Men intinidated by independent women? ( Archived) (116)

PrettyPrescious: Men from our generation can be intimidated by the women being the breadwinner. Move on if he isn't good with it.
The younger men, however, are more open to this. More and more of the younger women these days, are the breadwinners in the relationship. African American women are far more likely to be college educated than the men, too, now.

LiLee: I've heard men value themselves as a provider and a lover.

perhaps having a women who can provide more than them in a relationship can cause them some concerns.

I'm sure most women like myself couldn't care less who earns more money. Love for us is not about money.

joey987:
Is the person that makes the most in a relationship boss.

KNenagh: Hi Lori, I don't know if this is only about income or if sometimes the fact that a woman is independent and looks at a partnership as a team with equal players (at least myself) and this is something some men simply don't want.

I went on (very few) dates with someone a while ago, who had zero ambition and couldn't understand why I wasn't available for dirty texts all day or why I study as well as work.

It's about compatibility as with everything else, there are men and women who appreciate someone who simply works as hard as they to make a living. I don't bother if someone has a completely different attitude to me in regards as work ethics or to see me simply as a partner.

chris27292729: I take it,that you ain't non of my description,therefore we should announce,our engagement.

Dragos1: I know for myself in past transactions gone by did not think to ask about this. Yes, I would probably without doubt make some conversation and possibly say "So, what do you do?". But that is really as far as I would go. I think much of this is somewhat personal...I would not ask to see someones tax returns or something to that effect. I may have been somewhat negligent though as I have found that after the fact many times things were not as I thought they were. I have always believed in a relationship that was fairly like a "team", working towards whatever our goals collectively are...If they are not at least somewhat in the same direction I don't think "Long Term" would be so practical....And I have always (even if starting off slow) intended or hoped for a long term relation. So maybe I have not been in this situation. But in speculation I believe I would not be intimidated by a relation with a woman that had a larger income. I think that in either way that if one of the people tried to control or use their "status" to put the other down it would be unfortunate. Very good question though! It gave me a chance to look at things differently (outside my experience). Good topic thread.
-Dragos