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Without details could you tell us what condition this person was diagnosed with in her early 20's? It wasn't 'histrionic personality disorder', was it?
cos we have first hand evidence of personality disorders here....
baldydude: about 5months ago i met a girl and from day one, eventho we are not a couple, we clicked on just about every other level as friends and as such have become very close and spend quite a bit of time together, happy days
however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
Completely different scenarios, why would someones health stop you becoming friends with them?
For fairly obvious reasons I have met a lot of people with serious health issues over the last year and have become friends with a few of them, have lost a few of them to.
Glatlol: Completely different scenarios, why would someones health stop you becoming friends with them?
For fairly obvious reasons I have met a lot of people with serious health issues over the last year and have become friends with a few of them, have lost a few of them to.
For fairly obvious reasons I have met a lot of people with serious health issues over the last year and have become friends with a few of them, have lost a few of them to.
no problem being friends with anybody and no point starting a relationship with somebody you know is going to die in the near future
Glatlol: Completely different scenarios, why would someones health stop you becoming friends with them?
For fairly obvious reasons I have met a lot of people with serious health issues over the last year and have become friends with a few of them, have lost a few of them to.
well yes i get your point, but even as friends one would become emotionally involved and will get hurt at the end of it and depending on how strong this friendship gets, it could be just as painfull as losing a partner.For fairly obvious reasons I have met a lot of people with serious health issues over the last year and have become friends with a few of them, have lost a few of them to.
baldydude: about 5months ago i met a girl and from day one, eventho we are not a couple, we clicked on just about every other level as friends and as such have become very close and spend quite a bit of time together, happy days
however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
Is this girl someone who makes your life better? would you be happier or more content if you had not met her?
you can choose to look at this as a future possible loss and cut your losses now before it happens or you can take this for what it is. a friendship that has given you some joy and happiness in your life and know that if and when the end comes you had this bright part of life and keep the memories alive within you. i personally would choose to keep the brightness and happiness in my life no matter how long i may have it or how much pain i feel when it ends.
missha: Is this girl someone who makes your life better? would you be happier or more content if you had not met her?
you can choose to look at this as a future possible loss and cut your losses now before it happens or you can take this for what it is. a friendship that has given you some joy and happiness in your life and know that if and when the end comes you had this bright part of life and keep the memories alive within you. i personally would choose to keep the brightness and happiness in my life no matter how long i may have it or how much pain i feel when it ends.
you can choose to look at this as a future possible loss and cut your losses now before it happens or you can take this for what it is. a friendship that has given you some joy and happiness in your life and know that if and when the end comes you had this bright part of life and keep the memories alive within you. i personally would choose to keep the brightness and happiness in my life no matter how long i may have it or how much pain i feel when it ends.
baldydude:
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
Yeah I did. lol She told me all the things that were wrong with her and of course I had no idea what any of it meant. I think I said something back to her like 'Ah sure aren't we all a bit mental anyways'
I was soon to find out. But the thing is you get sucked in.Anyway, she got committed a few times for her own safety and her child left in the care of her mother and I couldn't handle it and bailed out.
Thought I'd return and add my two cents for all its worth. I'm in a similar (but yet different) situation so I can empathize on how you may be feeling. I'm currently dating someone who has a "health situation" (not life threatening, but certainly makes life difficult). He was ready to go off the dating scene as he felt after the long time trying nothing was happening due to his situation in life. He filled me in completely on our second meeting/date, so I've been filled in for the whole time we've been dating. And yes, I've had my doubts, my insecurities and an overwhelming feeling of "can I do this". And most days I step up and say "yes, yes I can" and I know the difference I've made for him in his challenges. I know (from seeing and being told) that his progress is much better now and that he'll be fully back on his feet sooner than expected. So I know any difficulties that I've had carrying on things with him has been worth it.
Regarding your situation - I say if you are both happy and fully informed (of her situation and where you both stand on issues) and are both happy to carry on - do. You are adding some help, brightness or whatever else you want to call it or that it may apply to. People with "situations" don't always have those chances or opportunities. What you share with her could be something that means more than anything else. As always, take care of yourself. Caring for someone (physically or mentally) can certainly put a strain on yourself - so keep your head healthy and happy (it will also help you to help her more if your head and heart are in the right place).
Regarding your situation - I say if you are both happy and fully informed (of her situation and where you both stand on issues) and are both happy to carry on - do. You are adding some help, brightness or whatever else you want to call it or that it may apply to. People with "situations" don't always have those chances or opportunities. What you share with her could be something that means more than anything else. As always, take care of yourself. Caring for someone (physically or mentally) can certainly put a strain on yourself - so keep your head healthy and happy (it will also help you to help her more if your head and heart are in the right place).
"I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations - one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it - you will regret both."
I dunno Baldy, obviously there's gonna be people that'll say "yeah everyone deserves happiness" and they'd be right....but my view is it'd be like me going out with someone the doesn't ever want kids, i know there's no future and i know, as far as i'm concerned, there really isn't any point in us being together...would i stay with her because i loved her?? probably...for a few months anyway until i realised it was going nowhere...during that time if she turned around and told me she was sick and won't live the next ten years, would i stay with her?? probably...but putting the shoe on the other foot there's not a hope i'd get involved with somene if i was told there's a chance i mightn't live for the next few years...and if i was involved with someone over a short period before i was told the bad news then i'd mak sure they weren't involved with me anymore...
It's far too much of a life changing experience for someone to get involved with...i honestly wish you all the best with whatever happens with the two
It's far too much of a life changing experience for someone to get involved with...i honestly wish you all the best with whatever happens with the two
.....of you..
Another thing, i don't know how serious the ilness your partner has...but...my Ma was told my sister won't live past 14, she was also told that if she lives beyond that she'll never have kids, my sister is now 41 and has 12 year old twins from IVF....as i said i don't know the seriousness of what's going on with your partner but if there's any little bit of hope then always believe...i wish both of yous the best of luck
Another thing, i don't know how serious the ilness your partner has...but...my Ma was told my sister won't live past 14, she was also told that if she lives beyond that she'll never have kids, my sister is now 41 and has 12 year old twins from IVF....as i said i don't know the seriousness of what's going on with your partner but if there's any little bit of hope then always believe...i wish both of yous the best of luck
MADDOG69: Yeah I did. lol She told me all the things that were wrong with her and of course I had no idea what any of it meant. I think I said something back to her like 'Ah sure aren't we all a bit mental anyways' I was soon to find out. But the thing is you get sucked in.
Anyway, she got committed a few times for her own safety and her child left in the care of her mother and I couldn't handle it and bailed out.
Anyway, she got committed a few times for her own safety and her child left in the care of her mother and I couldn't handle it and bailed out.
had she bi-polar?
baldydude: about 5months ago i met a girl and from day one, eventho we are not a couple, we clicked on just about every other level as friends and as such have become very close and spend quite a bit of time together, happy days
however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
i say dont think about it,dive straight in however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??
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however from very early on i knew that she had health issues but until recently did not know the seriousness of them, i'm not going into details but basicly she was told in her early 20's that she most likely wouldn't live the see 30, she is 35 now and living on borowed time, needless to say i was blown away by this, but as i said we have gotten very close and we will make the most of whatever time we have left (hopefully many years yet)
my question tho is, how many of you would actually get involved with a person (be it friends or a relationship) that you know has serious health issues??