Was Supposed To Be So Easy..... ( Archived) (31)

...."the thought stuck me, if I was this picky when buying a house.... I'd be living a cave to this day. Are we all in general afraid of the hurt that that has always followed our attempts at this elusive thing called "Love"."...


Now you've done it Fire...i'm back to square one!!

hey I said "good luck to us all, Oh yeah and...

God bless us all, everyone."

Gawd how I used to wish I couild be a "yes person" always agreeing, always the right words of encouragement, But if that ever was to happen...





I wouldn't be me


and I hope I'm sounding arrogant but being me right now is...
just too

Well now i'm thinking back to when i bought my house....there was so much i didn't really care for...but i figured the good outweighed the bad and in the long run it wouldn't really matter...

And the colour of the kitchen could always be changed....

yeah.....I thought it would be easier....
and I find my "loser" magnet works just as well online as it does it real life!

I refuse to settle tho...

I want to clarify that when I answered your original post and talked about unreasonable expectations, I wasn't talking about you. I was talking about maybe that's why you (or me, anyway) can't find anyone worth a damn to start a relationship with -- there is always some "issuse" to contend with. Some of these "issues" are real, but most are not insurmountable, from my perspective. And if people have barriers that preclude them from having a relationship, then why are they on dating sites, pretending they are ready to start them?

And those who don't truly have genuine reasons why they couldn't start a relationship oftentimes conjure up reasons (I believe) because they truly are not ready for a relationship. Therefore, they tend to set their expectations too high, so that they set themselves up to fail (or for those who are interested to fail) before they even give it a chance.

Another reason, a friend pointed out to me, is that, because there are (seemingly) so many people to choose from (in other words, if I miss this bus, no big deal; another one'll be along any minute) that they don't really care to take the time to get to know somseone.

Sometimes, for instance, people take the slightest imperfection and perceive it as a huge issue. That's just an EXCUSE for avoiding the whole process, IMO.

I am VERY picky about who I will date because I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with a person with whom I am incompatible. However, I do set my expectations too high -- I set them exactly where they should be, for me, my perosnal likes and dislikes and within the confines of my "moral acceptance guidelines," if you will. I will not settle for less than I want, or deserve. BTDT before and it's never worked out.

I don't consider myself desperate at all -- and I don't consider you desperate, either -- or women like us. I think you just know what you want and are unwilling to "settle" for less.

The sad and very difficult thing to contend with are those who misrepresent themselves, and, particularly, those who lie through their teeth, those who paint a very distorted picture of themselves.

If the old adage is true that you DO have to kiss a lot of frogs before you can meet your prince, just sign me...

Ol' Wort Lips...

oops ..i mean, i do not set them too high..etc.