How important is it to you to be popular, to be liked (211)
Gosh...Ive never noticed any of this. I must be an insensitive cretin. I just respond to most things with humour. I have an irreverent sense of humour, and thats your misfortune. I cant say Ive ever cared whether peeps like me or not. If someone doesnt like me, why should thier opinion matter to me? I dont take any of this very seriously. Im just happy to see/greet old friends here every day. I dont hesitate to agree or dissagree with an issue, I just let it rip. If others agree with me or I with them, fine. If not, fine anyway 
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Snuggs09: No doubt about it, people have emotional needs. I think some fulfill those needs by saying whatever fits at the time so that they will be liked. It might be something funny so that others will laugh. I definitely like to laugh but not at the cost of hurting someone else. When people laugh at jokes the person might think that they are popular. Or, when others disagree with someone, everybody disagrees collectively assuming this makes them one of the “in” people.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
Lots of truth in what you say. The thing is that what people say can and will be used against them. I have been on CS for a while and see a definite drop in the maturity level over time. Some peeps are not here to share, to discover, and to understand others for who they are. A lot of peeps are here to tear down, pack attack and just be downright crude.
The problem is that they show their true colors this way, so I know the reason why they are who they are.
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Snuggs09: No doubt about it, people have emotional needs. I think some fulfill those needs by saying whatever fits at the time so that they will be liked. It might be something funny so that others will laugh. I definitely like to laugh but not at the cost of hurting someone else. When people laugh at jokes the person might think that they are popular. Or, when others disagree with someone, everybody disagrees collectively assuming this makes them one of the “in” people.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.
There is a fine line between doing my best to be popular and doing what ever it takes to be popular,or trying to hard ...
Besides, if you do a poll about , who would you choose as your partner ,99% of the answers would be some figure from show business ( popular person)
But your question is more about how do we feed our vanity ...to be popular on CS
Guess we all have our reasons for being here and promote our presents ...
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Boban1: There is a fine line between doing my best to be popular and doing what ever it takes to be popular,or trying to hard ...
Besides, if you do a poll about , who would you choose as your partner ,99% of the answers would be some figure from show business ( popular person)
But your question is more about how do we feed our vanity ...to be popular on CS Guess we all have our reasons for being here and promote our presents ...
Besides, if you do a poll about , who would you choose as your partner ,99% of the answers would be some figure from show business ( popular person)
But your question is more about how do we feed our vanity ...to be popular on CS Guess we all have our reasons for being here and promote our presents ...
That's right Boban. And if that feed comes at the cost of hurting someone. That's what I object to. And I'm not just talking about myself. I've seen so many people get bashed by a group and it disturbs me how people can do that. People have feeling. Words do hurt.
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Snuggs09: That's right Boban. And if that feed comes at the cost of hurting someone. That's what I object to. And I'm not just talking about myself. I've seen so many people get bashed by a group and it disturbs me how people can do that. People have feeling. Words do hurt.
I get that Snuggs...But I also get that you cant post dunderheaded nonsense on the internet and not get called on it either
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I will never be popular and i'm very much ok with that 
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venusenvy: I get that Snuggs...But I also get that you cant post dunderheaded nonsense on the internet and not get called on it either
When you say "you" do you mean me?
What do you call a dunderheaded nonsense thread?
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I have noticed that some new people who come on here get unfair treatment because they put a thread up that has been on before,or someone doesnt like the subject,or it a bit silly ect.However,there are several members on here that continuosly put up stupid threads,and nothing is said.
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I think there is some truth in what you say, group dynamics can be very interesting, especially on the internet when you've got time to sit back and study dialogue.
We do, however, tend to interpret things from our own perspective and impose our own ideas onto others, which may not necessarily be true.
After being a forum contributor for any length of time, it would be impossible to say hello, or respond to every single person that we know. Some days we respond to some, other days, others.
Some days we may be in a chatty mood, some days we are a bit quiet, or too busy to say more than a few words in between work. None of this means that we ignore, or don't read, or don't enjoy reading a variety of posts. Its just that you don't always get feedback, or acknowledgement.
We are pack animals and as such we sometimes exhibit pack behaviour, whether that's party time, or collectively getting cross with someone's views. Its inevitable to a certain extent, but not necessarily a permenant condition.
One of my favourite forum posters is not vociferous, and appears largely independant from others approval. Maybe there's more quiet admiration for individuals and individuality than people realise.
We do, however, tend to interpret things from our own perspective and impose our own ideas onto others, which may not necessarily be true.
After being a forum contributor for any length of time, it would be impossible to say hello, or respond to every single person that we know. Some days we respond to some, other days, others.
Some days we may be in a chatty mood, some days we are a bit quiet, or too busy to say more than a few words in between work. None of this means that we ignore, or don't read, or don't enjoy reading a variety of posts. Its just that you don't always get feedback, or acknowledgement.
We are pack animals and as such we sometimes exhibit pack behaviour, whether that's party time, or collectively getting cross with someone's views. Its inevitable to a certain extent, but not necessarily a permenant condition.
One of my favourite forum posters is not vociferous, and appears largely independant from others approval. Maybe there's more quiet admiration for individuals and individuality than people realise.
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Let me be the punching bag 
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I don't care about being popular nor do I prefer it. But I do want to be liked if that makes sense. 
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time4fun4u: I have noticed that some new people who come on here get unfair treatment because they put a thread up that has been on before,or someone doesnt like the subject,or it a bit silly ect.However,there are several members on here that continuosly put up stupid threads,and nothing is said.
I know what you mean, and the same people put up the same stupid thread BUT they are the popular people.
Let me ask it this way. Do you think those stupid threads were written so the person will be popular. It's the same people all the time. Nobody calls them on it because I guess they have a right to write a thread about whatever they way. BUT, my opinion is that they do it to draw attention to be one of the "in" people on CS.
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Nothing changes on CS Snuggs..i can well remember being attacked years ago by the CS know it alls..as you can see im still here and is my "Face Bovvered"..i know where you are coming from lass..
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jac379: I think there is some truth in what you say, group dynamics can be very interesting, especially on the internet when you've got time to sit back and study dialogue.
We do, however, tend to interpret things from our own perspective and impose our own ideas onto others, which may not necessarily be true.
After being a forum contributor for any length of time, it would be impossible to say hello, or respond to every single person that we know. Some days we respond to some, other days, others.
Some days we may be in a chatty mood, some days we are a bit quiet, or too busy to say more than a few words in between work. None of this means that we ignore, or don't read, or don't enjoy reading a variety of posts. Its just that you don't always get feedback, or acknowledgement.
We are pack animals and as such we sometimes exhibit pack behaviour, whether that's party time, or collectively getting cross with someone's views. Its inevitable to a certain extent, but not necessarily a permenant condition.
One of my favourite forum posters is not vociferous, and appears largely independant from others approval. Maybe there's more quiet admiration for individuals and individuality than people realise.
yesWe do, however, tend to interpret things from our own perspective and impose our own ideas onto others, which may not necessarily be true.
After being a forum contributor for any length of time, it would be impossible to say hello, or respond to every single person that we know. Some days we respond to some, other days, others.
Some days we may be in a chatty mood, some days we are a bit quiet, or too busy to say more than a few words in between work. None of this means that we ignore, or don't read, or don't enjoy reading a variety of posts. Its just that you don't always get feedback, or acknowledgement.
We are pack animals and as such we sometimes exhibit pack behaviour, whether that's party time, or collectively getting cross with someone's views. Its inevitable to a certain extent, but not necessarily a permenant condition.
One of my favourite forum posters is not vociferous, and appears largely independant from others approval. Maybe there's more quiet admiration for individuals and individuality than people realise.
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Never really cared what people thought about me, you either like me or you don't, either way it means naught to me... 
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venusenvy: Gosh...Ive never noticed any of this. I must be an insensitive cretin. I just respond to most things with humour. I have an irreverent sense of humour, and thats your misfortune. I cant say Ive ever cared whether peeps like me or not. If someone doesnt like me, why should thier opinion matter to me? I dont take any of this very seriously. Im just happy to see/greet old friends here every day. I dont hesitate to agree or dissagree with an issue, I just let it rip. If others agree with me or I with them, fine. If not, fine anyway
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Snuggs09: I know what you mean, and the same people put up the same stupid thread BUT they are the popular people.
Let me ask it this way. Do you think those stupid threads were written so the person will be popular. It's the same people all the time. Nobody calls them on it because I guess they have a right to write a thread about whatever they way. BUT, my opinion is that they do it to draw attention to be one of the "in" people on CS.
Let me ask it this way. Do you think those stupid threads were written so the person will be popular. It's the same people all the time. Nobody calls them on it because I guess they have a right to write a thread about whatever they way. BUT, my opinion is that they do it to draw attention to be one of the "in" people on CS.
Its only that they are perceived as popular and that perception changes depending on who is observing , i reckon its a whole different story inside their own mind though.
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Never mind.
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MovinFWD: I don't care about being popular nor do I prefer it. But I do want to be liked if that makes sense.
Couldn't agree with you more.
Now I have to get personal. Most know that I was in a thread a few days ago. The other poster and I disagreed on a subject. I think the majority of people agreed with her and that's fine with me. Prior to that thread, people had fun with me. Since the thread NOBODY responds to my posts.
Now why is that?
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People aren’t liked anymore for who they are, what they bring to the table. It seems you need to be one of the crowd whether on CS or RL to be accepted as an individual that you may like whether others like you or not.
Being one of the “in” people has never been important to me. I’ve never been popular but I’ve always been respected.
What I’m seeing on CS is, if two people have a discussion today, there will be people who will side with one of the posters. The more who side with one poster become the popular people and tomorrow they won’t even give the time of day to the other poster, who the day before they were friendly with.
Perhaps being popular builds self-esteem and confidence but how much can you trust that the clique you are in today will watch your back tomorrow.