Bit of a worry once you get passed 50 (33)
freominx: I have friends dying left, right and centre, mostly of cancer. Is this all we have left to look forward to?
No it is not, but it depends on what you want to focus on. Our media worships eternal youth. Everyday the biggest sellers are products to help up try and stay young.
But age is reality. I would not want to be 20, 30, or 40 again. One day, I will expire, but I do not believe that this is the end of my existence or the end of anyone else's existence either.
We have the opportunity to re-ignite happiness in developing new friendships. Life is living and dying, it is ups and downs. We are all frequency based in some way.
Think about the positive things, search for the good things, the pleasant things, and remember the quality and fun things of those you now miss. Smile and remember them in their happy times that you both shared. And find new happy moments that you share with others.
Each day is new, each day there is something to look forward to, if we choose to search for it. How's your magnifying glass these days?
freominx: thanks Blizz............. the way we live today has a lot to answer to doesn't it?
Fast lane, fast food, and fast death!tonyxf: Fast lane, fast food, and fast death!
HET Tone, you seemend to have slowed down of late. Sparkle up (not too much as lookin may be looking
wash2u: HET Tone, you seemend to have slowed down of late. Sparkle up (not too much as lookin may be looking
Hi Wash! Been workin too many long shifts lately and lookin after 2 houses has ended up being not much fun.tonyxf: Hi Wash! Been workin too many long shifts lately and lookin after 2 houses has ended up being not much fun.
Take time out some time and come down out of the hills for a meet or walkabout and relax with some friends.
Even look at next month of wandering down the road to the Land Rover Owners Club Victoria 4wd Show at Wandin for something different. I am aiming to take my ex-Army 1971 Land Rover (and hopefully the almost new trailer - 1965) along for something different after so many years working on the show.
After 10 years of being in a demonstration show (4/5 times throughout the day) being treated as a "Keep on dancing, Maria" it is about time I can finally go there and have a laugh at someone else.
After so many years of the Club putting this event on, it is now recognised as the premier annual 4wd event in Australia, and run by a bunch of amateurs. Getting to be a bit more about what you can do away from the city lights, not just the rugged (aka stupid stuff) away from from the Madding Crowd.
LiLee: It's funny (as in perculiar) isn't it how our mind re-asseses whats important after we hit middle age. Spot on Lillie 
Every stage of life seems to bring about different realities or realisations.
I spent the first half of my life striving to get somewhere, raising kids, building a life for myself. I get that...
Then middle age hits and I wonder where the hell somewhere is and my kids have flown the nest to begin their own journey. I am proud of them and the job i did of raising them but being a mum is no longer the main reason for my existance.
Now I see my parents getting older and my mum diagonsed with lung cancer. Suddenly my priorties have changed. Getting somewhere (that doesn't exist) seems less important than spending time with family and friends. The realisation that our time is short develops and i take less for granted. I realized that my time is short when I worked out I was too old to take out another home loan.. not that I wanted one.. but things that were not blocked to me once... are now out of reach.
A friend said to me, we think our elderly parents become lonely and sad that they can no longer get out and experience life. But that is our perception. He father told her as he gets older he doesn't want to travel and rush about, he's very content to sit back and watch the world go by, comfortable in his immediate surroundings.
Nope... my elderly parents have become deaf... but they still get around.. Just not as quickly as they once did...
I wonder if the human brain prepares us to deal with whatever stage we are at or whatever circumstances we face be that death or illness or old age. - I think so.. within, we know that we can cope with only.. 'this much' and when it all becomes too overwhelming.. the brain shuts out a lot... or the ears give up hearing, or the teeth fall out to prevent speech... I think its part of a plan..
One thing I am learning is happiness is a state of mind which I have control over. If I am grateful for where I am and for those i have around me, I feel happy. I am less and less striving to get somewhere and more and more content to be where I am.
Every stage of life seems to bring about different realities or realisations.
I spent the first half of my life striving to get somewhere, raising kids, building a life for myself. I get that...
Then middle age hits and I wonder where the hell somewhere is and my kids have flown the nest to begin their own journey. I am proud of them and the job i did of raising them but being a mum is no longer the main reason for my existance.
Now I see my parents getting older and my mum diagonsed with lung cancer. Suddenly my priorties have changed. Getting somewhere (that doesn't exist) seems less important than spending time with family and friends. The realisation that our time is short develops and i take less for granted. I realized that my time is short when I worked out I was too old to take out another home loan.. not that I wanted one.. but things that were not blocked to me once... are now out of reach.
A friend said to me, we think our elderly parents become lonely and sad that they can no longer get out and experience life. But that is our perception. He father told her as he gets older he doesn't want to travel and rush about, he's very content to sit back and watch the world go by, comfortable in his immediate surroundings.
Nope... my elderly parents have become deaf... but they still get around.. Just not as quickly as they once did...
I wonder if the human brain prepares us to deal with whatever stage we are at or whatever circumstances we face be that death or illness or old age. - I think so.. within, we know that we can cope with only.. 'this much' and when it all becomes too overwhelming.. the brain shuts out a lot... or the ears give up hearing, or the teeth fall out to prevent speech... I think its part of a plan..
One thing I am learning is happiness is a state of mind which I have control over. If I am grateful for where I am and for those i have around me, I feel happy. I am less and less striving to get somewhere and more and more content to be where I am.
Well said Lilee... I think about stuff that I have not done yet.. and I make my mind up to do it.. I dont begrudge paying for things like daily car parking... because I am being kind to myself.. I know myself.. and I know I dont like public transport.. and stuff like.. I think about things that I want to try.. and I have worked out.. that I need to do it.. not just think about it... and bit by bit.. all these things are coming to fruitition.. But, of course, some of the fun is striving and saving.. and achieving... that's the good bit..
meanwhile... 
Not saying this to upset any one,
But really who are the smart ones in the world,
Is it the ones on centrelink payments who live a care free life
Or the ones that work 9-5 ,5 or 6 days a week
Life is hard for a lot of people,we loose children,parents,family members and friends,
It is so hard but we go on to live our lives,
I am so glad I have made it to fifty,and every year after that is a bonus,
More like every day is a bonus,
Live and be happy,
But really who are the smart ones in the world,
Is it the ones on centrelink payments who live a care free life
Or the ones that work 9-5 ,5 or 6 days a week
Life is hard for a lot of people,we loose children,parents,family members and friends,
It is so hard but we go on to live our lives,
I am so glad I have made it to fifty,and every year after that is a bonus,
More like every day is a bonus,
Live and be happy,
Yes sorry to hear those loved ones of yours who are suffering freo and Curly, and everyone else. I'm sure everyone can think of someone they know who has been affected by illness both old and young.
Nature123: Not saying this to upset any one,
But really who are the smart ones in the world,
Is it the ones on centrelink payments who live a care free life
Or the ones that work 9-5 ,5 or 6 days a week
Life is hard for a lot of people,we loose children,parents,family members and friends,
It is so hard but we go on to live our lives,
I am so glad I have made it to fifty,and every year after that is a bonus,
More like every day is a bonus,
Live and be happy,
But really who are the smart ones in the world,
Is it the ones on centrelink payments who live a care free life
Or the ones that work 9-5 ,5 or 6 days a week
Life is hard for a lot of people,we loose children,parents,family members and friends,
It is so hard but we go on to live our lives,
I am so glad I have made it to fifty,and every year after that is a bonus,
More like every day is a bonus,
Live and be happy,
Most live an "insane" existence in the name of normalicy. Who in their right mind would work a job they hate just so that they be exist in a state that they don't want to because they think that a big flash car, or a big flash house or some other inconsequential status symbol gives them some delusional notion of "success"?
I have not yet met one person nearing the end of their time that has said to me that they wished they spent more time at work, or less time with their kids. I have heard many say exactly the opposite though.
Maybe we, the conned by the media and governements who want to control us are the stupid ones.
Halv0: Most live an "insane" existence in the name of normalicy. Who in their right mind would work a job they hate just so that they be exist in a state that they don't want to because they think that a big flash car, or a big flash house or some other inconsequential status symbol gives them some delusional notion of "success"?
I have not yet met one person nearing the end of their time that has said to me that they wished they spent more time at work, or less time with their kids. I have heard many say exactly the opposite though.
Maybe we, the conned by the media and governements who want to control us are the stupid ones.
I have not yet met one person nearing the end of their time that has said to me that they wished they spent more time at work, or less time with their kids. I have heard many say exactly the opposite though.
Maybe we, the conned by the media and governements who want to control us are the stupid ones.
Then again we may not all be that stupid as not all off us look for material gains in life but only creature comforts!
I work a four day week! Last week I had a four day weekend and this week I have a four day weekend! Them would be the only days I actually work! But don’t tell the boss!
You can always migrate too the west!
I hear you Guv - although I have to say it's not all doom and gloom.
In the last few years I've lost my Father, Mother and older brother and I nearly followed suit all by the time I was 40!
But I managed to turn my life around in the nick of time. While most of my family are now gone, new people have entered my life such as my Brother's partner's children and I am a very proud uncle indeed.
In short, it's never too late to start living!
In the last few years I've lost my Father, Mother and older brother and I nearly followed suit all by the time I was 40!
But I managed to turn my life around in the nick of time. While most of my family are now gone, new people have entered my life such as my Brother's partner's children and I am a very proud uncle indeed.
In short, it's never too late to start living!
Merriweather: Well said Lilee... I think about stuff that I have not done yet.. and I make my mind up to do it.. I dont begrudge paying for things like daily car parking... because I am being kind to myself.. I know myself.. and I know I dont like public transport.. and stuff like.. I think about things that I want to try.. and I have worked out.. that I need to do it.. not just think about it... and bit by bit.. all these things are coming to fruitition.. But, of course, some of the fun is striving and saving.. and achieving... that's the good bit.. meanwhile...
Firstly, love the new pic, Merri. Great to see a happy face.
I do not use public transport, mainly because there is not much where I am and it does really go where I want to go, in convenient for times, inconvenient because I would have to change means of transport at least times, or just too hard to buy a ticket on the very rare times I would ever need it.
So if I have to go into the City, I put up with the Monash Carpark (sometimes called a "Freeway"), the time it takes to get there, pay the tolls and pay to park. And as I lease my car (includes fuel, servicing repairs and tolls), I still pay the same whether I use it or not.
Even when I worked in near the City and had free parking for my own car, it meant a 15 min walk in all weather while 2 mins away I could park for $3.50 (was 7+ years ago).
When I turned 50, I graduated from Uni (very slow learner), quit my job after being there for 20 years, moved inter-State and got married again. It was a great year for me in many ways but as Freo says, it does get you thinking about life. 2 close friends younger than me passed away that year, a fair number of older relos and friends went over the next few years and it was hard to make the trip to see those ill while so far away.
50 was my wake-up call about getting out and doing things. It might seem like I am bragging but I have gone out taking whatever opportunities I can to enjoy those things I want to do. I think of my father who passed away at 61. He had just bought a farm with my brother for his 'retirement' but never had a chance to do the stuff on it he really wanted to do with it. He had his plans for his retirement but never got to enjoy them.
And my little cancer scare last year made me realise that there is still so much more out there to see while I am healthy enough to enjoy it.
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It's very sad that we loose friends freo, I am sure we have all experienced that? but you have to try and find something positive for yourself to focus on? Thank God YOU are healthy?
Try and find something every day that makes you feel good, makes you smile or happy? And most importantly - do the living that your friends who have gone too soon can't do? I am sure they would not want you dwelling on negative thoughts?