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Then one day she got angry with me for not getting jealous and that's what she was looking for. I was barely sober and under a year in AA. It was like turning on a light... or turning on a dark if such a thing is possible.
I went on to become very jealous indeed. Infact many sleepless nights till I ended up finishing the relationship which became more and more manipulative. It wasn't till I saw Jac's post earlier that I realised that the negativity had been deliberately planted in me by her and that it wasn't just one of my own defects. For the first time in my life, I finished a relationship. I had never done that before. But every so often that old jealousy thing pops up again and it frightens me. It's one of the reason I stayed single and alone. I had been so easily duped. I can't put myself through that grief and pain again.
She wants you to ASSERT, unfortunately you sulked and moped in a self-created hell. I'll bet you were both relieved when it was over.