Matchmakers? (51)
PrettyPresciousRenton, Washington USA8 Threads 2 Polls 355 PostsDating is becoming harder and harder as time goes on. It is worse for the older ones, but even the young are saying that it is difficult to find singles and to connect now. We don't socialize as much as we used to, with the digital age here. I'm wondering if matchmaking services should be revived. And I'm not talking about the rip off agencies that are currently out there, either, but services offered for a small, fair fee. And what about people/relatives who would just do this for others. Example, in some cultures a parent or relative would introduce a suitor to their daughter, in their home for tea and chat. The daughter would decide after a meeting or 3 whether or not she would agree to a marriage. Even though even those marriages don't always last, it is still a way to meet others. Thoughts?
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PrettyPrescious: Dating is becoming harder and harder as time goes on. It is worse for the older ones, but even the young are saying that it is difficult to find singles and to connect now. We don't socialize as much as we used to, with the digital age here. I'm wondering if matchmaking services should be revived. And I'm not talking about the rip off agencies that are currently out there, either, but services offered for a small, fair fee. And what about people/relatives who would just do this for others. Example, in some cultures a parent or relative would introduce a suitor to their daughter, in their home for tea and chat. The daughter would decide after a meeting or 3 whether or not she would agree to a marriage. Even though even those marriages don't always last, it is still a way to meet others. Thoughts?
Some dating sites from where i am are charging their services, it's quite a big business this thing now, so many ads ON TV prime times,, and so many promotional offers ,,,
,,, some are in a reasonable price, some are expensive, but most of the success is "LOCAL" since they really does a serious matchmaking,, they arrange parties/encounters,,and they select serious profiles for serious matchmaking,, DEPENDING ON HOW MUCH YOU PAY, there are rates to one's purse ,, So those who really wanted to have an encounter might as well sollicit those sites for a success, Mods and Administrators are full time workers.------ This thread is Archived ------
So the "matchmaking" business remains digital....Somehow, some way we do need some kind of help. Here in the US, especially in my city in particular, men are not approaching women! Seattle is known for "the freeze", meaning the people here are not socially approachable. Not mean, just shy and reserved and in some kind of a slump here. So transplants tend to have friends from other areas of the country or where they had come from.
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Statistically, arranged marriages stay together more often than not in cultures that rely on matchmakers. Very easy to see a reason why the longevity: Not only is the couple bound to each-other, but the couple has a sense of responsibility to the community and the families in relation thereof. And while single men and women may not be able to notice what is good for them, due to unbridled emotions, a matchmaker uses common sense and can foresee the potential favorable outcome for the couple and the couple's eventual children, but more importantly, this thread allows me to post this video again! Great song and performance. 
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Cuddling, I never knew of the stats that arranged marriages are more likely to last....I did read that they are less common now, as couples want to find their own. But alot of people worldwide are complaining that finding a partner is harder now. People are pickier and more sophisticated, and they are more likely to split up when things get hard, ending up single again. Alot of people are giving up on dating now, too.
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CuddlingSoul: Statistically, arranged marriages stay together more often than not in cultures that rely on matchmakers. Very easy to see a reason why the longevity: Not only is the couple bound to each-other, but the couple has a sense of responsibility to the community and the families in relation thereof. And while single men and women may not be able to notice what is good for them, due to unbridled emotions, a matchmaker uses common sense and can foresee the potential favorable outcome for the couple and the couple's eventual children, but more importantly, this thread allows me to post this video again! Great song and performance.
Hi Cudd,,i love the show, we can clearly distinquish two differrent generation/viewpoint, the older one want the comfort/security basing maybe on their experience,, the younger one crave the liberty of having what they want,surprising/exciting and uncertain life,without match,, let it be for them,, this reminds me of a documentary film about small communities living closely within, wherein the "master" decides what is good for the community, "for him" first of all,,, he got the best ones for him,, the rest to the young, which becomes rare because he allows himself to have more than one or two ,,, it's a culture ,,, good or not good,, well, up to them ,, they performed it good ,,,
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Lolette: Hi Cudd,,i love the show, we can clearly distinquish two differrent generation/viewpoint, the older one want the comfort/security basing maybe on their experience,, the younger one crave the liberty of having what they want,surprising/exciting and uncertain life,without match,, let it be for them,, this reminds me of a documentary film about small communities living closely within, wherein the "master" decides what is good for the community, "for him" first of all,,, he got the best ones for him,, the rest to the young, which becomes rare because he allows himself to have more than one or two ,,, it's a culture ,,, good or not good,, well, up to them ,, they performed it good ,,,
But now that we are free to choose someone....it is getting harder and harder for some to..........find! Maybe easier in the past with the matchmakers?
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CuddlingSoul: Statistically, arranged marriages stay together more often than not in cultures that rely on matchmakers. Very easy to see a reason why the longevity: Not only is the couple bound to each-other, but the couple has a sense of responsibility to the community and the families in relation thereof. And while single men and women may not be able to notice what is good for them, due to unbridled emotions, a matchmaker uses common sense and can foresee the potential favorable outcome for the couple and the couple's eventual children, but more importantly, this thread allows me to post this video again! Great song and performance.
So sad but true. Is there any matchmakers here? I want to register myself.
seriously 
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CuddlingSoul: Statistically, arranged marriages stay together more often than not in cultures that rely on matchmakers. Very easy to see a reason why the longevity: Not only is the couple bound to each-other, but the couple has a sense of responsibility to the community and the families in relation thereof. And while single men and women may not be able to notice what is good for them, due to unbridled emotions, a matchmaker uses common sense and can foresee the potential favorable outcome for the couple and the couple's eventual children, but more importantly, this thread allows me to post this video again! Great song and performance.
No thanks! Sounds very dreary. Not for me. All duty and no fun or happiness. I'll pass on that! Rather be on my own, in fact quite happy to remain so!
Ah I haven't seen Fiddler on the Roof in years. That was a cute song.
If I meet someone I want to see more of, fair enough, but pfft, couldn't care less if I don't.
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Howdy Miss PrettyPrescious, Miss Lolette and Miss sunshine. Arranged marriages is the only way for marriages to happen in small communities and tribes and the youthful folks don't no any other way or they prefer to not abandon tradition, I.E.: The tribes in the rainforests in south America... In both of my marriages, we met as two ships passing in the night and left to our own devises in forming our relationship. Two ships ended-up crashing. Most anything good, takes time and a particular way of doing it. A long period of dating is still recommended, regardless of all of the modern ways to conduct our lives these day, old fashion never goes out of style when it comes to wholesomeness. ------ This thread is Archived ------
minnieme2: No thanks! Sounds very dreary. Not for me. All duty and no fun or happiness. I'll pass on that! Rather be on my own, in fact quite happy to remain so!
Ah I haven't seen Fiddler on the Roof in years. That was a cute song.
If I meet someone I want to see more of, fair enough, but pfft, couldn't care less if I don't.
Ah I haven't seen Fiddler on the Roof in years. That was a cute song.
If I meet someone I want to see more of, fair enough, but pfft, couldn't care less if I don't.
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CuddlingSoul: Howdy Miss minnieme ! God help us all !
Onwards and upwards (with a little diversion of downwards and sideways here and there!!) ------ This thread is Archived ------
CuddlingSoul: Howdy Miss PrettyPrescious, Miss Lolette and Miss sunshine. Arranged marriages is the only way for marriages to happen in small communities and tribes and the youthful folks don't no any other way or they prefer to not abandon tradition, I.E.: The tribes in the rainforests in south America... In both of my marriages, we met as two ships passing in the night and left to our own devises in forming our relationship. Two ships ended-up crashing. Most anything good, takes time and a particular way of doing it. A long period of dating is still recommended, regardless of all of the modern ways to conduct our lives these day, old fashion never goes out of style when it comes to wholesomeness.
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minnieme2: Onwards and upwards (with a little diversion of downwards and sideways here and there!!)
Yes Miss, let us keep that path narrow. 
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CuddlingSoul: Howdy Miss PrettyPrescious, Miss Lolette and Miss sunshine. Arranged marriages is the only way for marriages to happen in small communities and tribes and the youthful folks don't no any other way or they prefer to not abandon tradition, I.E.: The tribes in the rainforests in south America... In both of my marriages, we met as two ships passing in the night and left to our own devises in forming our relationship. Two ships ended-up crashing. Most anything good, takes time and a particular way of doing it. A long period of dating is still recommended, regardless of all of the modern ways to conduct our lives these day, old fashion never goes out of style when it comes to wholesomeness.
Yes! a long period of dating.......is actually the best part!
That is.......IF a person can get a date
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PrettyPrescious: Yes! A long period of dating.......is actually the best part! That is.......IF a person can get a date.
Maybe we are not the only small group of people on a social site: just sitting around and watching the forums and blogs. I think of all of the other dozens of social sites with people just cyberly bumping into each other and all of the young adults deeply involved with video gaming. Good Lord, I'm really beginning to believe that technology is replacing face-to-face human interaction. Albert Einstein predicted that this could happen to us. 
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PrettyPrescious: Dating is becoming harder and harder as time goes on. It is worse for the older ones, but even the young are saying that it is difficult to find singles and to connect now. We don't socialize as much as we used to, with the digital age here. I'm wondering if matchmaking services should be revived. And I'm not talking about the rip off agencies that are currently out there, either, but services offered for a small, fair fee. And what about people/relatives who would just do this for others. Example, in some cultures a parent or relative would introduce a suitor to their daughter, in their home for tea and chat. The daughter would decide after a meeting or 3 whether or not she would agree to a marriage. Even though even those marriages don't always last, it is still a way to meet others. Thoughts?
Meeting someone through friends or a group of like-minded people worked best for me.
I never let the digital age change my socialising habits. If people let it affect their habits, they have to recognise it and change their behaviour if they find themselves that it affects them negatively. There is still tons of stuff that can be done apart from sitting in front of a computer.
Every time someone got the idea that a guy would be a good match for me, I RAN into the other direction hearing of their proposal, so not sure a matchmaker would work for me, but it might suit others.
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CuddlingSoul: Statistically, arranged marriages stay together more often than not in cultures that rely on matchmakers. Very easy to see a reason why the longevity: Not only is the couple bound to each-other, but the couple has a sense of responsibility to the community and the families in relation thereof. And while single men and women may not be able to notice what is good for them, due to unbridled emotions, a matchmaker uses common sense and can foresee the potential favorable outcome for the couple and the couple's eventual children, but more importantly, this thread allows me to post this video again! Great song and performance.
Statistics lie.
Statistics don't inform you whether people are trapped in unhappy marriages but can't escape as they are totally dependent on being accepted in their community and the consequences for opting out of their marriage might be catastrophic for them and their family.
Sometimes the reasons those marriages stay together is fear and lack of freedom to split. Even in the west people stay in unhappy marriages due to financial reasons so you can bet people stay in unhappy marriages in poorer regions for financial reasons and the social and other consequences that would arise if they split up.
Sometimes when an arranged marriage takes place the bride can be an extremely young child.
Sometimes the parents of the bride get some reward from the parents of the groom and it is akin to a sale of a female child or woman.
There's lies, damn lies and then there's statistics.
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PrettyPrescious: Dating is becoming harder and harder as time goes on. It is worse for the older ones, but even the young are saying that it is difficult to find singles and to connect now. We don't socialize as much as we used to, with the digital age here. I'm wondering if matchmaking services should be revived. And I'm not talking about the rip off agencies that are currently out there, either, but services offered for a small, fair fee. And what about people/relatives who would just do this for others. Example, in some cultures a parent or relative would introduce a suitor to their daughter, in their home for tea and chat. The daughter would decide after a meeting or 3 whether or not she would agree to a marriage. Even though even those marriages don't always last, it is still a way to meet others. Thoughts?
I just turned 60, so my quest is over, now I'm just living as it is
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