romygreece: It's sad when you realize you aren't as important to someone as you thought you were.
It is just the ‘normal’ way people are; we are all no deposit, no return disposable ‘items’ and everyone acts accordingly so why be sad; why be surprised as all relationships have a ‘shelf life’. Modern life; so expectant...
romygreece: It's sad when you realize you aren't as important to someone as you thought you were.
It is sad.
Until you realize all you've lost is the belief you were valued. Once free of the delusion we can look at the relationship comparatively with relationships wherein we were valued(as we are), see the glaring disparities between the two and find comfort in having escaped settling for someone who doesn't see our value.
romygreece: It's sad when you realize you aren't as important to someone as you thought you were.
Whether you think you are important to someone, or think you are not, it's still to do with your interpretation which is unlikely to be identical to how they feel.
What you choose to think will be serving a purpose for you, whatever you choose to think.
Until you understand that it's not just about the other person pulling your strings, but an interaction, you are undervaluing both you and them.
Until you realize all you've lost is the belief you were valued. Once free of the delusion we can look at the relationship comparatively with relationships wherein we were valued(as we are), see the glaring disparities between the two and find comfort in having escaped settling for someone who doesn't see our value.
That's an honest way of dealing with it. There is another way... one can simply assume that they are the most important and ought be the most important. When it appears the other has a different opinion about how important, one is, you can simply conclude that they have mental illness and don't know what they want, really.
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I wonder if I'm being a bit spectrummy about this. Y'know, like, "Where's the quote?! This isn't the way it's supposed to be!"
I understand what you say when things are not like they've been and I'll keep your feelings in mind..