englisheleganceOPBirmingham, West Midlands, England UK3,025 posts
Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA2,259 posts
I think a lot of it depends on the duration of the relationship, I tend to get over short ones fairly quick and can jump back in the game again, but long ones take longer to put behind you...JMO
Feb 25, 2011 4:51 PM CST Coming out of a broken relationship straight into another?...
LouiseDreamingCosta Blanca and, Warwickshire, England UK2 Threads493 Posts
LouiseDreamingCosta Blanca and, Warwickshire, England UK493 posts
I do not think it is wise for anyone to indulge in 'rebound relationships'. Someone will always get hurt, unless those involved have realised it's just a bit of fun and not going anywhere.
This is an odd question from you EE?, but yes, I agree, healing time is important.
Exactly what i'll do these days, no time to mope around... There are a lot of girls out there who won't say no so why take a break... I've been there b4 where i did mope around while the girl was having fun with her new guy....
englisheleganceOPBirmingham, West Midlands, England UK3,025 posts
LouiseDreaming: I do not think it is wise for anyone to indulge in 'rebound relationships'. Someone will always get hurt, unless those involved have realised it's just a bit of fun and not going anywhere.
This is an odd question from you EE?, but yes, I agree, healing time is important.
Hi there Louise, not odd, just wonder what others think on this....
Think it can depend on who ended the relationship and why.
Personally after the end of my last relationship I needed time, I thought I was ok and dated and then realize I wasn't, also think there is a danger you can hurt others without meaning to.
Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA2,259 posts
Looking_Heart: lifes too short...get one with it
You got that right bro, went to the Roadrunner last night for a few cold ones, it was ladies nite and there was all kinds of eye candy shakin it out on the dance floor...
englishelegance: Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
Well i just waited 3 yrs to get it again. I live to give a time to myself
plainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines8,175 posts
englishelegance: Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
i give myself a year to be single again and recover before jumping into another relationship. Rebound relationships are unfair.
englishelegance: Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
I will go into relationship when I will have found the right man for me. Which may or may not happen. Don't think it is a good idea just to jump on somebody without knowing why you are doing it. What is a gain? There may be only another loss.
Interesting, women want healing time and men want to jump right back in the water....There is a reason they call them rebound relationships and when u have not had time to heal that is usually what happens...Rebound.....take some time, and don't make the new mate pay for past sins...
englishelegance: Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
I've done it too and it never seems to work..Rushing into a relationship is just a bad idea anyways.. I believe a person should take some time out and figure out what it is they want and dont want along with some time to heal.
englishelegance: Hi peeps,...weve all been there otherwise we wouldnt be on here?. Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?
"If of thy mortal goods thou art bereft And from thy slender store two loaves alone to thee are left Sell one, and with the dole Buy hyacinths to feed thy soul"
You can't steal second base with your foot still on first. Get crackin',,, time's a-wastin'. Love you!
englisheleganceOPBirmingham, West Midlands, England UK3,025 posts
LouiseDreaming: No offence EE, it's just that you've always seemed very 'grounded' to me, so this was an out of character question.
LOL...Oh its not in relation to me Louise, I have been on my own for some years, but I know of two people who have not really liked being alone after their breakups and are with the new folk as an ego boost. I personally think we all need at least a year to find ourselves after a breakup with a long time partner..
Feb 25, 2011 5:44 PM CST Coming out of a broken relationship straight into another?...
LouiseDreamingCosta Blanca and, Warwickshire, England UK2 Threads493 Posts
LouiseDreamingCosta Blanca and, Warwickshire, England UK493 posts
englishelegance: LOL...Oh its not in relation to me Louise, I have been on my own for some years, but I know of two people who have not really liked being alone after their breakups and are with the new folk as an ego boost. I personally think we all need at least a year to find ourselves after a breakup with a long time partner..
Understood EE, make that two years and counting....!
englishelegance: Well Jan, one of the people I know was in fact on the rebound and has actually moved in with the new person but is not 100% happy.
Yes I understand that, but I´m saying go and have a relationship or two....or three.... instead of sitting alone and bewailing the whys and wherefores, not to replace the old failed one, or move in and be serious. That most probably won´t work in all reality.
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Do you think that going headlong into another relationship is wise? or would you advocate a period of being alone for a while before a new relationship?. My opinion on this is we all need a healing time, what do you think?