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jausten254Kansas City, Kansas USA5 Threads 35 PostsI recently graduated from college and moved to a bigger city after landing a great job. Dating is a daunting task and most of it appears to happen on social media. Guys even ask you out via text. I tried online dating and found it a waste of time and full of liars. Are people too picky, afraid of commitment or just want to play the field? Share your thoughts. Are men struggling in the dating field too?
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jausten254: I recently graduated from college and moved to a bigger city after landing a great job. Dating is a daunting task and most of it appears to happen on social media. Guys even ask you out via text. I tried online dating and found it a waste of time and full of liars. Are people too picky, afraid of commitment or just want to play the field? Share your thoughts. Are men struggling in the dating field too?
Have you heard of the Candy Shop Syndrome?
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Kaybee50: Have you heard of the Candy Shop Syndrome?
No i haven't.
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Kaybee50: Have you heard of the Candy Shop Syndrome?
No i haven't.
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Candy shop syndrome means too many singles out there to choose from, so they don't know who to pick?
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PrettyPrescious: Candy shop syndrome means too many singles out there to choose from, so they don't know who to pick?
Yes. So many lovely delights in the window that it becomes addictive to keep trying for another and another, just in case the other might be "the complete package", instead of spending time to nurture what you may already have. This almost becomes an addiction for some.
There is alot of serial dating going on and it becomes easy to let Person #1 and #2 sit on the shelf because Person #6 may be "better", and with the juggling, it becomes a cycle of non-commitment.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
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Kaybee50: ... it becomes a cycle non-commitment non-exclusivity.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
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jausten254: I recently graduated from college and moved to a bigger city after landing a great job. Dating is a daunting task and most of it appears to happen on social media. Guys even ask you out via text. I tried online dating and found it a waste of time and full of liars. Are people too picky, afraid of commitment or just want to play the field? Share your thoughts. Are men struggling in the dating field too?
I agree with your view of online dating. It's pathetic. Only reason I'm on here is for entertainment purposes while I'm out at sea. Forums,etc. Otherwise, it's kind of a cesspool.------ This thread is Archived ------
CapNemo: I agree with your view of online dating. It's pathetic. Only reason I'm on here is for entertainment purposes while I'm out at sea. Forums,etc. Otherwise, it's kind of a cesspool.
A bit of charm, intelligence and humor might bring you more results rather than using words such as cesspool.
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Kaybee50: Yes. So many lovely delights in the window that it becomes addictive to keep trying for another and another, just in case the other might be "the complete package", instead of spending time to nurture what you may already have. This almost becomes an addiction for some.
There is alot of serial dating going on and it becomes easy to let Person #1 and #2 sit on the shelf because Person #6 may be "better", and with the juggling, it becomes a cycle of non-commitment.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
There is alot of serial dating going on and it becomes easy to let Person #1 and #2 sit on the shelf because Person #6 may be "better", and with the juggling, it becomes a cycle of non-commitment.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
Isn't that the same as when people meet without the medium of online dating?
I mean, that people may move on when the initial excitement has worn off and communication becomes less self-propagating? Or they come up against barriers they don't know how to deal with? Or they've swept so many issues under the carpet they don't have the communication foundation for resolving built up conflicts and resentments?
I have a sneaky feeling that blaming online dating is a cop out, like blaming your partner for things not being right, rather than viewing either as an interactive process where we each have an input, or responsibility.
I think perhaps we each can look at ourselves to see what we can do to create change. One of those changes may be we learn the skills to detect those who are likely to be untruthful, or lacking commitment, but its still an action we can put into effect to make the tool of online dating work for us.
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CapNemo: I agree with your view of online dating. It's pathetic. Only reason I'm on here is for entertainment purposes while I'm out at sea. Forums,etc. Otherwise, it's kind of a cesspool.
Project that which you seek.
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Kaybee50: A bit of charm, intelligence and humor might bring you more results rather than using words such as cesspool.
I'm not after results on here by any means. No disrespect to you personally at all. The social part of this site is ok, but I'll be damned if I'm going to select a partner off of a dating site. Cesspool is actually the one of the nicer of the terms I had for that part of it. I'm happily single, living very well, and have no desire or intention of screwing that up. 
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It was nice that u shared this!
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sooooo hard to find anyone in the same state. and the only one i found so far. i was texting a few times when my service got skrewed up...... i'm ready to move to a different planet.
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ynotleon69: sooooo hard to find anyone in the same state. and the only one i found so far. i was texting a few times when my service got skrewed up...... i'm ready to move to a different planet.
Pack light, as the moving charges would be out of this world!
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jac379: Isn't that the same as when people meet without the medium of online dating?
I mean, that people may move on when the initial excitement has worn off and communication becomes less self-propagating? Or they come up against barriers they don't know how to deal with? Or they've swept so many issues under the carpet they don't have the communication foundation for resolving built up conflicts and resentments?
I have a sneaky feeling that blaming online dating is a cop out, like blaming your partner for things not being right, rather than viewing either as an interactive process where we each have an input, or responsibility.
I think perhaps we each can look at ourselves to see what we can do to create change. One of those changes may be we learn the skills to detect those who are likely to be untruthful, or lacking commitment, but its still an action we can put into effect to make the tool of online dating work for us.
I mean, that people may move on when the initial excitement has worn off and communication becomes less self-propagating? Or they come up against barriers they don't know how to deal with? Or they've swept so many issues under the carpet they don't have the communication foundation for resolving built up conflicts and resentments?
I have a sneaky feeling that blaming online dating is a cop out, like blaming your partner for things not being right, rather than viewing either as an interactive process where we each have an input, or responsibility.
I think perhaps we each can look at ourselves to see what we can do to create change. One of those changes may be we learn the skills to detect those who are likely to be untruthful, or lacking commitment, but its still an action we can put into effect to make the tool of online dating work for us.
I think Kaybee has it right as people often portray a very different persona from behind the anonymity of the computer, whereas in real life they would say and react very differently to a face to face encounter.
As for learning skills of detection regarding trustworthiness or commitment, it's almost impossible to do so via the internet as humans use body language as a means of forming opinions as well as the spoken language. Facial expression is almost always used when forming an opinion about trust.
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Kaybee50: Yes. So many lovely delights in the window that it becomes addictive to keep trying for another and another, just in case the other might be "the complete package", instead of spending time to nurture what you may already have. This almost becomes an addiction for some.
There is alot of serial dating going on and it becomes easy to let Person #1 and #2 sit on the shelf because Person #6 may be "better", and with the juggling, it becomes a cycle of non-commitment.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
This reminds me of someone that I used to know. I frankly think that she was partially addicted to the amount of attention that she was receiving as well. There is alot of serial dating going on and it becomes easy to let Person #1 and #2 sit on the shelf because Person #6 may be "better", and with the juggling, it becomes a cycle of non-commitment.
Welcome to the world of the Online Dating.
She was forever on her blackberry texting and ironically the one guy that she was "crazy" over wasn't inclined to be committed to her. She moved away and I think it was partially to be closer to him although she claimed that she was moving because of wanting to live in a bigger city.
Dating indeed can be daunting, but it gets easier when you realize who you are and what you desire for a partner. As well, it takes time to get to know people .... so whatever the avenue, whether it be online or within your city remember its an investment ... so spend your time wisely.
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langleygirl: Pack light, as the moving charges would be out of this world!
great advice.
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CapNemo: I'm not after results on here by any means. No disrespect to you personally at all. The social part of this site is ok, but I'll be damned if I'm going to select a partner off of a dating site. Cesspool is actually the one of the nicer of the terms I had for that part of it. I'm happily single, living very well, and have no desire or intention of screwing that up.
Well at least you are honest, which is a lot more than most on the www 
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jausten254: I recently graduated from college and moved to a bigger city after landing a great job. Dating is a daunting task and most of it appears to happen on social media. Guys even ask you out via text. I tried online dating and found it a waste of time and full of liars. Are people too picky, afraid of commitment or just want to play the field? Share your thoughts. Are men struggling in the dating field too?
solong as you haven't learned tolistentoyour inner womanandlookfor a partner according to the values set by your logicalmind internet dating or otherwiseis doomed to fail.
Ifyou attract negative people you ought to examine your inner thoughtsand values about LOVE
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