"I need my time/space" (26)
Smenkare: At some time or another you have heard someone use this phrase. In the field of psychiatry/psychology a person using this phrase is generally seen as an individual who does not have control of their time.
Go for it.
Go for it.
Expressing your needs is having control.
How else do you do it? Walk off with no communication? That would be controlling someone else's time.
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To me someone needing space/time would mean exactly what it means.
When I feel like I'm being smothered I tell people that "You're getting on my last nerve,leave me alone before I do/say something we both might regret doing."
When I feel like I'm being smothered I tell people that "You're getting on my last nerve,leave me alone before I do/say something we both might regret doing."
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Ccincy: To me someone needing space/time would mean exactly what it means.When I feel like I'm being smothered I tell people that "You're getting on my last nerve,leave me alone before I do/say something we both might regret doing."
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jac379: Expressing your needs is having control.
How else do you do it? Walk off with no communication? That would be controlling someone else's time.
How else do you do it? Walk off with no communication? That would be controlling someone else's time.
I thought You would have something to say about this Jac.
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Ccincy: To me someone needing space/time would mean exactly what it means.When I feel like I'm being smothered I tell people that "You're getting on my last nerve,leave me alone before I do/say something we both might regret doing."
saying “I need my space is complicated. we all need some “space”, to be quiet, listening music, reading or doing nothing. I prefer more ” I need x time alone, going for a walk…. Etc.. no secrets”. I need my space, sometimes … and means just that.
If we really want “your space”, better be single/alone…
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Most people need their space in varying amounts. Most people recognize and respect this need even though the boundaries are not always clear. Sometime one steps over the boundary and is politely informed. My interest is in those who feel the need to shoo people away before they cross the boundary.
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What's wrong with needing some along time? Sometimes I just like to be by myself without someone else demanding things from me. Sometimes it's just lovely to sit in a room by yourself and read a book or listen to music.
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maryrachelle: What's wrong with needing some along time? Sometimes I just like to be by myself without someone else demanding things from me. Sometimes it's just lovely to sit in a room by yourself and read a book or listen to music.
Nothing wrong with wanting it. However when someone is obsessed with the need for it there might be indications of other problems.------ This thread is Archived ------
Guess I wasn't too clear. I was referring to individuals who are obsessed with it.
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Smenkare: Guess I wasn't too clear. I was referring to individuals who are obsessed with it.
some people with mental illness have a problem with personal space and it varies from culture to culture.
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
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I do like to have time alone and actually enjoy 'my own space'.
I grew up in a large family so having a place just for me is delightful.
Am I ready to share space? Of course I am now or I would not be here. I do however, feel it is healthy for both parties in a relationship to also have time with family, friends and alone as well as with each other. I think 'being joined at the hip' is rather obsessive and can be an insecurity or control issue in some relationships.
I grew up in a large family so having a place just for me is delightful.
Am I ready to share space? Of course I am now or I would not be here. I do however, feel it is healthy for both parties in a relationship to also have time with family, friends and alone as well as with each other. I think 'being joined at the hip' is rather obsessive and can be an insecurity or control issue in some relationships.
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JeanKimberley: some people with mental illness have a problem with personal space and it varies from culture to culture.
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
hiya JK
you reminded me of years ago, watching two artists argue in a shared studio space..
a) i need space! i need space!
b) you have most of the studio space!
a) no...i mean mental space! i need mental space in here.
b) let's face it..your brain isn't that big.
not my studio, i remained VERY quiet and just watched..for me..if someone says they want time or space...without explanation or a time frame, they are letting the other person know they don't want to be with them anymore, and like you've said...might in the future, might not.
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Smenkare: Most people need their space in varying amounts. Most people recognize and respect this need even though the boundaries are not always clear. Sometime one steps over the boundary and is politely informed. My interest is in those who feel the need to shoo people away before they cross the boundary.
Well, if they're shooing away, obviously they've already had a boundary crossed in some way.
In the UK on out train platforms there's a yellow line painted about 18" from the edge. Whilst the edge of the platform is the boundary marking the end of the platform and the beginning of the trains' personal space, the yellow line is there to ensure people don't get pulled over the boundary with the turbulance of the trains.
There's a boundary, and then there's another to let you know you're getting too close to the first boundary and we don't want any accidental crossings of it.
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JeanKimberley: some people with mental illness have a problem with personal space and it varies from culture to culture.
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
Everyone has an area around them which is considered their personal space. It varies from person to person, but is roughly the same.
This is the space which a person feels comfortable in. It becomes uncomfortable if someone else invades this space uninvited.
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tomcatwarne: Everyone has an area around them which is considered their personal space. It varies from person to person, but is roughly the same.
hmmm...i have noticed that one's sense of personal space...can be based on one's cultural experience with very noticeable differences. if you compare folks walking down a street in vancouver to folks walking down a street in kathmandu...the spaces between are very different. it's noticeable in cues as well.
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Ever have to end an activity because they needed their space?
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Smenkare: At some time or another you have heard someone use this phrase. In the field of psychiatry/psychology a person using this phrase is generally seen as an individual who does not have control of their time.
Go for it.
Go for it.
My time is mine.
If my space is invaded sometimes then I will reclaim it!
For example:
If I am cooking I prefer to do it by myself and no one around, bumping into each other.
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JeanKimberley: some people with mental illness have a problem with personal space and it varies from culture to culture.
A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
Had several acquaintances who, while you would not classify them as mentally ill, were extremely protective of their space. For the most part their lives were so consumed with resolving the crisis of their adult children they had little time for anything else. Most were on call 24/7.A co-worker and good friend of mine was in an elevator with a fellow who was extremely ill and acting out. He kept shouting at her to "get out of his space" - it felt closed in and kept pushing her into the wall...... needless to say she got out on the next floor -
It is an individual preference, I think.
And sometimes doesn't it mean when someone says that - they are being polite for I don't want to be around you anymore, but I might in the future, or not....
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"I need my time/space"
If you are in a relationship and it comes to that point, there is no hope. They have put up a wall.
So be good to yourself and walk on.
They already have. Plus, they may be attracted to someone else.
The Dobe
If you are in a relationship and it comes to that point, there is no hope. They have put up a wall.
So be good to yourself and walk on.
They already have. Plus, they may be attracted to someone else.
The Dobe
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