How do you select your friends and how do they choose you? ( Archived) (72)

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Hi LadyDiz

Quality over quantity.









Dandelion

You brought up several interesting points.

About one of them: when I said to some friends that I was going to ask for divorce, some ladies from a small circle of friends told me that since I was going to get divorced I could not fit in that group, then I ask them why -just to know- they said, because you are going to be single and our husbands might be interested in you





Brainless ladies, I never came back to that group.

And yes friends are special.

My friends enemies are my best friends.

Conclusion.....I have no friends and I'm fine with that

The ones I had took a big bite out of my back

I've learned from my mistakes when it comes to friends

I don't need them.

It is my belief that if you have one friend in your lifetime....a friend that you can trust.....a friend that counts on you as well as you count on him/her, then you have a pot of gold

I stopped looking at the end of the rainbow for THAT pot of gold.

Hi lifeisadream
I am close to my family and I always can rely on them. Maybe that takes away the "pressure" of having friends to spend a lot of time with (I do that with my family when I'm home).

I have 1 close friend I know I can rely on and confide in, a few more I like to keep in contact with and a good few acquaintances. It is important for me to be there for them and catch up regularly, but no one of us "expects" someone to spend time with each other (we all have busy life's). When I'm travelling I'm often not around for a while and that is accepted.

I have distanced myself from friends of the more outside circle because of complaining, begrudging etc. and I think this is part of the parcel.

I do like and need my solitude at times but do keep in contact by phone and of cause if I notice someone wants company, I'll be out to meet them.

My friends are important to me, maybe more so because my family is far away.

My two best friends died a few years back. One from cancer and one from pneumonia she was only 34. I thought I would never be able to replace them. We were unconditional friends. We did not feel the need to always be around one another yet when we were it was like we had never been apart. And they were the ones I would of trusted the most in life. And neither one ever failed me with that trust. Last year I realized by surprised I had three more friends. And I love them bunches. One lives in a town a little ways from me. But use to live here. She and her children and grandchildren come and visit and they have a way of making me feel so important when they do. What I look for are things that we have in common. Personality traits. I run from women who are clingy, always have drama in their lives, gossipy, always angry...I like women who don't use people, who are usually upbeat and pleasant. Ones that allow me privacy and do not strangle me with an overbearing personality. When I look at the three friends who have snuck up on me in life they are very much like me. It is not their intent to go thru life spreading gloom and doom but to take each moment and cherish it. Not saying our lives are perfect and we don't have problems. We do. It is how we handle them. Oh if you read this and are not confused then bless you. I am trying to explain something that is difficult for me to put into words. I have many acquaintances. I am quite stand offish and usually will not allow people in my space. It took quite a bit for me to get this way. And I do enjoy being this way. I like my solitude. I have found the human race has become quite barbarian. And it breaks my heart with all of my being seeing what we have become. I remember one time telling my husband I wish I did not feel with my heart others pains then life would hurt less. He put his arms around me and told me then I would not be who I am. He was my best friend of all It is ok to want your own space life and don't feel like you have to attend every event the others do. Friends will understand and respect your right to live your life as you find makes you happy. Ok enough babble out of me.