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opentuit: Love ya, Jac!
Ok, but don't tell Juney - she'll get all hoity toity.
Jac xxx
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jac379: Damned fickle women.
Jac xxx
(Hello both )
hello fickle woman #3 Jac xxx
(Hello both )
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jac379: Ok, but don't tell Juney - she'll get all hoity toity.
Jac xxx
Jac xxx
la dee daaaaa
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Desertguy49: It all becomes relative eventually...
people become who they are by the way the spouse/partner treat the other regardless of what priorities they have...
and I also agree that as long as the love is there, no matter changes they have incurred they will surpass whatever trials they might have but then if the love is GONE, then its time to part.
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Hey cutie!! Long time no talk!! I think people go into relationships trying to be the person the other person would want. After time, they can't keep up the act and when the become themselves..the love changes or dies. I think people who do that need to work on loving themselves first and accepting who they are and THEN find someone who loves them for just being them.
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tomcatwarne: I think people continually evolve and change, the secret of a long lasting relationship is adaptability, as long as the love is still there, if that goes you might as well part.
deep down people dont change.without people we are nothing
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In response to: Why does everyone think people change in relationships? I know that over time people change, and situations change. Removing or changing variables in a situation makes no two situations the same. But I mean when you meet someone and things are great then after a while things start to change. Personally, I think people try too hard to impress the person they are trying to get with, and over time the real person in them comes out. Then comes the question, why don't you love me the same, or why did you change or whatever. Does anyone agree? Is it that hard just to be yourself?? If the person you like or want to date doesn't like the real you, then they don't deserve you.
People change all the time. This is why most relationships have a shelf life and seldom last forever. I reckon they changed about every 7 years, the 7 year itch thing... relationship rot 
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tomcatwarne: I think people continually evolve and change, the secret of a long lasting relationship is adaptability, as long as the love is still there, if that goes you might as well part.
I have to agree with adaptability, if there is love. Compromising usually helps...MOO
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Trifon: Why does everyone think people change in relationships? I know that over time people change, and situations change. Removing or changing variables in a situation makes no two situations the same. But I mean when you meet someone and things are great then after a while things start to change. Personally, I think people try too hard to impress the person they are trying to get with, and over time the real person in them comes out. Then comes the question, why don't you love me the same, or why did you change or whatever. Does anyone agree? Is it that hard just to be yourself?? If the person you like or want to date doesn't like the real you, then they don't deserve you.
100% correct
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Trifon: Why does everyone think people change in relationships? I know that over time people change, and situations change. Removing or changing variables in a situation makes no two situations the same. But I mean when you meet someone and things are great then after a while things start to change. Personally, I think people try too hard to impress the person they are trying to get with, and over time the real person in them comes out. Then comes the question, why don't you love me the same, or why did you change or whatever. Does anyone agree? Is it that hard just to be yourself?? If the person you like or want to date doesn't like the real you, then they don't deserve you.
If a person going into a relationship has a strong sense of self and nothing to hide, being with another person isn't going to fundamentally change who they are inside.
However, too many people go into a relationship eager to please and losing their sense of self, which is where the change might come into focus. It is one thing to branch out and to share interests and goals with your significant other, but to entirely change who you are is a signal of someone that doesn't have a strong self-esteem.
I am always going to be who I am and whether or not, I am in a relationship or not, does not change any of that whatsoever.
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Trifon: I guess even the coolest roller coast loses its excitement after a few rides
I'm going to Carowinds this weekend,,, wanna find out??? ------ This thread is Archived ------
Trifon: Why does everyone think people change in relationships? I know that over time people change, and situations change. Removing or changing variables in a situation makes no two situations the same. But I mean when you meet someone and things are great then after a while things start to change. Personally, I think people try too hard to impress the person they are trying to get with, and over time the real person in them comes out. Then comes the question, why don't you love me the same, or why did you change or whatever. Does anyone agree? Is it that hard just to be yourself?? If the person you like or want to date doesn't like the real you, then they don't deserve you.
I think that to some degree we all change in a relationship.
That is because we are all individual and individuality changes the dynamics of a persons contribution to each relationship they are in.
Some people can bring out the best in you,some the worst.
Not all aspects of a relationship are agreed by verbal communication either.
We often morph into being stronger in some aspects of the relationship to accomodate the partners weakness's,and vice versa.
So,an area where you were dominant or in control over in your last relationship may well be an area where you take a back seat.
Ideally we all want a partner who will fit like a glove,but that is an impossible expectation or goal.
IMO
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AngelinBali: I'm convinced that the answer to your described common dilemma is that the two were to begin with not whole/complete individuals
You make a good point!
Sometimes people look to others to "complete" them and when that doesn't happen, because you can only complete yourself, then they get disappointed/disillusioned and the huge adrenalin rush that happens at the beginning of the relationship wears off. Real life kicks in, and if there isn't depth and communication and a willingness to compromise, it comes to an end.------ This thread is Archived ------
lilmamma71: If a person going into a relationship has a strong sense of self and nothing to hide, being with another person isn't going to fundamentally change who they are inside.
However, too many people go into a relationship eager to please and losing their sense of self, which is where the change might come into focus. It is one thing to branch out and to share interests and goals with your significant other, but to entirely change who you are is a signal of someone that doesn't have a strong self-esteem.
I am always going to be who I am and whether or not, I am in a relationship or not, does not change any of that whatsoever.
However, too many people go into a relationship eager to please and losing their sense of self, which is where the change might come into focus. It is one thing to branch out and to share interests and goals with your significant other, but to entirely change who you are is a signal of someone that doesn't have a strong self-esteem.
I am always going to be who I am and whether or not, I am in a relationship or not, does not change any of that whatsoever.
I agree. I am who I am, that's my personality, I don't have to change to please someone else, the person I choose to be with have to accept me the way I am, I am not going to change him either, we need to work together, be honest and accept each other if we want the relationship to blossom
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justmehaha: people become who they are by the way the spouse/partner treat the other regardless of what priorities they have...
and I also agree that as long as the love is there, no matter changes they have incurred they will surpass whatever trials they might have but then if the love is GONE, then its time to part.
justme
and I also agree that as long as the love is there, no matter changes they have incurred they will surpass whatever trials they might have but then if the love is GONE, then its time to part.
justme
I think you are right, but it is also necessary to choose the right spouse/partner to begin with, one that will compliment your life as you will theirs...people make initial bad choices sometimes and things eventually turn bad... once the love and respect is gone, or possibly was never even there in the first place there is no cause for the relationship to continue...
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Well, you asked a question then answered yourself in the next line
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venusenvy: Well, you asked a question then answered yourself in the next line
You had to go and throw a monkey wrench into the gears huh...
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Just The Way You Are
Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
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stefonline: Just The Way You Are
Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
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I think you're bang on the money there mate. We're so busy trying to make the other one happy by being someone they want us to be. Bit daft really but we all do it to some degree although, personally i'm learning to be myself no matter what. Its best in the end. The lady will get what she sees from the beginning and hey preasto ! i don't need to change after time.
sounds like a good plan to me