Relationship patterns (54)
NidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia38 Threads 3 Polls 1,430 Postschris27292729: You start feeling ITCHY!!!
.. omg, there are two or three things I could say in response to that, 
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postneoludite: The idea behind the 7 year itch is that is when a child is old enough to be on its own (get out the coco puffs, turn on the video game, etc.)
This frees the parents to seek romance elsewhere.
The theory heavily favors the male.
This frees the parents to seek romance elsewhere.
The theory heavily favors the male.
Aha. Thanks. So this is really a theory?
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RDM59: Don't worry about it. With the onslaught of ageing dementia can come to the rescue as repetition is no longer an issue.
P.S. another plus is that it can save you money as you can both watch the same movie over and over again.
P.S. another plus is that it can save you money as you can both watch the same movie over and over again.
So you're saying that, as the brain atrophies, we make the same mistakes twice or thrice but won't remember them?
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Obstinance_Works: The downfall of marriage is one driving factor in serial monogamy. But the overarching psychologies are unwarranted ego and aspiration, disposable attitudes and the dearth of that old-fashioned 'make do and mend' spirit.
My sticking point is the first year mark. Since my first proper girlfriend at aged 16, 3 out of the 4 relationships I've ended either just before or just after a year.
My sticking point is the first year mark. Since my first proper girlfriend at aged 16, 3 out of the 4 relationships I've ended either just before or just after a year.
I agree with that first sentence there, but only partially with the reasons. I think the primary reason is that nobody in their right mind wants to experience a divorce twice, even if it's amicable. The process is very painful.
Have you any idea why your relationships ended at around the 1 year mark?
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rebel2: On average I last about a month. After that I run out of excuses so the relationship ends.
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JeanKimberley: I have friendships that last 20 years, and at one time or anther they were strong physical relationships.
.... now marriage on the other hand were lucky to last 2 years, I am generally not a big fan of large organized and morally restricted institutions.
I am a big fan of love, respect, loyalty, fun, joy, play and delight with another person.
I don't generalize anymore to say that this "relationship" is xy or z, because it might be all or none of it at any given time in life.
I guess because the marriage was when I was eighteen, who at eighteen knows another person? It is just luck and opportunity in finding a mate, when I didn't deliberately go out with a checklist in finding the "right man". And I would suspect that we all have friends in our life that are not really good for us, and naturally I married him.
.... now marriage on the other hand were lucky to last 2 years, I am generally not a big fan of large organized and morally restricted institutions.
I am a big fan of love, respect, loyalty, fun, joy, play and delight with another person.
I don't generalize anymore to say that this "relationship" is xy or z, because it might be all or none of it at any given time in life.
I guess because the marriage was when I was eighteen, who at eighteen knows another person? It is just luck and opportunity in finding a mate, when I didn't deliberately go out with a checklist in finding the "right man". And I would suspect that we all have friends in our life that are not really good for us, and naturally I married him.
Yes, of course all relationships are not equal, esp. as one gets older but I guess we are ourselves all the time (our core personality), so we always bring that constant to the equation. I do agree that relationships are a little of x,y or z at any given point. If I read you correctly, you're saying that in your case, there is no pattern. Interesting.
I threw the checklist out the window twice, as opportunity presented itself, but I learned that that doesn't work at all for me
(Where's Dr. Phil?) You're really lucky to be able to remain solid friends with your exes. Is that because you have common ground? or a common history?
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The only pattern I can discern is that my relationships seem to be lasting less and less time. At this rate they will be over before they even begin. 
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I find that most men start going "psycho" around or in the 3rd month. I guess they call it the Rubber Band effect.
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The only patterns I hope to see are the ones that I use when I am sewing.
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Nidifugous: Yes, I totally agree. You have to go with what works and what you feel comfortable with. In my younger days, before I married, there was this unwritten rule that if a guy wasn't prepared to make a commitment in 6 months, you move on. In hindsight, that rule of thumb wasn't so bad
6 month?
With everyone on the past, we got it together and that was it, commitment and all. I wouldn't hang around for 6 month if someone would have to think about if he wanted to be in a relationship or not.
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LadyDiz2: The only pattern I can discern is that my relationships seem to be lasting less and less time. At this rate they will be over before they even begin.
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M1ck1e: I find that most men start going "psycho" around or in the 3rd month. I guess they call it the Rubber Band effect.
Interesting. Rubber band as in them hankering after their exes?
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KNenagh: 6 month?
With everyone on the past, we got it together and that was it, commitment and all. I wouldn't hang around for 6 month if someone would have to think about if he wanted to be in a relationship or not.
With everyone on the past, we got it together and that was it, commitment and all. I wouldn't hang around for 6 month if someone would have to think about if he wanted to be in a relationship or not.
I'm talking about way back in the days when we were around 20. Back then you were "going together", but if at least a marriage proposal wasn't coming forth, it was time to say adios.
Maybe we moved a bit slower in the south
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Nidifugous: That's funny! Is it your choice to end things?
So far it has been. Perhaps I'm outgrowing my tendency for self-delusion?
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Ccincy: The only patterns I hope to see are the ones that I use when I am sewing.
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Nidifugous: I'm talking about way back in the days when we were around 20. Back then you were "going together", but if at least a marriage proposal wasn't coming forth, it was time to say adios.
Maybe we moved a bit slower in the south
Maybe we moved a bit slower in the south
I just never looked for a marriage proposal.
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KNenagh: I just never looked for a marriage proposal. (I was going out with my first boyfriend for 6,5 years, so might have missed all of that craic).
Holy Cow!
We had one couple in school that ended up marrying, but apart from them, I don't know anybody who stuck with the first girl-or boyfriend that long. Bless your heart Well, looking back, it was a lot of fun to date and go out and do a lot of stupid stuff. The objective wasn't to get married as much as to get the proposal.
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Nidifugous: Yes, I totally agree. You have to go with what works and what you feel comfortable with. In my younger days, before I married, there was this unwritten rule that if a guy wasn't prepared to make a commitment in 6 months, you move on. In hindsight, that rule of thumb wasn't so bad
6 months? Sure you wouldnt know someone at that stage, when I was younger it was around the 2 year mark that you started looking at a future together.
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Nidifugous: Holy Cow! We had one couple in school that ended up marrying, but apart from them, I don't know anybody who stuck with the first girl-or boyfriend that long. Bless your heart
Well, looking back, it was a lot of fun to date and go out and do a lot of stupid stuff. The objective wasn't to get married as much as to get the proposal. (I didn't say we were smart)
Well, looking back, it was a lot of fun to date and go out and do a lot of stupid stuff. The objective wasn't to get married as much as to get the proposal. (I didn't say we were smart)
Nearly everyone I know was with someone for years and a good few did get married.
We did have a lot of fun together and I'm glad it went that way - I don't find "dating" that much fun tbh.
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Glatlol: 6 months? Sure you wouldnt know someone at that stage, when I was younger it was around the 2 year mark that you started looking at a future together.
I honestly have no clue why 6 months was the rule of thumb back then. I'm talking about when we were in our early 20s. In those days, if you didn't have a husband by 25 or 26, you were almost considered a spinster and the pickings were getting slim.
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