Please tell me why some men are afraid of being in a relationship?? ( Archived) (46)

When someone portrays themselves as "being interested in establishing a relationship" and takes no steps to have the relationship deepen and grow ... then how can someone not say to themselves that their time and energy is being wasted when they also desire a relationship?

Friendship can certainly flourish - but therein lies the difference if the boundaries of said interactions have been put into place. No one is a mind reader of another person - so if someone states that they want a relationship another would have the expectation that is what they are truly seeking.

I think given the amount of time that the OP has invested into getting to know this person, that its clear to her whether she really wants to admit it or not, is that they both desire different things. That it itself is not wrong - but - it also seems that they are not meant to be together beyond friendship.

After a long time of silence he started talking to me again.. We chat for hours about all sorts of things but if I ask him about future plans together he is silent... Please help me understand?? Is he very afraid of a relationship..is this man just waisting time??? I appreciate your honest answers and opinions.. Many thanks Elena

Just step back a little from him...One never misses the water till the well runs dry...When a man or woman truly loves someone they will go through hell and high water to be with that person..."Love Is A Madness Without a cure" Some people men and woman can't say plain and simple that they do not feel any chemistry..with that person..I believe in being honest..I like you.. is..I like you...But I don't love you.
Good friends are hard to find..

Thank you...

This man is 50 y o and was never married..He only had a few realtionships.

This man is 50 y o and was never married..He only had a few realtionships.

Some men think it is giving up them selfs, as in devoting themselves to one woman, most men do not want to do that, as it goes back to the cave man days when men laided the law down and women abided. It is in their blood,, some times it's called a charcter flaw ! In today, most men have grown past that!
Carol62

Ok, in my case I'm afraid of naked women.

Dear Elena, could it be he is scared to be intimate with a woman? It is quite common you know..My fear was getting too close and falling deeply in love...Love can hurt..So we put barriers up.

A fear of intimacy, often characterized by a distrust of people or an aversion to letting people get too close emotionally, is something that effects many adults and hinders them from forming healthy personal relationships with other people.

Romantic relationships between two adults can be very complicated and when you add a fear of intimacy to the mix, you may as well consider it over before it even had a chance to start.

“If the woman gets too close, the man pulls back. If he moves too far away, she pursues, and so on. It is common to encounter a mild aversion to intimacy or a mild trepidation when entering a new relationship. After all, no one wants to get hurt and it is wise to be cautious with your heart, but those with a fear of emotional intimacy take those feelings to a whole new level and actually push people away in order to avoid becoming close to them.