How do you select your friends and how do they choose you? (72)
limay123: friends come and go in life depending on what we are doing
eg. school - school friends
university - university friends
Marriage - common couple friends
I believe we hang out with like minded people who then become our friends... one or two will become our BBF's .... but life changes us and life changes the people around us...
as we grow old .. yeah we treasure the time of being alone because its stress free - peach and quiet that we hardly get during our busy life...
then one day we find out that yeah we've been alone for years and then loneliness sets in .....
life is definitely interesting lol to say the least
eg. school - school friends
university - university friends
Marriage - common couple friends
I believe we hang out with like minded people who then become our friends... one or two will become our BBF's .... but life changes us and life changes the people around us...
as we grow old .. yeah we treasure the time of being alone because its stress free - peach and quiet that we hardly get during our busy life...
then one day we find out that yeah we've been alone for years and then loneliness sets in .....
life is definitely interesting lol to say the least
That could be a better topic:
How friends have marked our life.
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lifeisadream: Friends are wonderful, interesting, great people but.......
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
I did apologize to my friend for not attending her 25th Wedding anniversary party, today. She said that she did understand it because I was jealous
but it was ok. We are getting together next week on wednesday at my home and then we will go out to get some books. I will get one for her and she will get one for me.For her, I am thinking in a book that might spark her
marriage.
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Doesn't true friendship just happen or evolve?
I don't think choice comes into it unless someone is desperately trying to be your friend and you dislike them.
I don't think choice comes into it unless someone is desperately trying to be your friend and you dislike them.
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Ana13: Doesn't true friendship just happen or evolve?
Hi Ana
Friendship evolves but I do not think it just happens. There has to be some common grounds for a friendship to start.
Ana13: ...I don't think choice comes into it unless someone is desperately trying to be your friend and you dislike them.
Why someone would be desperate to be someone's friend?
I do not think that would be a true friendship.
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I have a few "friends" on cs.. But in real life? No, I am too much of a hermit :) prefer painting for hours ( I am an artist) or working in my garden.. The people who choose to visit are always made welcome though. Most of my free time is spent with my children and grandchildren (my real friends)
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serena123: I have a few "friends" on cs.. But in real life? No, I am too much of a hermit :) prefer painting for hours ( I am an artist) or working in my garden.. The people who choose to visit are always made welcome though. Most of my free time is spent with my children and grandchildren (my real friends)
Hi Serena!
And how have you chosen your friends in CS and how do you think they have selected you?
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lifeisadream: Hi Serena!
And how have you chosen your friends in CS and how do you think they have selected you?
Hi lifesadream :) they got to know me through the forums, the kind of people that just brighten your day with a "hello how are you today?" Or a random flower when I'm feeling down.. Also gained a few enemies though And how have you chosen your friends in CS and how do you think they have selected you?
but I certainly don't lose any sleep over that 
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I have many acquaintances but few friends.
The acquaintances arrise through work or common needs / activities. thus an acquaintance is someone we "choose".
The friends are the ones that show more, do more, are intelligent, creative, and different. Just like I like to think I am. We do not "choose" one another, it just happens to occur and grows. We click somehow. We do choose to have each other's backs, help one another, and be honest.
Friends are not afraid to be honest with one another, re complaining - we just tell one another that we've heard that song and dance before and time to change the tune, which we do. If we find the routine to be too, well, routine and common, we bring it up and try to come up with something new we can all do, some new persuit, some new idea to grab on to. Pehaps that is what bonded us together in the first place, seeking out the unusual and different.
But that is just my situation.
The acquaintances arrise through work or common needs / activities. thus an acquaintance is someone we "choose".
The friends are the ones that show more, do more, are intelligent, creative, and different. Just like I like to think I am. We do not "choose" one another, it just happens to occur and grows. We click somehow. We do choose to have each other's backs, help one another, and be honest.
Friends are not afraid to be honest with one another, re complaining - we just tell one another that we've heard that song and dance before and time to change the tune, which we do. If we find the routine to be too, well, routine and common, we bring it up and try to come up with something new we can all do, some new persuit, some new idea to grab on to. Pehaps that is what bonded us together in the first place, seeking out the unusual and different.
But that is just my situation.
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I think you might ask these friends, if perhaps talking and crying over the same issue is not helping them. Ask if there is anything else that has helped them deal better in the past.
This will draw attention to their behaviour. If it continues, then perhaps you need some time out or other company for a while, when we have little emotional reserve, we don't want to spend it rerunning the same sympathy that does not seem to even help. Your reaction is understandable, but maybe also look to why lately you are finding it more wearisome.
This will draw attention to their behaviour. If it continues, then perhaps you need some time out or other company for a while, when we have little emotional reserve, we don't want to spend it rerunning the same sympathy that does not seem to even help. Your reaction is understandable, but maybe also look to why lately you are finding it more wearisome.
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tomboygirl2: I think you might ask these friends, if perhaps talking and crying over the same issue is not helping them. Ask if there is anything else that has helped them deal better in the past.
This will draw attention to their behaviour. If it continues, then perhaps you need some time out or other company for a while, when we have little emotional reserve, we don't want to spend it rerunning the same sympathy that does not seem to even help. Your reaction is understandable, but maybe also look to why lately you are finding it more wearisome.
This will draw attention to their behaviour. If it continues, then perhaps you need some time out or other company for a while, when we have little emotional reserve, we don't want to spend it rerunning the same sympathy that does not seem to even help. Your reaction is understandable, but maybe also look to why lately you are finding it more wearisome.
Hi Tomboygirl
We have talked about it and there are a couple of friends that have always complaining about their problems bu t do nothing to fix them. They are good persons but I guess they like to live that way and that is happines for them.
Me, I need to find a nice "middle" position that could be of benefit to all of us.
Thanks for taking your time to comment.
Good to see you around!
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Hi.
Friends
So we have real life going on here, a real friend is one who is there when you need them will talk about any subject and can give advice, and for myself and this is where its a bit different , when you are different , as i am i thought it would be very hard to be accepted ,
let alone have people become your . = my friend, first you have or need to be accepted with your difference and then the friendship can begine,
whats my part in all this be honist be who you are yes i have struggles and issues i work through, i wont say i get it right all the time so ill skirt around the issue, i have to well i do accept others for who they are and treat them as im treated and we get on so well,
My friends are lovely and im so glad they accepted who i am for what i am. a friendship is two peopele who accept each other as they are, and this shows in how we interact with each other , it does not just stop at just having one friend it works with many more as you grow and become thier friend as well,.
...noeleena...
Friends
So we have real life going on here, a real friend is one who is there when you need them will talk about any subject and can give advice, and for myself and this is where its a bit different , when you are different , as i am i thought it would be very hard to be accepted ,
let alone have people become your . = my friend, first you have or need to be accepted with your difference and then the friendship can begine,
whats my part in all this be honist be who you are yes i have struggles and issues i work through, i wont say i get it right all the time so ill skirt around the issue, i have to well i do accept others for who they are and treat them as im treated and we get on so well,
My friends are lovely and im so glad they accepted who i am for what i am. a friendship is two peopele who accept each other as they are, and this shows in how we interact with each other , it does not just stop at just having one friend it works with many more as you grow and become thier friend as well,.
...noeleena...
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Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
friends come and go in life depending on what we are doing
eg. school - school friends
university - university friends
Marriage - common couple friends
I believe we hang out with like minded people who then become our friends... one or two will become our BBF's .... but life changes us and life changes the people around us...
as we grow old .. yeah we treasure the time of being alone because its stress free - peach and quiet that we hardly get during our busy life...
then one day we find out that yeah we've been alone for years and then loneliness sets in .....
life is definitely interesting lol to say the least