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offbeat58edmonton, Alberta Canada13 Threads 1,126 PostsI need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
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her life,her decisions,her career,her hapiness,her hopes,her dreams.Not yours.If you are her friend you will except her decisions and stand by her when things go wrong
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
Sorry to say you have to allow her to make her own choices...bad or good.
And if it does turn out badly, you will be the friend you always where and be there for her.
xxx
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She's the master of her own destiny and choices...she will have to face her choices and decide her own fate. Be a friend, not a savior, she will not learn unless it's through personal experience.
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Thank you...just needed another outlook 
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
she`s gonna be heart broken either way....
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
When it comes to love..all advise..no matter how good it is will fall on death ears..even physical proof will most likely not work..
the only thing you can so..is be there for her when she needs you the most..I know its hard..but that is the only thing you can do for her..btw. hope you're well...
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Amity: Sorry to say you have to allow her to make her own choices...bad or good.
And if it does turn out badly, you will be the friend you always where and be there for her.
xxx
And if it does turn out badly, you will be the friend you always where and be there for her.
xxx
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
Tell her that if she always does what she always did then she'll always get what she always got - works 75% of the time and worth a try..........
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iamwhoiamyousee: When it comes to love..all advise..no matter how good it is will fall on death ears..even physical proof will most likely not work..
the only thing you can so..is be there for her when she needs you the most..I know its hard..but that is the only thing you can do for her..btw. hope you're well...
the only thing you can so..is be there for her when she needs you the most..I know its hard..but that is the only thing you can do for her..btw. hope you're well...
It's true. I even told her "if I was doing the same thing you were doing, you would be all over me for being silly"...it's just frustrating to see her doing this again...with the same boyfriend she has broken up with at least 5 times.
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
The advice that you have to let her make her own choices is 100% correct, the only thing you can do is try to talk to her, but don't try to force anything.
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
Seems to me, like you are always doing what you have always done too. Giving her attention in the form of special concern.
Maybe it is up to you to break this cycle. Stand back. Let her go. Let it be known that what she is doing is of no interst to you, (even if it is).
If she is not getting your extra attention and a safe place to fall each time, she might cop on. So get busy other places all of a sudden!
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.. her life .. her destiny. it's as simple as that. 
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
sometimes we just have to let people keep making their mistakes but i would most likely try to talk to them about it anyways.most people are going to do what they want no matter what anyone says to them but at least you can feel some sort of relief in the fact that "you tried"..
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offbeat58: I need your opinions. I have a very smart friend who makes very poor personal choices. Because of this she is jeopardizing a very good career as she is getting emotionally and physically tired out by attending to a love interest that will not lead to anything except heartbreak down the road...again. This is not the first time this has happened and I have been through this with her in the past. To qualify this I do not have a love interest in her. What do you think?
Honestly?
I think that we all have to make our own way in the world and that although we love our friends, we firstly have an obligation to ourselves.
That means that bluntly put, you don't waste your energy trying to save her. That's not your job. It's hers.
Some people have drama following them around like stray dogs. I have a few friends like this too. Some people secretly like it that way and I suspect your friend may fall into that camp. If she wants to throw away a career for a guy let her do it. You're her friend - not her father.
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