Women, you say you hate games, but you love to test us. (157)
Swissblueeyes: Oh BS..Im so sick of hearing how us women go for bad guys..I hate bad guys and this is the main reason I agree with women doing "tests" checking things out before giving their heart..If you were really a good guy you wouldnt be afraid of a silly little test..
I totally agree with you sometimes us women have to test in a sense to protect ourselves .. i am sure we all have come across a man that says his single only to find out over dinner or via phone calls that he has a wife, a mistress and a string of concubines hidden some where !!------ This thread is Archived ------
Denofearth69: Also, I should mention that I wear my heart on my sleeve, no walls, don't believe they are a healthy way to view or participate in the world. I am not angry, and sorry if I came off that way...I am hurt...again subtle differences.
u are hurt!
men don't get hurt! women think our hearts are made of rock or something!
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Denofearth69: I find it ironic that so many women will say in their profiles that they hate games and want to find a man who won't play them. But at the same time there is an amazingly varied and complex number of cruelties, lies, and deceptions that you feel should be ignored or forgiven by your saying " I was just testing you ." I can't wait to hear how these " tests " don't qualify as games.
Isn't all dating a bit of a 'game'? especially at the beginning...
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missha72: I totally agree with you sometimes us women have to test in a sense to protect ourselves .. i am sure we all have come across a man that says his single only to find out over dinner or via phone calls that he has a wife, a mistress and a string of concubines hidden some where !!
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ya or the guy whos way below average in looks whos online hunting for hotties to bed but he claimes hes "one of the nice guys" and is looking for a "relationship".. lol.. NOT ya like we all know guys dont "lie"? ya a girl has to protect herself in the dating world and use some "skepticism" before giving her heart and possibly body
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Denofearth69: Ginger, there is a subtle but distinct difference between strong, capable, and independent, and domineering, never said my mom was domineering.
I understand all of what you are saying, but flip the coin and look at the other side. I was raised in a very liberal environment, by loving parents, no divorces, violence, or other garbage. But, yes, my mom is so opposed to oppressive men that she raised her boys to NOT be like that.
Where I think I throw women off is that I don't have a lot of those typical male issues. I rarely go out with the guys, and when I do I return at the time I said I would. I can take or leave sports, just not a defining part of my life so who cares. I'd rather tell an ugly truth, get it out in the open and deal with it than ever tell a pretty lie. I show genuine interest in what's going on in my lady's life, and ( gasp ) I actually discuss her interests. And too many others to count, but basically I think women, for the most part, just can't believe I am real, and yeah that makes them nervous. Kind of the reverse of women who always go for the bad guy.
I understand all of what you are saying, but flip the coin and look at the other side. I was raised in a very liberal environment, by loving parents, no divorces, violence, or other garbage. But, yes, my mom is so opposed to oppressive men that she raised her boys to NOT be like that.
Where I think I throw women off is that I don't have a lot of those typical male issues. I rarely go out with the guys, and when I do I return at the time I said I would. I can take or leave sports, just not a defining part of my life so who cares. I'd rather tell an ugly truth, get it out in the open and deal with it than ever tell a pretty lie. I show genuine interest in what's going on in my lady's life, and ( gasp ) I actually discuss her interests. And too many others to count, but basically I think women, for the most part, just can't believe I am real, and yeah that makes them nervous. Kind of the reverse of women who always go for the bad guy.
I said strong (and/or) dominant women. Didn't say yours was either of those, since I was talking generally, and not about you specifically.
Still only getting your blameless side of this, with no accountability in sight.
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Whats with all the hostility..It seems im typing to myself anyway so....
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Swissblueeyes: your comments make me half believe your not such a nice guy..if you think a few "tests" to see if your real or not is games then you obviously dont understand women having to protect themselves and make sure your real and not a just another liar..how long have you been broken up with that lady? Im curious because how do you know she isnt doing a "final" test to make sure your real? maybe if she sees your not some lying a hole she might come back?
We're not quite actually broken up, just on an extended hiatus, and it has been almost a month. I am not giving up, just kind of disheartened at this time.
And Ginger, I have given my account and accountability as well. Perhaps your own passive aggressive attitude towards men made you miss this. There was no fighting, no anger, no episode of any kind. It was, and has been a situation where I make women feel more than they are ready to feel, and I blame a lot of the Dr, Phil type crap floating around for telling women that falling in love too quickly should be some kind of warning sign. Yes, it is typical behavior pattern for codependent relationships, but it is also typical of just being a human and having a heart.
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Denofearth69: We're not quite actually broken up, just on an extended hiatus, and it has been almost a month. I am not giving up, just kind of disheartened at this time.
And Ginger, I have given my account and accountability as well. Perhaps your own passive aggressive attitude towards men made you miss this. There was no fighting, no anger, no episode of any kind. It was, and has been a situation where I make women feel more than they are ready to feel, and I blame a lot of the Dr, Phil type crap floating around for telling women that falling in love too quickly should be some kind of warning sign. Yes, it is typical behavior pattern for codependent relationships, but it is also typical of just being a human and having a heart.
And Ginger, I have given my account and accountability as well. Perhaps your own passive aggressive attitude towards men made you miss this. There was no fighting, no anger, no episode of any kind. It was, and has been a situation where I make women feel more than they are ready to feel, and I blame a lot of the Dr, Phil type crap floating around for telling women that falling in love too quickly should be some kind of warning sign. Yes, it is typical behavior pattern for codependent relationships, but it is also typical of just being a human and having a heart.
Nice to know that too.
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i have not had one test me yet, infact all wemen on this site have only been repectful to me, and i have only shown them repect to, some don't reply but how can they wen they get so many emails, i choose wisely i guess, i only give thanks to the girls on this site, because they show so much respect thank you girls verymuch.....
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Amity: Whats with all the hostility..It seems im typing to myself anyway so....
not really...actually i am reading them with love and admiration. so your place or mine?
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true if you like someone you tend to fall in love fast but if its the second email warning sighn.
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Smallimporter: i have not had one test me yet, infact all wemen on this site have only been repectful to me, and i have only shown them repect to, some don't reply but how can they wen they get so many emails, i choose wisely i guess, i only give thanks to the girls on this site, because they show so much respect thank you girls verymuch.....
How very sweet ... but i am sure u where tested and u just didn't notice !!
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mnowsa: not really...actually i am reading them with love and admiration. so your place or mine?
ooh cheers ... 
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Denofearth69: We're not quite actually broken up, just on an extended hiatus, and it has been almost a month. I am not giving up, just kind of disheartened at this time.
And Ginger, I have given my account and accountability as well. Perhaps your own passive aggressive attitude towards men made you miss this. There was no fighting, no anger, no episode of any kind. It was, and has been a situation where I make women feel more than they are ready to feel, and I blame a lot of the Dr, Phil type crap floating around for telling women that falling in love too quickly should be some kind of warning sign. Yes, it is typical behavior pattern for codependent relationships, but it is also typical of just being a human and having a heart.
And Ginger, I have given my account and accountability as well. Perhaps your own passive aggressive attitude towards men made you miss this. There was no fighting, no anger, no episode of any kind. It was, and has been a situation where I make women feel more than they are ready to feel, and I blame a lot of the Dr, Phil type crap floating around for telling women that falling in love too quickly should be some kind of warning sign. Yes, it is typical behavior pattern for codependent relationships, but it is also typical of just being a human and having a heart.
You hae only given glowing accounts of yourself, no apportioning blame to yourself for your part in the break-up. Not that it matters to me one whit. I was only pointing out why you seem to be haivng trouble with women not trusting you, as something to look at as a posible cause.
Passive agressive people DON'T fight openly. They are usually very sweet and nice. I'm a far cry from that MO.
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This is all a bunch of BS. If you get a long, you get along, if you don't, move on. It's that simple. Say what's true always and you'll never have to deceive. If other's can't accept the truth, it's their problem, not yours. So move and and live and be happy.
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Jeraxle: This is all a bunch of BS. If you get a long, you get along, if you don't, move on. It's that simple. Say what's true always and you'll never have to deceive. If other's can't accept the truth, it's their problem, not yours. So move and and live and be happy.
Good attitude.
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o come on swiss! losers like me never harm any woman because they are seldome given any chances by women. i think it is the "winners", that u ladies crave so much for, that harm the most