What makes a man sad? (97)
LonelyMontse08: yes! and sometimes those odd ways hurt other people, that is why I asked what can one do around a sad man to make him feel better, I really dont know if I should keep trying to talk to him or simply give him some space but seems second option is best. I care for this person a lot that is why I am worried.
My thoughts on what you are seeing is depression. Any attempt you make on your own wont dent it. He needs to see a doctor, if he wont, arrange for doctor to see him.------ This thread is Archived ------
almera03: Sadness is an emotion in some men that can cause them to react in odd ways. Men I believe do carry their emotions inside for too long, which is unhealthy.
I wonder how many fights down the pub at the weekend is due not just to the alcholol consumption, but to a release of pent up emotion.
I wonder how many fights down the pub at the weekend is due not just to the alcholol consumption, but to a release of pent up emotion.
I can agree with this almera. It 's bound to come back to a person one way or another if they ignore their emotional feelings
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trueheart1941: on a more serioue note.....men hate to beseen as sad....in a odd way..we belive that woman look upon us being the stronger..gender.and to make them feel secure...yes we do feel sadness....but most of us hide it within our selves...does it hurt......depending on what it is.....very much so.
it is what i sense, in your exact words, but men should know that although we like and see you as the stronger gender, we also like it when you guys open up and express what you really feel, its wonderful to share feelings, for me its a sign that one is strong.------ This thread is Archived ------
felixis99: I can agree with this almera. It 's bound to come back to a person one way or another if they ignore their emotional feelings
great thread. thank you.
and thank you to almera, often enjoy and also learn from your posts.
hope more men join this thread (thank you almera and pete).
would very much like to hear men's thoughts on this.
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2intrigued: I've encountered this where you just know there's something on his mind and he won't open up for the life of him...it can be pretty frustrating so all we can do is show a little empathy, offer some moral support if he wants to accept it and leave him to sort things out in his own time and in his own way.
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almera03: My thoughts on what you are seeing is depression. Any attempt you make on your own wont dent it. He needs to see a doctor, if he wont, arrange for doctor to see him.
I think he is going through something very hard for him to completely shut down on me, I did let him know I am here for him and probably once he feels better he will come and talk to me, but this kind of behavior made me curious on wanting to know what makes a man sad, thank you again Almera love your opinions.
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2intrigued: I've encountered this where you just know there's something on his mind and he won't open up for the life of him...it can be pretty frustrating so all we can do is show a little empathy, offer some moral support if he wants to accept it and leave him to sort things out in his own time and in his own way.
I like this idea 2! Also, I 'd add to continue to do the things you normally do for him or with him unless he asks you not to (if you call everyday at 5 - continue to do so for example) to let him know that even though he is feeling down you still want him in your life...so showing that you care in your daily actions rather than frequent questions about his mood maybe
although I think it's good to ask once in awhile if he is feeling OK -
for me, the part I find difficult is that I have a hard time being with someone where you feel like your "walking on eggshells" all the time.
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LonelyMontse08: I think he is going through something very hard for him to completely shut down on me, I did let him know I am here for him and probably once he feels better he will come and talk to me, but this kind of behavior made me curious on wanting to know what makes a man sad, thank you again Almera love your opinions.
I wonder do men get sad about the same kinds of things us women do?
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LonelyMontse08: I think he is going through something very hard for him to completely shut down on me, I did let him know I am here for him and probably once he feels better he will come and talk to me, but this kind of behavior made me curious on wanting to know what makes a man sad, thank you again Almera love your opinions.
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felixis99: I like this idea 2! Also, I 'd add to continue to do the things you normally do for him or with him unless he asks you not to (if you call everyday at 5 - continue to do so for example) to let him know that even though he is feeling down you still want him in your life...so showing that you care in your daily actions rather than frequent questions about his mood maybe
although I think it's good to ask once in awhile if he is feeling OK -
for me, the part I find difficult is that I have a hard time being with someone where you feel like your "walking on eggshells" all the time.
although I think it's good to ask once in awhile if he is feeling OK -
for me, the part I find difficult is that I have a hard time being with someone where you feel like your "walking on eggshells" all the time.
Yeah, what you're saying about the walking on eggshells part is so true and not the best way to live if it's constant.
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felixis99: the part I find difficult is that I have a hard time being with someone where you feel like your "walking on eggshells" all the time.
ohhh thats the part I hate also, in this case he is only my friend my feelings to him are simply friendship but I am talking about over 20 years of moments shared, so very special friend to me and I feel I m walking on glass, feels ugly but only he knows what is going through right now and i just have to be there for him, maybe it is what Almera says he doesnt know how to tell me or ask for my help it could be.
If I could be granted a wish this would be: that people could express with out trouble how wonderful that would be.
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almera03: There is a very good chance, he doesn't not what he wants from you, or be able to ask for it. I can't ask for help, thats part of me
Yes he probably dont know how to ask for help or doesnt like to ask for help, good thing is Ive told him hey I am here if you need me, I guess is the best I can do
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2intrigued: Yeah, what you're saying about the walking on eggshells part is so true and not the best way to live if it's constant.
How about we dance around the eggshells ? 
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LonelyMontse08: ohhh thats the part I hate also, in this case he is only my friend my feelings to him are simply friendship but I am talking about over 20 years of moments shared, so very special friend to me and I feel I m walking on glass, feels ugly but only he knows what is going through right now and i just have to be there for him, maybe it is what Almera says he doesnt know how to tell me or ask for my help it could be.
If I could be granted a wish this would be: that people could express with out trouble how wonderful that would be.
He may not want to tell you and risk you having that sadness and pain too.If I could be granted a wish this would be: that people could express with out trouble how wonderful that would be.
Yep it doesn't make sense cause with the way he is you have it anyway........
Men and women don't always make sense when they are hurting.
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2intrigued: Yeah, what you're saying about the walking on eggshells part is so true and not the best way to live if it's constant.
2I / felix:
been there, long ago.
didn't like walking on eggshells, but when it became broken glass..
was time to keep walking me thinks...so i did
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jono7: question re macho manly act...is this something they do while women are present?, or something that just becomes a 'way of life' and they are like that around men as well?
thank you for considering my question
It doesn't matter if they are with a woman or not, they feel they have to prove they are a man...........to be a manthank you for considering my question
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felixis99: I wonder do men get sad about the same kinds of things us women do?
I think they do Felix but they show it differently.
For example, if a man cheats on a woman and she finds out, she gets angry, bitter and wants revenge.
If a woman cheats on a man, he feels that she was deceitful and he's hurt by it and that leads to sadness. Of course the man gets mad but overall I think he feels sadness when a woman betrays him.
Not an expert..just an opinion..
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montemonte: I think they do Felix but they show it differently.
For example, if a man cheats on a woman and she finds out, she gets angry, bitter and wants revenge.
If a woman cheats on a man, he feels that she was deceitful and he's hurt by it and that leads to sadness. Of course the man gets mad but overall I think he feels sadness when a woman betrays him.
Not an expert..just an opinion..
For example, if a man cheats on a woman and she finds out, she gets angry, bitter and wants revenge.
If a woman cheats on a man, he feels that she was deceitful and he's hurt by it and that leads to sadness. Of course the man gets mad but overall I think he feels sadness when a woman betrays him.
Not an expert..just an opinion..
I should add that if he loses his job, he's sad at the moment but his mind is already thinking, where can I get another job.
When a woman cheats, another woman is the last thing on his mind and that leads to depression.
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LonelyMontse08: I guess we all know it is easier for a woman to express, sometimes even without words, when we feel sad. We are more expressive when it comes to feelings, happy, sad, angry any kind of feelings but, what about men?, what things make a man sad? In his everyday life, in a relationship, around his family and friends, around his work place.
I am curious to know that and what can a person around you do when you
feel sad about anything.
Thank you
I am curious to know that and what can a person around you do when you
feel sad about anything.
Thank you
Not the 'not getting your way' nor 'not getting what you want' type of thing; that is rather immature. For myself it is when all hope(s) die or/and gone, be it personal relationships or the death of someone special; personal memories and lastly,and the least important, financial.
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I've encountered this where you just know there's something on his mind and he won't open up for the life of him...it can be pretty frustrating so all we can do is show a little empathy, offer some moral support if he wants to accept it and leave him to sort things out in his own time and in his own way.