I didn't NEED you...I WANTED you... (22)

I know that this has probably been done...but i would really like for the men out there to understand something...sometimes as a woman we don't NEED you...we just WANT you...

Don't read so much into it..don't confuse the two, don't mix in our vulnerability...we are women and we have wants the same as you..but being a woman and wanting a man did not make us incapable of being self-reliant in every other way...we don't necessarily want what you have materialistically, nor expect you to provide everything...perhaps we just wanted to share what we had with you...

Any comments?

I understand and believe everything you said

But....... there are many woman who are needy (men too) and have different adgenda's than what you have stated.

Personally, i think (and look for) woman who are independant are awesome and i know i look for that as an important quality.

"...who do you love?..." Want?

Wikked, I can completely understand you! The thing I find... and I know I'm generalizing which I shouldn't be doing BUT... most guys want to feel that they are taking care of their gurl.Most guys are intimidated by independent women. Most of them need us to need them because then it boosts their manliness and their importance in our lives and therefore makes them "indispensible" to us. I really think that some guys have an issue with thinking that us woman are going to use them and then drop them SO if they make themsleves indispensible to us then we can't just "drop 'em" ya know? They have just as many insecurities as us females! But as an independent person myself I do know what you are talking about in this thread.

Thanks Princess....hate when "battle lines" are drawn...because its not a "battle" to establish ground...it should have been a mutual "want"...He wants...I want...what was the problem??...but i certainly didn't "need" him...(not in the sense that we are speaking here)..I merely "wanted" him in my life...

What i "need" are things like food, water, necessities of life..."he" does not fit into that category...I choose to want a man in my life...what is so difficult about that concept????

If you are speaking of a particular guy in your life, or formerly in your life guy.... maybe he was insecure with himself because you are an independent confident beautiful intelligent woman (just so you know, I'm NOT hitting on you! lol) who maybe he needed you to need him. It takes 2 of the same sort of people to have a relationship work. I know people are going to disagree with me and say "but opposites attract" yes they do attract, but for how long before the flames fizzle or someone takes control and the other becomes the meek submissive?

Maybe your guy needed you to need him because he wanted some sort of clear indication that you were his with him and only him ect..... I don't know... Just my thoughts.

You said it yourself Wikked! " I choose to want a man in my life "!

What is important is that you know what you want! And you make it clear what it is you need "Personnally". You can definitely want to be together without feeling the "need" to all the time... not sure if that made sense at all. Seemed to make sense in my head at the time.

Anyways...I think a strong intelligent independant woman like you Wikked is a diamond...and one of the most exquisite ones...and it's not the men making a mistake here...I think it takes just as much from a man to satisfy a woman like me or Wikked or "Any" woman really!

Love is fair...love is...blablabla...wink...

Love you all and we should have more men replying...we have some more brave men here I know.

Tumpa?...,Gibs - come on out of the hiding!, ...Pucks - hehe he replied and that's awesome!...hmmm....who else?

PUCKS! you wrote few extra pounds in your profile?

Girls this one is a grab! He's just like us...not superficial and real!

Later! and happy ThanksGiving!

I don't think there is anything in life a woman needs a man for....