Messenger Relationships??? (47)
I believe a personality can come out on messenger. It IS possible to get to know someone well using it. The key is...Good Communication. A webcam helps if you need visual.
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Personally ... I cannot fall in love on here or over messenger.
I can get a really good idea whether we have enough in common to meet but to take it any further has to be done in person.
I can get a really good idea whether we have enough in common to meet but to take it any further has to be done in person.
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Fall in love, no. Develop a strong attraction worth exploring, yes. As you say, personality comes through in one's voice and body language too.
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I agree with this (and Jonquille as well)...I can find out where our common interests are...but after that...i seem to be at a loss...
I mean i have a lot in common with many people...but that in itself is not enough for me to pursue a relationship either...
I mean i have a lot in common with many people...but that in itself is not enough for me to pursue a relationship either...
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I got to know someone on messenger and when I finally did meet them months later I found they were exactly who they were on messenger. You can really get to know someone this way. Eventually you graduate to talking on the phone and then if all goes well in person.
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NO, but it's a great tool to start getting a feel for that other person you interested.
El Diablo
El Diablo
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My experiences (along with this one) has been where i've talked to someone on messenger...and the whole time thought...nope..no way..but then talked to them on the phone..and found them absolutely animated and very interesting to talk to...
I have also talked to someone online and though it was a "comfortable" relationship..not until i met them in person was i taken aback by their very charismatic personality which did not come out in words...but certainly in "presence"..
I have also talked to someone online and though it was a "comfortable" relationship..not until i met them in person was i taken aback by their very charismatic personality which did not come out in words...but certainly in "presence"..
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Personalities can come through on messenger.
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Urs..IM me...let's talk wedding plans...
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I'll tell you right now...my next wedding is going to take place on a beach on some exotic island...barefeet, orchids and just a warm tropical breeze for music....
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yes mine too Wikked...........
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awwww hunny i hope things work out for you,and you find what your looking for,i my self have met some realy nice people here,some of them i speak to on msn and 1 or 2 ive even started to speak on the phone with,getting to know someone,do we ever realy get to know someone?i was with my wife not far from 10years and i would never of thort and nether did her own family she would ever of done what she did by going off with an other guy she didnt even know,and its not as tho our relation ship was at the point were we needed to split up,she was my wife and best friend,i thort that i had known her inside out,it turns out that i didnt know her as wel as o thort....dont let that put you off, you seam like a verynice girl and maybe your dream will come true,i hope it does
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hmm i didnt put the qote in hehehe i always do that lol,my message was ment fot wikked:)
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I loath IMing for trying to get to know someone new. It has always been a complete disaster for me in the past.
Give me a good old-fashioned telephone.
Give me a good old-fashioned telephone.
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HMMMM that is odd for you. I have seen you state repeatedly that you perform better in the written medium than verbal communication.
I myself think the telephone is vile. Antisocial tendencies developing maybe...lol
I myself think the telephone is vile. Antisocial tendencies developing maybe...lol
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of course
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abbra been single for 50+ yrs,his advice is good
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I can't fall in love using any form of electronic communication (or pen/pencil and paper, either). Love just doesn't work that way.
Besides, most guys who contact you on messenger are such idiots anyway that the chances of falling in like with them, much less love, are pretty much zip.
Case(s) in point:
(Bling!)
"Hi."
And that's it.
So you wait for the rest. Like:
"My name is _____. I am from _____. I am ___ years old. Thought you might want to chat or (fill in some brief reason here WHY you're contacting me.)
Nothing pisses me off more than for a guy to contact me via IM and just say "hi." I don't have the time, nor the patience for it.
I'm like..."And you would be????"
"Oh, that's not important, I just wanted to chat."
"Okay. So ....chat." (DUH???)
Silence ensues for another five minutes.
"Where'd you go?"
"I'm here. So how are you?"
"Fine. How are you? How old are you and where are you from?"
"24."
"24? You need help with your homework or something?"
"LOL..no, I just think you're HOTTTT!"
"Thanks."
silence for another 10 minutes.
"Is that it?"
"Well, yeah, I guess so."
And that ends that conversation.
Besides, most guys who contact you on messenger are such idiots anyway that the chances of falling in like with them, much less love, are pretty much zip.
Case(s) in point:
(Bling!)
"Hi."
And that's it.
So you wait for the rest. Like:
"My name is _____. I am from _____. I am ___ years old. Thought you might want to chat or (fill in some brief reason here WHY you're contacting me.)
Nothing pisses me off more than for a guy to contact me via IM and just say "hi." I don't have the time, nor the patience for it.
I'm like..."And you would be????"
"Oh, that's not important, I just wanted to chat."
"Okay. So ....chat." (DUH???)
Silence ensues for another five minutes.
"Where'd you go?"
"I'm here. So how are you?"
"Fine. How are you? How old are you and where are you from?"
"24."
"24? You need help with your homework or something?"
"LOL..no, I just think you're HOTTTT!"
"Thanks."
silence for another 10 minutes.
"Is that it?"
"Well, yeah, I guess so."
And that ends that conversation.
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Nobody like Jean to put it all into perspective!!
And thanks Criss...but i didn't mean to necessarily say that i am "disillusioned" by it...i'm just trying to figure out how one really goes about this...like what is the "formula" for beginning a relationship on messenger...
Jean has the right of it though...its that long pause inbetween that throws me off...I'm either trying to figure out if he took what i said the right way...or busy trying to formulate a next question, because without a doubt he will answer the previous question...but leave no opening to discuss it...
I'm a "people" person...i like people...so this type of communication is a little beyond me...though i do enjoy chatting with my friends...but its not the same as when you're starting out a relationship
And thanks Criss...but i didn't mean to necessarily say that i am "disillusioned" by it...i'm just trying to figure out how one really goes about this...like what is the "formula" for beginning a relationship on messenger...
Jean has the right of it though...its that long pause inbetween that throws me off...I'm either trying to figure out if he took what i said the right way...or busy trying to formulate a next question, because without a doubt he will answer the previous question...but leave no opening to discuss it...
I'm a "people" person...i like people...so this type of communication is a little beyond me...though i do enjoy chatting with my friends...but its not the same as when you're starting out a relationship
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I'm having a hard time with this one..and perhaps i'm not making myself clear to people...so can i get some help with this one??
You start some sort of relationship on messenger...how do you really do that??...It almost sounds like you're "interviewing" someone for a position when you start asking questions...and the fact that you can't guage their tone of voice or see their reaction when you say something...doesn't that make the "conversation" feel one sided??? I mean to me...part of my "attraction" to people goes beyond looks..it has a lot more to do with personality...and i don't think you can really see (feel?) someone's personality over a messenger...
Is having a webcam the only other way to get around this...or is this type of "relationship" a pie in the sky?..are you just fooling yourself that you can really get to know someone and form a meaningful bond?...