Ongoing Exes (77)
knotagainToowoomba, Queensland Australia1 Threads 10 PostsWho else has family that maintain their relationships with your ex/es? Do they also bring up ex-news in conversation? How do they react when you finally tell them that you don't want to know?
knotagain: Who else has family that maintain their relationships with your ex/es? Do they also bring up ex-news in conversation? How do they react when you finally tell them that you don't want to know?
One year my mother wanted to invite my ex for christmas...l told her straight out that after the way he had treated me he was no longer part of my family and l didnt want him thier. All he was to me was the father of my children and no longer a part of my personal or private life. He wasnt invited! And she took it ok.
They're just people, I have a lot of grief and bitterness towards my ex, but that's not what it's all about.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
Well, what do you expect ... if you go leaving your past mistakes lying around like dirty underwear?
I still go and visit the Ex's Mum, she was part of my life for 13 years and we love each other.
Yes she talks about the ex but she now also accepts that we wont be getting back together. And when there are other members of the family there I am greeted with open arms.
It is my choice to visit, and one I take freely.
The ex on occasion has even rang my Mum on her birthday, although that is a rarity.
And I havent seen the ex or spoken to him for over 3 years, only contact we have is through internet.
Yes she talks about the ex but she now also accepts that we wont be getting back together. And when there are other members of the family there I am greeted with open arms.
It is my choice to visit, and one I take freely.
The ex on occasion has even rang my Mum on her birthday, although that is a rarity.
And I havent seen the ex or spoken to him for over 3 years, only contact we have is through internet.
I still regulary see my ex in laws. But only because I have their grandchildren/niece and nephew.
If it weren't for my kids, I doubt I would bother with seeing them.
If it weren't for my kids, I doubt I would bother with seeing them.
If there were children from these exes there'd be no question of needing to maintain relationships but there aren't any.
About leaving past mistakes lying around - each of these relationships went on over a number of years which explains why the rest of my family feels connected to these women. If I'd ever had a short relationship or fling or whatever then it might have been inappropriate to introduce the fam.
Anyway, it seems like I should just calmly mention to my parents that I'd rather not know the next time they feel the need to share that sort of thing.
About leaving past mistakes lying around - each of these relationships went on over a number of years which explains why the rest of my family feels connected to these women. If I'd ever had a short relationship or fling or whatever then it might have been inappropriate to introduce the fam.
Anyway, it seems like I should just calmly mention to my parents that I'd rather not know the next time they feel the need to share that sort of thing.
given I have children with my ex ..yes my family maintains relationships with her .
they still care for her and she is accepted as part of the family and therfore invited to get togethers etc.
just cause I cant stand being in the same room as her dosent mean the rest of the family needs to suffer .
the word that needs to take precedence in these situations is Amicable .
its about the kids
they still care for her and she is accepted as part of the family and therfore invited to get togethers etc.
just cause I cant stand being in the same room as her dosent mean the rest of the family needs to suffer .
the word that needs to take precedence in these situations is Amicable .
its about the kids
I still have a relationship with my ex inlaws. It is important for my kids to have that relationship but also my immediate family have a relationship with them. 
They send each other xmas cards, and I am expecting a parcel for my sisters new baby. It isn't a close relationship but it is a friendly one which I am grateful for. The ex however, hardly has anything to do with anyone, including his own family, I have much more to do with them than he does. 
They send each other xmas cards, and I am expecting a parcel for my sisters new baby. It isn't a close relationship but it is a friendly one which I am grateful for. The ex however, hardly has anything to do with anyone, including his own family, I have much more to do with them than he does. My ex's family try to involve me in a lot. the last time I agreed to go to a family event with them, my ex ridiculed and belittled me in front of everyone and not a word was spoken. I know that I should maintain a good relationship with his family for the sake of my kids, but at the end of the day, he is thier son/brother and it should be his responsibility to make sure thay have a relationship with my boys. At the end of the day they're not my family and would turn on me in a instant (which I have most recently found out). To be honest I'd rather not be in contact with them anymore.
amputated like an gangrene limb....
normalguy68: They're just people, I have a lot of grief and bitterness towards my ex, but that's not what it's all about.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
Oh my dear, please leave that woman hating Sardine that came with you behind in fact give it to the cat.
This is the real Norm ! dont you dare bring any other smelly fish with you again.
ltlredcorvette: My ex's family try to involve me in a lot. the last time I agreed to go to a family event with them, my ex ridiculed and belittled me in front of everyone and not a word was spoken. I know that I should maintain a good relationship with his family for the sake of my kids, but at the end of the day, he is thier son/brother and it should be his responsibility to make sure thay have a relationship with my boys. At the end of the day they're not my family and would turn on me in a instant (which I have most recently found out). To be honest I'd rather not be in contact with them anymore.
Being rediculed and belittled is good.It means someone cares about you.
They wouldn't do it if they didn't.
I know they make court orders to prevent people doing this in front of their kids - belittle mum or dad, but in all honesty, while you were there, a backhanded, oh dear, I never knew you still had feelings and cared for me still, thankyou.
Martia: Oh my dear, please leave that woman hating Sardine that came with you behind in fact give it to the cat.
This is the real Norm ! dont you dare bring any other smelly fish with you again.
This is the real Norm ! dont you dare bring any other smelly fish with you again.
I live two doors away from my outlaws - still get on with them - any family get togethers - is still with inlaws, outlaws and others. I still talk to my ex - we are still friends - plus he knows me too well for me to want him as an enemy lmao. When he comes to Perth he stays in our spare room - I think I am pretty lucky to have the situation the way it is - especially when I hear all the horror stories many people tell.
Wysterious: I live two doors away from my outlaws - still get on with them - any family get togethers - is still with inlaws, outlaws and others. I still talk to my ex - we are still friends - plus he knows me too well for me to want him as an enemy lmao. When he comes to Perth he stays in our spare room - I think I am pretty lucky to have the situation the way it is - especially when I hear all the horror stories many people tell.
kittykawaii: I still regulary see my ex in laws. But only because I have their grandchildren/niece and nephew.
If it weren't for my kids, I doubt I would bother with seeing them.
If it weren't for my kids, I doubt I would bother with seeing them.
Kitty,
How are you going? Have you had the baby yet?
Haven't seen you on for a while I hope you are well.
I think where kids are involved it is in the best interest of the kids to maintain family values. I do realise that this is not as easy as it sounds in some cases.
If their are no kids involved, no I do not maintain contact. I move on and keep it that way. Thats just me.
If their are no kids involved, no I do not maintain contact. I move on and keep it that way. Thats just me.
normalguy68: They're just people, I have a lot of grief and bitterness towards my ex, but that's not what it's all about.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
It's about your kids, you aren't making up with the ex, your ex is still a big part of your kids lives and you need to acknowledge that. Kids feel your hate, your pain, why do that?
Love your enemies and show your kids who is the adult by being an adult and forgiving.
When we forgive, we end up not becoming victims of our own mind.
Suing him was just a figure of speech and hes only living with me because I was helping him out until he finds his own place. It DOESNT mean that he has the right to hit on me constantly. I dont want him. I dont love him and he knows it, so what is it about some dumb assed men that cant get the message?
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