parts where I do - miserable and crying.
Oh rats ! It's already been done . "Sophie's Choice".
It is VERY insensitive and I bet it is not possible for anyone to ever make the *right* decision: either way! I hope this would be something NO ONE would ever have to face, let alone think about unnecessarily!!!
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Actually re-the bit in bold, a few years ago there was a case here in Malta that made the headlines.
Two Siamese twins were born here connected at the head. The way they were connected, the 'youngest' baby had no chance to live to adulthood, or even be much more than a 'vegetable' in medical terms.
The oldest baby could be saved, so long as she was disconnected from her sister within a few months. Otherwise, she would have died as well.
Basically, the youngest one was doomed from the start, the oldest had a chance so long as the youngest was killed instead of letting her die a natural death.
Ultimately the operation was performed (something that I agree with), but I remember it created quite a stir over here, with mostly catholic groups denouncing the 'murder' of the younger baby, conveniently ignoring the fact that the younger baby has at most 4 or 5 months to live anyway, and that her sister was also saved in this manner.