How do you select your friends and how do they choose you? (72)
lifeisadream: Friends are wonderful, interesting, great people but.......
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
i had an instructor that used to say that friendship was based in common misery...that without sharing the same complaints..it just won't last...
my friendships have developed over time through shared activities and values. bonding yanno...
.i don't get tired or bored with my friends..but i do enjoy my solitude in the unity..
(painting is not a spectator sport..i need my alone time)
peeling layers and looking inward is a continuous journey for me..there is no full or empty
jmo
retire...good
cave...not so much...
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jono7: i had an instructor that used to say that friendship was based in common misery...that without sharing the same complaints..it just won't last... .
The thing is that I am tired of listening to complaints -the same complaints over and over- some are so predictable.
I am a woman (I think
) but if I have a problem yes I would complain a couple of times and then look for a solution or not complain anymore. Yet in an specif circle of friends there are two lovely persons but they are always complaining and they end up crying over the same matter, time after time and I am just tired of that.jono7: ..
my friendships have developed over time through shared activities and values. bonding yanno.....
my friendships have developed over time through shared activities and values. bonding yanno.....
Yes, we have done the same and I do know that we can count on each other.
jono7: ..
i don't get tired or bored with my friends..but i do enjoy my solitude in the unity..
(painting is not a spectator sport..i need my alone time)
peeling layers and looking inward is a continuous journey for me..there is no full or empty
jmo...
i don't get tired or bored with my friends..but i do enjoy my solitude in the unity..
(painting is not a spectator sport..i need my alone time)
peeling layers and looking inward is a continuous journey for me..there is no full or empty
jmo...
I am enjoying my solitude more than before.
jono7: ..
retire...good
cave...not so much...
retire...good
cave...not so much...
I was thinking in a cave like in Cappadocia, Turkey.
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lifeisadream: Friends are wonderful, interesting, great people but.......
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
You can pick your friends but not your family.
Watch your friends and your enemies can't hurt you.
Usually by natural selection do we pick our friends.
You should be thankful you have friends you can count on
As for me I have nobody but, the most loyal I have that will never
leave me is Loneliness. She is always there
She never gets a headache
She is not selective who she hangs out with.
She won't call me a jerk if I say stupid stuff
She won't block me out of her life when she gets pissed off
She doesn't demand money or expect me to live up to her standards
She doesn't tell me I'm lazy or a good for nothing bum
However things that she won't do is keep me warm at night
She won't care if I am hurting
Basically Loneliness is a consistent shadow that never leaves
Overall I am content to believe in her more than the women of CS
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Ziusudra: You can pick your friends but not your family.
Watch your friends and your enemies can't hurt you.
Usually by natural selection do we pick our friends.
You should be thankful you have friends you can count on
As for me I have nobody but, the most loyal I have that will never
leave me is Loneliness. She is always there
She never gets a headache
She is not selective who she hangs out with.
She won't call me a jerk if I say stupid stuff
She won't block me out of her life when she gets pissed off
She doesn't demand money or expect me to live up to her standards
She doesn't tell me I'm lazy or a good for nothing bum
However things that she won't do is keep me warm at night
She won't care if I am hurting
Basically Loneliness is a consistent shadow that never leaves
Overall I am content to believe in her more than the women of CS
Watch your friends and your enemies can't hurt you.
Usually by natural selection do we pick our friends.
You should be thankful you have friends you can count on
As for me I have nobody but, the most loyal I have that will never
leave me is Loneliness. She is always there
She never gets a headache
She is not selective who she hangs out with.
She won't call me a jerk if I say stupid stuff
She won't block me out of her life when she gets pissed off
She doesn't demand money or expect me to live up to her standards
She doesn't tell me I'm lazy or a good for nothing bum
However things that she won't do is keep me warm at night
She won't care if I am hurting
Basically Loneliness is a consistent shadow that never leaves
Overall I am content to believe in her more than the women of CS
Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
Mother Teresa
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my friends and I have not so much chosen each other as happened upon each other and shared circumstances of some sort. I also prefer to spend a good deal of time alone tho
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lifeisadream: Friends are wonderful, interesting, great people but.......
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Hiya Life
Friends...for me, more like aquaintances rather than any close friendships as I tend to be a loner for the most part...not a social butterfly. Some friends come and go in our lives and others stick with you through thick and thin. For some strange reason, it is people in need that gravitate towards me for advice or a shoulder when they need it and I give it willingly. Maybe that's my lot in life and I'm willing to accept that but there are times when we need to know when to hold them and know when to fold them. A time out from friends is a good thing when the friendship gets to be more of a burden than a pleasure and close friends will understand..
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lifeisadream: Friends are wonderful, interesting, great people but.......
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!
shut up.
Oh the drudgery of sameness. Here's a tip. The next time they complain as before just say "shut up."
On the surface you might think this an insane plan, but the reason they continue to be the same is because you also continue to be the same. They won't shut up of course but the spark of indignity will light new fires under your own bored butt, thus relieving you of that 'same old, same old' feeling. And frankly I think they'd be none the wiser.
Hiding is no resolution to trivial redundancy, unless of course you have pie or something you don't want to share with those heathen mongrels of perpetual complaints.
Good advice ... This ^^^ is why friends choose me.
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Most of my friends I grew up with... but then there are those that are close friends... some I went to school with and others I worked with. I have a few bikers that are my closest friends.. I have male and female friends.. Some you just click with. I can depend on them all and they can depend on me.We all have our moments that we need our space.. I have a couple I see everyday and some that I talk to everyday.. But we all have families . And yes there are days that we all just have quiet from one another.. But picking friends you have to be able to click somehow.. Something in common something you like about them.. But honesty and being loyal is very important...
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felixis99: my friends and I have not so much chosen each other as happened upon each other and shared circumstances of some sort. I also prefer to spend a good deal of time alone tho
Hi Felixis
Long time!
2intrigued: Hiya Life Friends...for me, more like aquaintances rather than any close friendships as I tend to be a loner for the most part...not a social butterfly. Some friends come and go in our lives and others stick with you through thick and thin. For some strange reason, it is people in need that gravitate towards me for advice or a shoulder when they need it and I give it willingly. Maybe that's my lot in life and I'm willing to accept that but there are times when we need to know when to hold them and know when to fold them.
A time out from friends is a good thing when the friendship gets to be more of a burden than a pleasure and close friends will understand..
A time out from friends is a good thing when the friendship gets to be more of a burden than a pleasure and close friends will understand..
Thanks 2I
BB_snickers: shut up.
Oh the drudgery of sameness. Here's a tip. The next time they complain as before just say "shut up."
On the surface you might think this an insane plan, but the reason they continue to be the same is because you also continue to be the same. They won't shut up of course but the spark of indignity will light new fires under your own bored butt, thus relieving you of that 'same old, same old' feeling. And frankly I think they'd be none the wiser.
Hiding is no resolution to trivial redundancy, unless of course you have pie or something you don't want to share with those heathen mongrels of perpetual complaints.
Good advice ... This ^^^ is why friends choose me.
Oh the drudgery of sameness. Here's a tip. The next time they complain as before just say "shut up."
On the surface you might think this an insane plan, but the reason they continue to be the same is because you also continue to be the same. They won't shut up of course but the spark of indignity will light new fires under your own bored butt, thus relieving you of that 'same old, same old' feeling. And frankly I think they'd be none the wiser.
Hiding is no resolution to trivial redundancy, unless of course you have pie or something you don't want to share with those heathen mongrels of perpetual complaints.
Good advice ... This ^^^ is why friends choose me.
Are you sure you have friends BB?
(look closer)
Not all my friends complain.
Even in another circle of friends with positive and interesting people I am getting bored but not because of them, it is me and it is not about hiding. It is about searching for another dimension in life.
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Squeezie1958: Most of my friends I grew up with... but then there are those that are close friends... some I went to school with and others I worked with. I have a few bikers that are my closest friends.. I have male and female friends.. Some you just click with. I can depend on them all and they can depend on me.We all have our moments that we need our space.. I have a couple I see everyday and some that I talk to everyday.. But we all have families . And yes there are days that we all just have quiet from one another.. But picking friends you have to be able to click somehow.. Something in common something you like about them.. But honesty and being loyal is very important...
Hi Squeezie
How have you chosen your friends and/or how have they chosen you as a friend?
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I tend to choose and consider friends based on their overall attitude and disposition. Friends, similar to finding love, takes time also.
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lifeisadream:
Are you sure you have friends BB?
(look closer)
Not all my friends complain.
Even in another circle of friends with positive and interesting people I am getting bored but not because of them, it is me and it is not about hiding. It is about searching for another dimension in life.
Are you sure you have friends BB?
(look closer)
Not all my friends complain.
Even in another circle of friends with positive and interesting people I am getting bored but not because of them, it is me and it is not about hiding. It is about searching for another dimension in life.
An appreciation for having none, means that nothing is missing.
I thought I was talking about you, not your friends?
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Oh! I forgot to add this. I would like to think that I'm chosen as a friend based on my personal and natural characteristic.
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male:
I have no feminine male friends for sure.
too much gossip and they create bad blood amongst others and then cry wolf like the desperate/needy little drama queens they are...avoiding these is always a priority,but there everywhere nowadays.
female:
I just like a woman to be feminine(no man traits)...by that i mean she dosn't view men as her competition...males compete against each-other which is difficult enough,we don't want fighting on two fronts.
I have no feminine male friends for sure.
too much gossip and they create bad blood amongst others and then cry wolf like the desperate/needy little drama queens they are...avoiding these is always a priority,but there everywhere nowadays.
female:
I just like a woman to be feminine(no man traits)...by that i mean she dosn't view men as her competition...males compete against each-other which is difficult enough,we don't want fighting on two fronts.
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2intrigued: Hiya Life Friends...for me, more like aquaintances rather than any close friendships as I tend to be a loner for the most part...not a social butterfly. Some friends come and go in our lives and others stick with you through thick and thin. For some strange reason, it is people in need that gravitate towards me for advice or a shoulder when they need it and I give it willingly. Maybe that's my lot in life and I'm willing to accept that but there are times when we need to know when to hold them and know when to fold them.
A time out from friends is a good thing when the friendship gets to be more of a burden than a pleasure and close friends will understand..
A time out from friends is a good thing when the friendship gets to be more of a burden than a pleasure and close friends will understand..
Some of my friends from around the world are true friends who stay in touch and we meet up occasionally. I have made a friend or friends in every country I have visited except Finland , they don't seem to like foreiners here, from anywhere.
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A combination of proximity and utility. Most of my friends are my friends because they're close to hand and useful to know. Which is more like networking.
But a core of them mean more than that. And they're either ones I've grown up with that have had my back without expecting anything in return, or those few people that you just seem to really click with. These people mean so much to me. And I never get bored of them, I just sometimes become more interested in something else.
But a core of them mean more than that. And they're either ones I've grown up with that have had my back without expecting anything in return, or those few people that you just seem to really click with. These people mean so much to me. And I never get bored of them, I just sometimes become more interested in something else.
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Life gave me the best of friends so i can't complain about it. Now, on CS it's all folks, i'm glad i've got kind, funny, intelligent penpals, friends, who don't judge me but just take me as i am and always give me always a reason to smile ..... adore yall !!!! 
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I'm too much of a loner to have a large circle of friends. One or two with whom I can share my life is more than enough for me. Acquaintances, however, I have many, and all receive my support and assistance when and if they need it.
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lovemedofr: Life gave me the best of friends so i can't complain about it. Now, on CS it's all folks, i'm glad i've got kind, funny, intelligent penpals, friends, who don't judge me but just take me as i am and always give me always a reason to smile ..... adore yall !!!!
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Lately I have been unenthusiastic to attend some friend’s gatherings and I have prefered to spend some time reading or just doing some cleaning at my place (having moved recently).
I just missed a friend’s 25th wedding anniversary with a big party. I just got tired of those social parties and I am getting bored of our more private gatherings, eventhough I value my friends.
How do you select your friends and how do they select you?
Do you ever get tired/bored of their company?
Do you feel that you need something else to fill yourself with?
Perhaps it is time for me to retire to a cave!