Allowing the other person in your life..... (40)
CarchMe1962Brockville, Ontario Canada10 Threads 62 PostsWell letting someine in your life is like taking all the security walls down it took a long time to build and will take some time to open them back up.
Well you should be honest and tell him that dont lead him on...
I myself am a believer in going slow ....Unless you Know there is magic ...When kids are involved it should be completly kept away from the kids until there is a ring on the finger..Too often the kids get attached or the kids don't like the new person and BOOM they are gone.....So why risk it .I am single no kids but I am scared to death of hurting someone or being hurt ...I don't do well with rejection so its best in my opinion, to kinda keep some distance until you know this is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with.I would know if I just weren't interested after 2nd or 3rd date .Well thats what I would do . 
Until there is a ring on the finger..... Hope you mean that like a figure of speech....
How do you think this scenario will go over...."Okay kids, I want you to meet X. We are engaged......"
My kids would like that one.....NOT!
How do you think this scenario will go over...."Okay kids, I want you to meet X. We are engaged......"
My kids would like that one.....NOT!
As "Catch me" said..if i've taken down my "walls" long enough to even be at the starting "gate" with a man...I've let him into my life...most don't even get that chance...because like someone else said..I don't give "encouragement" when there is none there...and that does NOT necessarily mean it was just 'HIM'...it could have just been "circumstances" at the time...
I would like to say i take it slow...lol...I don't..however..I do for the sake of the other person...because if i didn't think there was something there already...he wouldn't be "in my life"...
I am afraid of being hurt...however, if i'm that afraid, then i should not be "dating"...so i choose to put my past behind me and move on...i'd only be hurting my own self more by not allowing someone into my life to share it with me
I don't want to settle on anyone...and i don't want anyone to settle on me either though...I want us both to know its "each other" we want in our lives...
I would like to say i take it slow...lol...I don't..however..I do for the sake of the other person...because if i didn't think there was something there already...he wouldn't be "in my life"...
I am afraid of being hurt...however, if i'm that afraid, then i should not be "dating"...so i choose to put my past behind me and move on...i'd only be hurting my own self more by not allowing someone into my life to share it with me
I don't want to settle on anyone...and i don't want anyone to settle on me either though...I want us both to know its "each other" we want in our lives...
Well stated Urls...good night , sweet dreams, you night owl you!! LOL
Night Bobby!!
For me, how long depends on two things. The comfort level or confidence you have in other person in that they say they are who they are and have not led you astray with bad info (aka A LIAR), and 2nd how much you have to lose. I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter and I do not need her to become attached to someone that is full of baloney. That will not only cause me grief and angst, but more so will take its toll on my daughter.
Which is why YOU need to be sure before introducing your daughter into the equation....
Unfortunately as long as we are in the "dating" scene...we will only be able to protect our children from "so much"...there will be the times where you feel this person is sooooo right for you...you introduce them to your children, because they do play a part in this "equation" as well...and then it ends....
However, take heart...children of "married/divorced" couples also have to endure watching one parent who is part of thier life walk away....
Unfortunately...it is something we all learn at some point...life is not always "fair"...and that road is full of disappointments....
Unfortunately as long as we are in the "dating" scene...we will only be able to protect our children from "so much"...there will be the times where you feel this person is sooooo right for you...you introduce them to your children, because they do play a part in this "equation" as well...and then it ends....
However, take heart...children of "married/divorced" couples also have to endure watching one parent who is part of thier life walk away....
Unfortunately...it is something we all learn at some point...life is not always "fair"...and that road is full of disappointments....
I sale my ship pretty close to the shore, Not liking the open waters but I guess someday I'll have to venture out in it. For now I'll stick to the coastline.
sail 
and me from Newfoundland...Oh the shame!
and me from Newfoundland...Oh the shame!For just a moment there I thought you were trying to sell a boat.
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I'll never live this down
you CANT stamp a time on this kinda thing..
its like asking when you sleep with someone... you cant say it will always be.. ???
Its a feeling..
you know when its time.. and that time frame will be different with each relationship.
its like asking when you sleep with someone... you cant say it will always be.. ???
Its a feeling..
you know when its time.. and that time frame will be different with each relationship.
..."its like asking when you sleep with someone... you cant say it will always be.. "
Not if you ask Puck...he wants this issue wrapped up by the 14th date...no later...and oh yeah...the "copping a feel" off the "top" and "bottom"...has to occur before the 14th date....
Not if you ask Puck...he wants this issue wrapped up by the 14th date...no later...and oh yeah...the "copping a feel" off the "top" and "bottom"...has to occur before the 14th date....
as well it should! lol I mean, c'mon by the 14th date, there's GOT to be some chemistry going on, if there isn't you've just wasted 14 dates!
If there is no chemistry, is there gonna be a second date? 
I'm not even sure what the "chemistry" is supposed to be about...is there like "fireworks" or something??
I mean if there is "chemistry"...are we really waiting for the 14th date???
I mean if there is "chemistry"...are we really waiting for the 14th date???
heck no...if there is chemistry...no waiting....time to dive in and make a move
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