Polyamory (316)
kidatheart: No, not much to say, seeing as most have no clue, don't wanna know, and even if they did, could never really understand anyway.
yanno, that "rules" thing, and the way things are "supposed to be". In a civilized society it's only done in the missionary position.
yanno, that "rules" thing, and the way things are "supposed to be". In a civilized society it's only done in the missionary position.
"The golden rule is that there are no golden rules". George Bernard Shaw.
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janie1305: "The golden rule is that there are no golden rules". George Bernard Shaw.
Gosh you're brave, someone will be on about golden showers next
Great quote 
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happy369: who's your daddym huh huh!
Don't tell her but I think I like you a little bit more
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steffffie: Don't tell her but I think I like you a little bit more
Umm 'scuse me OP but the audience is suggesting that you're getting a wee bit distracted ... can we move on?
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serene56: Umm 'scuse me OP but the audience is suggesting that you're getting a wee bit distracted ... can we move on?
Yes ma'am.
Thanks for helping me steer this thread away from danger
About parallel relationships: It's much trickier and all parties involved need to be ready for it. Small chance it will happen, but anyway, the possibility is there.
That's all I had to say...feel free to contribute
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steffffie: Yes ma'am.
Thanks for helping me steer this thread away from danger
About parallel relationships: It's much trickier and all parties involved need to be ready for it. Small chance it will happen, but anyway, the possibility is there.
That's all I had to say...feel free to contribute
Thanks for helping me steer this thread away from danger
About parallel relationships: It's much trickier and all parties involved need to be ready for it. Small chance it will happen, but anyway, the possibility is there.
That's all I had to say...feel free to contribute
Nah, that's ok, gotta go call a couple of guys back, yanno
See you later 
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Sorry I do believe in polyamory .. I was in a situation where I nearly become a second wife to a middle eastern man . There were too many emotions involved and the first wife was not keen on the idea also human nature been what it is I could not see how it could be a equal relationship between three people unless the first wife was happy to be finished with her relationship with her husband .. I could see too many hurts involved . I also didn't relish the idea of showing my husband with another woman especially with intimacy side .
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Azizamm: Sorry I do believe in polyamory .. I was in a situation where I nearly become a second wife to a middle eastern man . There were too many emotions involved and the first wife was not keen on the idea also human nature been what it is I could not see how it could be a equal relationship between three people unless the first wife was happy to be finished with her relationship with her husband .. I could see too many hurts involved . I also didn't relish the idea of showing my husband with another woman especially with intimacy side .
Azizamm
So I take it that your relationship with that man ended completely
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steffffie: Don't tell her but I think I like you a little bit more
a little bit isnt good enough
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Hallo Steffii
The relationship between us is still there but it is hard as we spent three months together and now I am back in aus and at times wondering if I made the right decision as we were very compatible in all ways but i still really don't believe that two woman can share the same husband and both be happy I think there would be jealousies and hurts .although in such situations both women are to be equally treated in all ways I cannot envision that being able to happen ..therefore the jealousies and hurts and nastiness ..
That is only my opinion .
The relationship between us is still there but it is hard as we spent three months together and now I am back in aus and at times wondering if I made the right decision as we were very compatible in all ways but i still really don't believe that two woman can share the same husband and both be happy I think there would be jealousies and hurts .although in such situations both women are to be equally treated in all ways I cannot envision that being able to happen ..therefore the jealousies and hurts and nastiness ..
That is only my opinion .
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Azizamm: Hallo Steffii
The relationship between us is still there but it is hard as we spent three months together and now I am back in aus and at times wondering if I made the right decision as we were very compatible in all ways but i still really don't believe that two woman can share the same husband and both be happy I think there would be jealousies and hurts .although in such situations both women are to be equally treated in all ways I cannot envision that being able to happen ..therefore the jealousies and hurts and nastiness ..
That is only my opinion .
The relationship between us is still there but it is hard as we spent three months together and now I am back in aus and at times wondering if I made the right decision as we were very compatible in all ways but i still really don't believe that two woman can share the same husband and both be happy I think there would be jealousies and hurts .although in such situations both women are to be equally treated in all ways I cannot envision that being able to happen ..therefore the jealousies and hurts and nastiness ..
That is only my opinion .
Thank you Aziz for your unique perspective.
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At high school,i loved all the girls in my class.Am i regarded polyamorous?????
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steffffie: What makes you think your analogy is apt?
You can finish reading a book in one sitting, without distractions.
With relationships on the other hand, you continuously meet and interact with others, some of whom become your good friends.
Maybe I am wrong, but you need to try harder if you care to explain to me why you can't see romantically an amazing coworker, for example.
You can finish reading a book in one sitting, without distractions.
With relationships on the other hand, you continuously meet and interact with others, some of whom become your good friends.
Maybe I am wrong, but you need to try harder if you care to explain to me why you can't see romantically an amazing coworker, for example.
The analogy was about your thought processes in claimimg that others are lying, or a little dead inside if they don't agree with you. I was suggesting that if different people function differrently, it doesn't mean they are lying, or a little dead inside.
Now you appear to asking whether I can view a co-worker romantically which appears to be either a different question, or you have a different concept of love than I do.
I'm trying really hard to answer your original question already, but the question is too vague without more information.
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kidatheart: No, not much to say, seeing as most have no clue, don't wanna know, and even if they did, could never really understand anyway.
yanno, that "rules" thing, and the way things are "supposed to be". In a civilized society it's only done in the missionary position.
yanno, that "rules" thing, and the way things are "supposed to be". In a civilized society it's only done in the missionary position.
Sorry, are things supposed to be different from the way they're supposed to be?
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steffffie: For me, the answer is obviously yes.
If someone says they can only love one person at a time, I think they are either lying or have internalized the duty of being committed to such a degree that they are a little dead inside.
If someone says they can only love one person at a time, I think they are either lying or have internalized the duty of being committed to such a degree that they are a little dead inside.
The latent capability for loving more than one at the same time may be there. But... there is a concept of not having enough 'love' to share for more than one... people generally are hard wired to direct most attention and affection to a 'favourite'. It even happens with parents and their children.... often there is a favourite for a parent that gets spoiled.
I would say there would always be a 2nd best etc in a polyamorous relationship.
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MADDOG69: The latent capability for loving more than one at the same time may be there. But... there is a concept of not having enough 'love' to share for more than one... people generally are hard wired to direct most attention and affection to a 'favourite'. It even happens with parents and their children.... often there is a favourite for a parent that gets spoiled.
I would say there would always be a 2nd best etc in a polyamorous relationship.
I would say there would always be a 2nd best etc in a polyamorous relationship.
I guess, choosing the favorite would be fair enough. And having the second best would be like not having satisfaction which is what people aim for.. Speaking of romantic relationships.------ This thread is Archived ------
chris27292729: At high school,i loved all the girls in my class.Am i regarded polyamorous?????
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It is possible to be romantically inclined or attracted to more than one man at time of course but intimacy and love for me is entirely different - I dont have the capacity to give my love and affections to more than one person at a time........and I do not think that makes me a bit dead inside either; it just fits me into a different category - maybe "onemanamory"......
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LoriJames20: It is possible to be romantically inclined or attracted to more than one man at time of course but intimacy and love for me is entirely different - I dont have the capacity to give my love and affections to more than one person at a time........and I do not think that makes me a bit dead inside either; it just fits me into a different category - maybe "onemanamory"......
Is this Lori talking... or Diana?
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yanno, that "rules" thing, and the way things are "supposed to be". In a civilized society it's only done in the missionary position.
Bloody 'ell, hope you're not gonna tell me you do it with the lights on
Yeah it's about what works for people I guess, but just because something's outside of some peoples' paradigm doesn't make it wrong .. or immoral, right