Matchmakers? (51)
KNenagh: Meeting someone through friends or a group of like-minded people worked best for me.
I never let the digital age change my socialising habits. If people let it affect their habits, they have to recognise it and change their behaviour if they find themselves that it affects them negatively. There is still tons of stuff that can be done apart from sitting in front of a computer.
Every time someone got the idea that a guy would be a good match for me, I RAN into the other direction hearing of their proposal, so not sure a matchmaker would work for me, but it might suit others.
I never let the digital age change my socialising habits. If people let it affect their habits, they have to recognise it and change their behaviour if they find themselves that it affects them negatively. There is still tons of stuff that can be done apart from sitting in front of a computer.
Every time someone got the idea that a guy would be a good match for me, I RAN into the other direction hearing of their proposal, so not sure a matchmaker would work for me, but it might suit others.
This is how it used to be for me...meeting through friends/groups. Now all my friends are paired off. So I have been solely relying on the internet.
You are funny, running from any set ups........
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warmy67: Statistics lie.
Statistics don't inform you whether people are trapped in unhappy marriages but can't escape as they are totally dependent on being accepted in their community and the consequences for opting out of their marriage might be catastrophic for them and their family.
Sometimes the reasons those marriages stay together is fear and lack of freedom to split. Even in the west people stay in unhappy marriages due to financial reasons so you can bet people stay in unhappy marriages in poorer regions for financial reasons and the social and other consequences that would arise if they split up.
Sometimes when an arranged marriage takes place the bride can be an extremely young child.
Sometimes the parents of the bride get some reward from the parents of the groom and it is akin to a sale of a female child or woman.
There's lies, damn lies and then there's statistics.
Statistics don't inform you whether people are trapped in unhappy marriages but can't escape as they are totally dependent on being accepted in their community and the consequences for opting out of their marriage might be catastrophic for them and their family.
Sometimes the reasons those marriages stay together is fear and lack of freedom to split. Even in the west people stay in unhappy marriages due to financial reasons so you can bet people stay in unhappy marriages in poorer regions for financial reasons and the social and other consequences that would arise if they split up.
Sometimes when an arranged marriage takes place the bride can be an extremely young child.
Sometimes the parents of the bride get some reward from the parents of the groom and it is akin to a sale of a female child or woman.
There's lies, damn lies and then there's statistics.
I once heard a lie, er, statistic, that with married people, about 25% are happy, around half are so-so or content, and the other 25% are miserable. Which doesn't sound good, with only 25% really being happy! I can see why the divorce rate is around 50%, b/c 25% are miserable and the others are just ho-hum.
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Who was it that said, "there are lies, damn lies and statistics" ?
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I just googled it, I'd make it a quiz but how do I know y'all didn't google it! 
Correction also, itwas damned not damn.
Correction also, itwas damned not damn.
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online today!minnieme2: Who was it that said, "there are lies, damn lies and statistics" ?
that was me......when i first met ,my ex mother inlaw.....
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minnieme2: Who was it that said, "there are lies, damn lies and statistics" ?
Am I a lie, a damn lie, or a statistic?
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The old method of parents arranging marriages was quite good.
The survival rate of these marriages was as good as normal rates, if not better.
The trouble is we no longer have extended families as we used to, The new society has systematically crushed the family unit. Maybe we should go back to the old ways.
The survival rate of these marriages was as good as normal rates, if not better.
The trouble is we no longer have extended families as we used to, The new society has systematically crushed the family unit. Maybe we should go back to the old ways.
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PrettyPrescious: Am I a lie, a damn lie, or a statistic?
That's for you to decide!
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tomcatwarne: The old method of parents arranging marriages was quite good.
The survival rate of these marriages was as good as normal rates, if not better.
The trouble is we no longer have extended families as we used to, The new society has systematically crushed the family unit. Maybe we should go back to the old ways.
The survival rate of these marriages was as good as normal rates, if not better.
The trouble is we no longer have extended families as we used to, The new society has systematically crushed the family unit. Maybe we should go back to the old ways.
Oh no way! ick! let some have the whole town/village bringing up their children if they want to but if I had to do it over again, I'd still do it myself and only avail of occasional baby sitting when I needed to go out.
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truheart1941: that was me......when i first met ,my ex mother inlaw.....
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minnieme2: Oh no way! ick! let some have the whole town/village bringing up their children if they want to but if I had to do it over again, I'd still do it myself and only avail of occasional baby sitting when I needed to go out.
I'm sorry you had no family to help you, or no husband.
How on earth did you get the money to bring your child (children ) up.
How much easier it would have been with family or a husband/partner to help.
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PrettyPrescious: This is how it used to be for me...meeting through friends/groups. Now all my friends are paired off. So I have been solely relying on the internet.
You are funny, running from any set ups........ In a way I don't blame you...my mothers ideas of who I should date never worked!
You are funny, running from any set ups........ In a way I don't blame you...my mothers ideas of who I should date never worked!
Most of my friends (apart from my best friend who doesn't go out a lot) are paired up as well, I also moved to a different area a few years ago.
I made an effort to get to know new people, joined a club, met some nice females and males there to expand my social circle and even made new friends - met himself that way.
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tomcatwarne: I'm sorry you had no family to help you, or no husband.
How on earth did you get the money to bring your child (children ) up.
How much easier it would have been with family or a husband/partner to help.
How on earth did you get the money to bring your child (children ) up.
How much easier it would have been with family or a husband/partner to help.
What's to be sorry about! I'm not! I enjoyed doing it myself and everything turned out just fine!
I did just as well as someone with two parents and better than some!
Financially, it's simple. A little four letter word called 'work'.
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minnieme2: What's to be sorry about! I'm not! I enjoyed doing it myself and everything turned out just fine!
I did just as well as someone with two parents and better than some!
Financially, it's simple. A little four letter word called 'work'.
I did just as well as someone with two parents and better than some!
Financially, it's simple. A little four letter word called 'work'.
Ok good for you, but my comments on families I stick by JKO. good luck.
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tomcatwarne: Ok good for you, but my comments on families I stick by JKO. good luck.
That should be JMO
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tomcatwarne: That should be JMO
Exactly, your opinion. Doesn't mean you are right and I am wrong. If you want your kids to be brought up the old fashioned 'raised by the village' way, good luck to you. It may work for you. Today we have a choice and we are entitled to it.
What's JMO? shouldn't it be IMO (In My Opinion). What's the J for?
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minnieme2: Exactly, your opinion. Doesn't mean you are right and I am wrong. If you want your kids to be brought up the old fashioned 'raised by the village' way, good luck to you. It may work for you. Today we have a choice and we are entitled to it.
What's JMO? shouldn't it be IMO (In My Opinion). What's the J for?
What's JMO? shouldn't it be IMO (In My Opinion). What's the J for?
JMO ias generally recognised as Just MY Opinion, thanks for your permission to bring my kids up as I choose. I didn't scrounge on the government like some.
I am not the only one who believes in a traditional up bringing for their children.
Don't try to demonise the traditional mums and dads for being just that.
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tomcatwarne: JMO ias generally recognised as Just MY Opinion, thanks for your permission to bring my kids up as I choose. I didn't scrounge on the government like some.
I am not the only one who believes in a traditional up bringing for their children.
Don't try to demonise the traditional mums and dads for being just that.
I am not the only one who believes in a traditional up bringing for their children.
Don't try to demonise the traditional mums and dads for being just that.
I'm not demonising anyone. Each to their own! If anything, it seems to be the other way round to me! :)
Do whatever you want, I don't care an iota!
A lot of single parents do NOT 'scrounge off the government' as you put it and if they do get assistance from the government, it's because they're entitled to it.
Sure there are some who take advantage but don't 'demonise' them all!
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PrettyPrescious: Dating is becoming harder and harder as time goes on. It is worse for the older ones, but even the young are saying that it is difficult to find singles and to connect now. We don't socialize as much as we used to, with the digital age here. I'm wondering if matchmaking services should be revived. And I'm not talking about the rip off agencies that are currently out there, either, but services offered for a small, fair fee. And what about people/relatives who would just do this for others. Example, in some cultures a parent or relative would introduce a suitor to their daughter, in their home for tea and chat. The daughter would decide after a meeting or 3 whether or not she would agree to a marriage. Even though even those marriages don't always last, it is still a way to meet others. Thoughts?
Matchmaking benefits only where there's a sense of community or fellow-feeling and people can vouch for others. It does nothing for a swarm.
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Einstein was right....now that we are living in the "wonderful" digital age, we are having troubles with socializing.
The video showed our gadgets getting in the way of meeting other singles....and also getting in the way of an established couple interacting! So it is a problem either way. I'm just waiting for some kind of "social interacting" type groups to start showing up......never mind matchmakers...