Its Really Not That Complicated....Is It? (145)
Bodecia: Relationships...
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
life in general is not at all complicated....people make it so for their own needs and agendas.....Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
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hello bodecia, 
very well put and my thoughts exactly...
very well put and my thoughts exactly...
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I think sometimes we tend to make things alot more complicated then they really are or appear to be or really need to be.
I think it's that way with most things not just relationships.JMHO
I think it's that way with most things not just relationships.JMHO
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Bodecia: Relationships...
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
I agree that it shouldn't be complicated at all but I do believe, especially as we get older, that we can sometimes be our own worst enemy
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Ccincy: I think sometimes we tend to make things alot more complicated then they really are or appear to be or really need to be.
I think it's that way with most things not just relationships.JMHO
I think it's that way with most things not just relationships.JMHO
Thats true, CC. I just wonder why, sometimes...
Why? Why make something more complicated than it really is? There is enough strife and stress in the world as it is!
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2intrigued: I agree that it shouldn't be complicated at all but I do believe, especially as we get older, that we can sometimes be our own worst enemy
Yep. We certainly can. Experience is usually a good thing, but if the majority of your relationship experiences have been less than perfect ones, it CAN be a bad thing because its very easy to generalise and dump the sins of others onto anyone that comes along..
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lucynad: hello bodecia,
very well put and my thoughts exactly...
very well put and my thoughts exactly...
Hi Back at ya, Lucy! And thanks..
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grizzwald: life in general is not at all complicated....people make it so for their own needs and agendas.....
I agree, and I think it is sometimes - not always - used as an excuse to run away and avoid commitment.
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sounds simple..
but,in reality there are so many people,ready for relationship and deserving to be loved ..and single..
their own fault?or bad luck?
doesnt look so simple from that angle..
but,in reality there are so many people,ready for relationship and deserving to be loved ..and single..
their own fault?or bad luck?
doesnt look so simple from that angle..
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cherrybrandy: sounds simple..
but,in reality there are so many people,ready for relationship and deserving to be loved ..and single..
their own fault?or bad luck?
doesnt look so simple from that angle..
but,in reality there are so many people,ready for relationship and deserving to be loved ..and single..
their own fault?or bad luck?
doesnt look so simple from that angle..
I think that it is what it is. I used to over-analyse what I conceived to be "hidden meanings" or "hidden agendas" in partner, when really - even if they did exist, what was the point in pursuing that train of thought? If you are constantly worrying about such things you are either with the wrong partner, or not as ready as you thought to be in a relationship.
Of course, there will always be great people, well-rounded and well-balanced people who are single. It just means that you havent met that person yet.
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Bodecia: Relationships...
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
What a good thread,congrats,it fits my motto about life.""Life is simple,people make life complicated".Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
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Bodecia: Yep. We certainly can. Experience is usually a good thing, but if the majority of your relationship experiences have been less than perfect ones, it CAN be a bad thing because its very easy to generalise and dump the sins of others onto anyone that comes along..
This is so very true and becomes instinctive possibly for protecting ones self...natural defense
It's easy to say that we will leave life lessons behind but when the time comes to put it into practice, our protective armor goes up in defense....pretty much to a fault at times. All we can do is keep an open mind and be wary but not so much that we sabotage a positive life changing experience whether it be a new relationship or any other experience. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Bodecia: Relationships...
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
It's not supposed to be complicated but sometimes it can be. A lot of people don't know how or can commit to another because of their past or whatever the reason, some are just not ready for it.
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Hi Bo, Don't you think that sometimes people bring too much baggage with them when forming a new relationship,and I'm not referring to offspring!
So many of us feed off past broken relationships and make comparisons with new connections. A fresh start should be just that,but people's judgement gets clouded from the past. I know it's difficult sometimes to move forward,but basically there isn't anywhere else to go!!!!!!
So many of us feed off past broken relationships and make comparisons with new connections. A fresh start should be just that,but people's judgement gets clouded from the past. I know it's difficult sometimes to move forward,but basically there isn't anywhere else to go!!!!!!
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chris27292729: What a good thread,congrats,it fits my motto about life.""Life is simple,people make life complicated".
Oh, so true.
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2intrigued: This is so very true and becomes instinctive possibly for protecting ones self...natural defense It's easy to say that we will leave life lessons behind but when the time comes to put it into practice, our protective armor goes up in defense....pretty much to a fault at times. All we can do is keep an open mind and be wary but not so much that we sabotage a positive life changing experience whether it be a new relationship or any other experience.
Yes, thats really partly what I was saying initially, 2..
Its the same as using distance as being an obstacle. Yes, its difficult and sometimes impossible due to children and suchlike, but many times it can be overcome and it is simply used as an excuse, in my opinion.
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Bodecia: Relationships...
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..
Relationships are complicated, especially exclusive 'romantic' relationships. Given the fact that all relationships begin in projection and that projection happens unconsciously, given that our projections stem from early childhood experiences, it's little wonder many fall by the wayside, sometimes with quite damaging consequence on one or the other...or maybe both.
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bestbefore: Hi Bo, Don't you think that sometimes people bring too much baggage with them when forming a new relationship,and I'm not referring to offspring!
So many of us feed off past broken relationships and make comparisons with new connections. A fresh start should be just that,but people's judgement gets clouded from the past. I know it's difficult sometimes to move forward,but basically there isn't anywhere else to go!!!!!!
So many of us feed off past broken relationships and make comparisons with new connections. A fresh start should be just that,but people's judgement gets clouded from the past. I know it's difficult sometimes to move forward,but basically there isn't anywhere else to go!!!!!!
Oh, yes. Exactly. If you persist in generalising and lumping everyone together, then to me thats a sign you are simply not ready for a new start. More work needs to be done.
Acceptance and compromise: thats what its all about.
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bodleing: Relationships are complicated, especially exclusive 'romantic' relationships. Given the fact that all relationships begin in projection and that projection happens unconsciously, given that our projections stem from early childhood experiences, it's little wonder many fall by the wayside, sometimes with quite damaging consequence on one or the other...or maybe both.
Interesting, G..
So, basically you are saying that our perceptions of others in relationship issues (and others) are based on our childhood upbringing?
I can see how that would work, especially if you had strong personality parents..
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Really are quite simple. I think it is human nature to attempt to analyse, overthink and constantly look for alternative meanings to things when, really, it is what it is.
You meet someone; you fall in love, you commit to each other. It either works, or it doesnt. If both parties are truly ready for it, and are in a place in their life where they can be open-minded, accepting of others' faults it will work.
Do we really over think other people's attitudes in love as a way of finding a reason to run away? Do we blame past experiences on all the rest of the male/female species, and use that as yet another reason to back off? I think we do..
If you are truly at the right place in life, it will happen. If you let it..