How important is it to you to be popular, to be liked (211)
Lonely1: Lots of truth in what you say. The thing is that what people say can and will be used against them. I have been on CS for a while and see a definite drop in the maturity level over time. Some peeps are not here to share, to discover, and to understand others for who they are. A lot of peeps are here to tear down, pack attack and just be downright crude.
The problem is that they show their true colors this way, so I know the reason why they are who they are.
The problem is that they show their true colors this way, so I know the reason why they are who they are.
Cannot agree more. I've been the target of such aggression several times though I couldn't care less that I'm unpopular with the in people.
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Snuggs09: Couldn't agree with you more.
Now I have to get personal. Most know that I was in a thread a few days ago. The other poster and I disagreed on a subject. I think the majority of people agreed with her and that's fine with me. Prior to that thread, people had fun with me. Since the thread NOBODY responds to my posts.
Now why is that?
Now I have to get personal. Most know that I was in a thread a few days ago. The other poster and I disagreed on a subject. I think the majority of people agreed with her and that's fine with me. Prior to that thread, people had fun with me. Since the thread NOBODY responds to my posts.
Now why is that?
I dont know what thread you mean Snuggs...Not that it would make a whit of diff to me I luv ya just the same..And I would certainly not talk to you any less
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Snuggs09: I know what you mean, and the same people put up the same stupid thread BUT they are the popular people.
Let me ask it this way. Do you think those stupid threads were written so the person will be popular. It's the same people all the time. Nobody calls them on it because I guess they have a right to write a thread about whatever they way. BUT, my opinion is that they do it to draw attention to be one of the "in" people on CS.
I honestly dont know the reason they continously do it.It could be to attract attention,and be popular,or simply that being part of CS is so important to them.Let me ask it this way. Do you think those stupid threads were written so the person will be popular. It's the same people all the time. Nobody calls them on it because I guess they have a right to write a thread about whatever they way. BUT, my opinion is that they do it to draw attention to be one of the "in" people on CS.
Personally,i enjoy a laugh on here,and have on occasions,when i have felt the need,gone agianst the concensus of opinion.However,its how you go against that general opinion which can have differant responses.
If I left CS tomorrow,it wold mean absolutely nothing to me,but to many on here it does.
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Snuggs09: No doubt about it, people have emotional needs. I think some fulfill those needs by saying whatever fits at the time so that they will be liked. It might be something funny so that others will laugh. I definitely like to laugh but not at the cost of hurting someone else. When people laugh at jokes the person might think that they are popular. Or, when others disagree with someone, everybody disagrees collectively assuming this makes them one of the “in” people.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
I will always be true to myself even when I'm bad. CS is only in my minds eye and we know our mind can play tricks on us.
Whoops, did I type that? Hit and run, post and go, no need to take it to heart because it is not my real life.
Nice to see you back in the forums Snuggs09.
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Snuggs09: Couldn't agree with you more.
Now I have to get personal. Most know that I was in a thread a few days ago. The other poster and I disagreed on a subject. I think the majority of people agreed with her and that's fine with me. Prior to that thread, people had fun with me. Since the thread NOBODY responds to my posts.
Now why is that?
Lovely lady,as far as i am concerned,it makes no differance to me whatsoever.Now I have to get personal. Most know that I was in a thread a few days ago. The other poster and I disagreed on a subject. I think the majority of people agreed with her and that's fine with me. Prior to that thread, people had fun with me. Since the thread NOBODY responds to my posts.
Now why is that?
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How important is it to be popular? Not at all.
I would far rather have a handful of very good close friends who like me for me then a huge number of people who would drop you the moment things were not perfect in my life.
I would far rather have a handful of very good close friends who like me for me then a huge number of people who would drop you the moment things were not perfect in my life.
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Does not bother me one iota.
It used to..but not anymore.
I have far more important things in life to worry about than who hates and likes me in here.
I have been shown who my true friends are so it doesnt vex me who speaks badly of me.
At the end of the day no one really knows anyone on here, so they should keep their judgments to themselves
It used to..but not anymore.
I have far more important things in life to worry about than who hates and likes me in here.
I have been shown who my true friends are so it doesnt vex me who speaks badly of me.
At the end of the day no one really knows anyone on here, so they should keep their judgments to themselves
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MovinFWD: I don't care about being popular nor do I prefer it. But I do want to be liked if that makes sense.
That makes perfect sense, oh likeable one.
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NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: I will always be true to myself even when I'm bad. CS is only in my minds eye and we know our mind can play tricks on us.
Whoops, did I type that? Hit and run, post and go, no need to take it to heart because it is not my real life.
Nice to see you back in the forums Snuggs09.
Whoops, did I type that? Hit and run, post and go, no need to take it to heart because it is not my real life.
Nice to see you back in the forums Snuggs09.
You made a good point that helps to make my point.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
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jac379: That makes perfect sense, oh likeable one.
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jac379: That makes perfect sense, oh likeable one.
Thanks oh fellow pits revealer
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Snuggs09: You made a good point that helps to make my point.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
You cant carry the wieght of everyones problems on your shoulders.It will just cause you upset.When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
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Snuggs09: See now, Jac was funny but I don't have that gift.
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Snuggs09: You made a good point that helps to make my point.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
"I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people."
See thats it right there Doll...I dont take any of it to seriously. Maybe you shouldnt either
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Snuggs09: No doubt about it, people have emotional needs. I think some fulfill those needs by saying whatever fits at the time so that they will be liked. It might be something funny so that others will laugh. I definitely like to laugh but not at the cost of hurting someone else. When people laugh at jokes the person might think that they are popular. Or, when others disagree with someone, everybody disagrees collectively assuming this makes them one of the “in” people.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
I like to be liked; of course I do. I think everyone does, really.
Its much nicer to make love not war when you can.
However, sometimes you need to put a point across, and as in a heated debate or argument in real life it can become overheated and you can lose your temper and lose perspective.
I believe that is partly why the mods temporarily ban some from posting; they can spot, with their objective eye when its getting too much for some. When you sit back, and watch the postings you can clearly see the dynamics.
I find heated debate stimulating, and without it life would be dull if we were all the same. However, keep it in perspective for what it is, peeps passing the time of day and nothing more.
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MovinFWD: Thanks oh fellow pits revealer
Ya is this like some kinda secret club you two have goin on or are you just copying Jac?
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Snuggs09: You made a good point that helps to make my point.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
Stop thinking of them as real.When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
If I Started taking being ignored to heart around here I would have a permanentaly broken heart.
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Snuggs09: You made a good point that helps to make my point.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
When you write "CS is only in my minds eye .....". That is why it's a problem for me when people ignore me because I take the people on CS very seriously even though they are cyber people. I still think of them as someone who has a heart with feelings. Someone who can be hurt, or is sick or has family problems. When they write about something sad in their life, I feel it in my gut. I take CS people to heart. I think of them as real people.
Don't get me wrong Snuggs, I feel and care for the people here also, but I will not let them get
under my skin.
I have very little contact with posters (emails) unless things need to be clarified.
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Anyway Snuggs,why are you ignoring my responses to your thread?
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We do, however, tend to interpret things from our own perspective and impose our own ideas onto others, which may not necessarily be true.
After being a forum contributor for any length of time, it would be impossible to say hello, or respond to every single person that we know. Some days we respond to some, other days, others.
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Very well said Jac.