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Feb 19, 2013 5:38 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
xxDandelionxx
xxDandelionxxxxDandelionxxunknown, Hampshire, England UK8 Threads 2,525 Posts
I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


help
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Feb 19, 2013 5:44 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
bbygrrl
bbygrrlbbygrrlkingston, Kingston Jamaica3 Threads 16 Posts
Gave a guy my number turns out he's the phlebotomy teacher at my school what do i do!!!
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Feb 19, 2013 5:48 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


Ask yourself, would you want to know? dunno

I most definately would, so be a friend and tell her. handshake

If it's only a dare he can talk himself out of it. roll eyes
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Feb 19, 2013 5:50 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Hi Dandelionwave

You dont realy think its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark???

He is married and on a dating site i think that says it all mumbling

I would not brake news like that to my friend BUT i might say it to the lovely fella that you seen him and ask if your friend knows what he is at !!wave
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Feb 19, 2013 5:55 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Crowjoe
CrowjoeCrowjoeSan Jose, California USA19 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


If he is monitoring this website you may soon meet your doom. So problem solved. tongue rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 19, 2013 6:01 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
justjim63
justjim63justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia14 Threads 2,592 Posts
In response to: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


Send him a message on the site, and say something like "Oh i didn't realise that (insert your friends name) and you have seperated, i'll have to call her to see f she's ok?" I bet he'll be off the site quick smart, and probably never be able to look you straight in the eyes again.wine
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Feb 19, 2013 6:07 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Dadude62
Dadude62Dadude62Elkton, Maryland USA1,120 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?



Ask him for a date,,, show up with his wife,,,
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Feb 19, 2013 6:08 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?



That's true, you will be damned no matter what you do.

But the first five words in your opening sentence are "I can't imagine my friend" should give you an idea what you should do.

If you tell her she is going to be angry for butting into her business.

If you don't tell her she's going to be angry that you kept it from her.

But what's more important....that she knows her husband is on a dating site or that she doesn't talk to you for a day, a week, a month.

If you care about her, take care of her and deal with her anger later on. In the end, she will thank you but it might take awhile.

I wouldn't approach her husband if I were you. That could put you in danger.
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Feb 19, 2013 6:11 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
menu11
menu11menu11Galveston, Texas USA1,323 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


I would mind my own business. cool
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Feb 19, 2013 6:26 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
I wouldn't stick my nose in.
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Feb 19, 2013 6:34 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
DaytonaDude
DaytonaDudeDaytonaDudeSouth Daytona, Florida USA33 Threads 3 Polls 2,403 Posts
Dadude62: Ask him for a date,,, show up with his wife,,,


My thought exactly. If the guy is stupid enough to do that then teach him a lesson.
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Feb 19, 2013 6:37 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Dadude62
Dadude62Dadude62Elkton, Maryland USA1,120 Posts
DaytonaDude: My thought exactly. If the guy is stupid enough to do that then teach him a lesson.


Or make a fake profile with a picture of his wife,,,

I suppose it's possible someone did that to him,,,, a scammer maybe,,,
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Feb 19, 2013 6:38 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
menu11
menu11menu11Galveston, Texas USA1,323 Posts
Just smell it.laugh rolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 19, 2013 6:55 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
MarieLeveau
MarieLeveauMarieLeveauSt. John's, Newfoundland Canada103 Posts
I would tell her. She might be hurt but it could save her a lot of pain in the future. Make sure you save a copy of his profile for proof. If it was happening to you I'm sure you'd want to know
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Feb 19, 2013 6:57 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
galrads
galradsgalradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 Posts
xxDandelionxx: I have just found my dear friend's husband on another dating website!!

I can't imagine my friend knows anything like this is going on. I feel a bit sick actually but I know that I will be damned whatever I do or don't do.

If I am the bearer of bad news, I will be hated but if I keep quiet and its discovered that I knew about it.......

He has always seemed a lovely fella, I wonder if its a blokey thing, i.e. a dare, a lark?


may bee some 1 stole and using his picture? dunno
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Feb 19, 2013 6:57 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
menu11
menu11menu11Galveston, Texas USA1,323 Posts
MarieLeveau: I would tell her. She might be hurt but it could save her a lot of pain in the future. Make sure you save a copy of his profile for proof. If it was happening to you I'm sure you'd want to know
doh
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Feb 19, 2013 7:00 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
justjim63: Send him a message on the site, and say something like "Oh i didn't realise that (insert your friends name) and you have seperated, i'll have to call her to see f she's ok?" I bet he'll be off the site quick smart, and probably never be able to look you straight in the eyes again.


I like this idea and would be inclined to do just that. thumbs up
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Feb 19, 2013 7:10 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
MarieLeveau: I would tell her. She might be hurt but it could save her a lot of pain in the future. Make sure you save a copy of his profile for proof. If it was happening to you I'm sure you'd want to know




I wouldn't say a word.
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Feb 19, 2013 7:25 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
montemonte
montemontemontemonteunknown, New Jersey USA114 Threads 4 Polls 5,631 Posts
MarieLeveau: I would tell her. She might be hurt but it could save her a lot of pain in the future. Make sure you save a copy of his profile for proof. If it was happening to you I'm sure you'd want to know



thumbs up This is her friend. For me the word "friend" is a person that I'm very close to, who trusts me.

On the other hand, maybe Dande see's this friend every once in awhile and it's not a close friend.

There's also a chance that Dande's friend and husband are having a problem but didn't tell Dande. Maybe they don't want her to know.

I've been asking myself if I saw my son-in-law fooling around would I tell my daughter. I know it would break her heart but yes, I would tell her. It would be the end of their marriage and that would sadden me but I couldn't keep that kind of information from the person I love the most. I couldn't stand to see her betrayed day after day. Fortunately, she's a police officer and he knows if he strays.....out comes the Glock. That's a joke peeps.grin
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Feb 19, 2013 7:32 PM CST OMG!!! What do I do..?!!
Crowjoe
CrowjoeCrowjoeSan Jose, California USA19 Posts
montemonte: This is her friend. For me the word "friend" is a person that I'm very close to, who trusts me.

On the other hand, maybe Dande see's this friend every once in awhile and it's not a close friend.

There's also a chance that Dande's friend and husband are having a problem but didn't tell Dande. Maybe they don't want her to know.

I've been asking myself if I saw my son-in-law fooling around would I tell my daughter. I know it would break her heart but yes, I would tell her. It would be the end of their marriage and that would sadden me but I couldn't keep that kind of information from the person I love the most. I couldn't stand to see her betrayed day after day. Fortunately, she's a police officer and he knows if he strays.....out comes the Glock. That's a joke peeps.


That explains why you are for gun control, doh
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