Birthdays, Anniversaries, and other important stuff... Why I forget them... (19)
Some people just do not care about dates. I myself am glad I can remember the month and the year. Only way I ever remembered my aniversary, was when my sister sent a card. Then it's oh damn, not another one.
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AB, You express that so wonderfully, that I am sure if you had a girl that you care about right now, and you forget a special day,
she would probably forgive you on the spot!
But...I do believe that even when you love every day with that person, if something matters to them, make a note of it.
Put it on your dash board ot remote control if you have to, lol.
Women can be forgetful too, so it is not that bad.
Personally, I am so non-materialistic, that I be happy that the moment be acknowledge with something very small and meaninful or
creative.
Some things money cannot buy, but when you give from your heart and make a dinner, or take a night to sit with her and watch a movie that you dislike, but she does, you are not only showing interest, but giving of your time with unconditional love at that specific moment and for that purpose.
I do understand you say every day is very special, and that is very nice that you can feel such a special emotion.
Here to you
for having a wonderful mind.
... Angel...
she would probably forgive you on the spot!
But...I do believe that even when you love every day with that person, if something matters to them, make a note of it.
Put it on your dash board ot remote control if you have to, lol.
Women can be forgetful too, so it is not that bad.
Personally, I am so non-materialistic, that I be happy that the moment be acknowledge with something very small and meaninful or
creative.
Some things money cannot buy, but when you give from your heart and make a dinner, or take a night to sit with her and watch a movie that you dislike, but she does, you are not only showing interest, but giving of your time with unconditional love at that specific moment and for that purpose.
I do understand you say every day is very special, and that is very nice that you can feel such a special emotion.
Here to you
for having a wonderful mind....
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He didn't piss me off at all. I like most of what he has to say and is at most times very insightful. I just shoot straight from the hip and call it as I see it. You wouldn't want me to lie now would you?
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Yes there are some people, (usually men) who forget the dates that are important to their loved one.
I think the fair thing to do is remind them when the day is coming.
I'm not one to play the game of getting pissed off on that special day because they forgot.
If these reminders don't help the guy remember, then I would have to believe they don't care enough and I'd probably be hurt enough to end the relationship before it progressed.
I think the fair thing to do is remind them when the day is coming.
I'm not one to play the game of getting pissed off on that special day because they forgot.
If these reminders don't help the guy remember, then I would have to believe they don't care enough and I'd probably be hurt enough to end the relationship before it progressed.
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You learn well grasshopper...I guess that would be applied technology 
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OUCH!!! That Hurt!...and I thought you bought thoes shoes strictly for fashion.
-besides-
A minute's time out from you my dear, would be 2 minutes too long.
-besides-
A minute's time out from you my dear, would be 2 minutes too long.
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"A minute's time out from you my dear, would be 2 minutes too long."
Now your sitting in the same box with AB...Tis ok though, you're in good company.
Now your sitting in the same box with AB...Tis ok though, you're in good company.
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You don't have to understand us...just figure out how to deal with us BeachFarmer seems to have some talent in this area maybe he can spare a few "get outta jail free moves" with you.
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Ya know AB, sometimes that just is.
It pretty much sounds bitter and deliberately hurtful and I don't why people do that.
I've been just as bad about saying hurtful things "just to win" the argument.
After the fact though, it's just spinnin wheels. The more she tries to make you hurt, the less SHE lets go.
HER GAME...doesn't have to be yours.
Just keep saying that you regret ever hurting "anyone". It's the truth, it will make her feel better or worse.....how she reacts to a "positive" comment is not your problem.
It pretty much sounds bitter and deliberately hurtful and I don't why people do that.
I've been just as bad about saying hurtful things "just to win" the argument.
After the fact though, it's just spinnin wheels. The more she tries to make you hurt, the less SHE lets go.
HER GAME...doesn't have to be yours.
Just keep saying that you regret ever hurting "anyone". It's the truth, it will make her feel better or worse.....how she reacts to a "positive" comment is not your problem.
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As far as that particular ex is concerned I think I dealt with her quite well.
Perceived flaws are one of her strong suits. She perceived everything as a flaw.
AB
Perceived flaws are one of her strong suits. She perceived everything as a flaw.
AB
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Good lord man, did we date the same girl?
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If you receive some small indication of how your man is feeling every day. Would you still feel hurt if he did not do something extra on a special day...
and if the day is very special to you why not just do something special yourself for him to show that YOU think its special?
AB
and if the day is very special to you why not just do something special yourself for him to show that YOU think its special?
AB
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To me Birthdays, Christmas, Anniversaries etc are important.Its the thought not the material that makes me happy.I was in a relationship with someone who believed in none of those and would give me a gift two or three weeks before the event.The gift meant nothing.A flower picked and given to me on the day would have given me more joy.I also enjoy finding and giving small gifts and cards for no reason except that I love the person Im with.
In answer to your ex not letting go...
perhaps its because she feels that you have never acknowledged the hurts (immaginary or real ).Sometimes sorry can heal many wounds. Also maybe she is still in love with you.
In answer to your ex not letting go...
perhaps its because she feels that you have never acknowledged the hurts (immaginary or real ).Sometimes sorry can heal many wounds. Also maybe she is still in love with you.
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What do I have to say sorry for...
She cheated on me and lied even when confronted with it.
While I was at work she took my children with her when she met the man and LEFT THEM IN THE CAR FOR 4 HOURS.
She left them at home with no supervision to go meet him and I got called at work to pick them up from the child services shelter and had to listen while I was told that I was a lousy parent and could lose my children.
When I went to her work once she had his picture on her desk. She put his picture up on the wall in my house and took mine down.
I took my children and left... It was quite obvious to me that I was not what she wanted at the time.
She cheated on me and lied even when confronted with it.
While I was at work she took my children with her when she met the man and LEFT THEM IN THE CAR FOR 4 HOURS.
She left them at home with no supervision to go meet him and I got called at work to pick them up from the child services shelter and had to listen while I was told that I was a lousy parent and could lose my children.
When I went to her work once she had his picture on her desk. She put his picture up on the wall in my house and took mine down.
I took my children and left... It was quite obvious to me that I was not what she wanted at the time.
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I am not sure why it happened, there is probably a reason for it, but my ex hubby always picked special days to "twist" off. After 15 years, I finally got to know that come Christmas time he would disappear for 3 days, or if my Birthday was coming up...... whoops went to the bar with the guys and forgot to come home. Near the end of our time together it was almost comical, knowing that this would happen. He said he didn't do it on purpose, things just "happened" I would laugh it off and hope for something different the next year, but it was always the same. It was never a life shattering event for me, just seemed strange that this always happened. Maybe someone with more insight could suggest reasons this would keep happening.
Now I am single and have a daughter, we do all the traditional holiday stuff and I just look back and chuckle, thinking wow, think of all those years I didn't have to cook a big dinner haha ;)
Now I am single and have a daughter, we do all the traditional holiday stuff and I just look back and chuckle, thinking wow, think of all those years I didn't have to cook a big dinner haha ;)
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Wow AB I am so sorry you and your kids were treated this way, you seem like such a caring guy! I hope that you got custody of the kids. Leaving the children in the car for 4 hours is inexcusable! I have chosen not to date for the past 6 years just so my child wouldn't see things like this! People who put the kids last, in order to find personal relationships piss me off. God Bless you and your kids AB.
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Sorry AB I didnt know the circumstances
I was trying to explain why some people find it hard to let go.I was cheated on too and he kept denying it, kept telling me he loved me. He kept me in there for another year till I found out the truth and I walked away.I needed him to admit what he did and say sorry.Im over it now but it took a long time, a very painful long time.
I was trying to explain why some people find it hard to let go.I was cheated on too and he kept denying it, kept telling me he loved me. He kept me in there for another year till I found out the truth and I walked away.I needed him to admit what he did and say sorry.Im over it now but it took a long time, a very painful long time.
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I know that most of you wonder why some guys forget the dates you think are important.
My reason for this seeming lack of feeling towards you isn't lack of feeling...
Its too much feeling.
I have a tendency to cherish every day when I am with someone right. Each day becomes so special to me that I tend to not notice when one of those days that is special to you come around.
Guys feel free to jump right in here if you can shed some light on this subject.
AB